Post by Grape on Nov 1, 2008 13:09:35 GMT -5
High School PUAs Forum
Newsletter 2008, November 1
highschoolpuas.proboards.com/
Local News/Updates - Dream
We had quite a lot going on since the last meeting, the largest event being Project 1. This was a trial of all sorts of different aspects of inner game. Each day the staff members took the given topic and practiced it unquestioningly for a day. The project was a success, improving our staff members and allowing others to see their thoughts. The project can be found here - highschoolpuas.proboards83.com/index.cgi?board=project&action=display&thread=229
The Forum gained many new sub-forums, among which was the magic board and the academics area. Those already seem to have traffic, check them out. On the lighter/more sinister side (we're not sure
) the forums was bombed with users on October 27, at one point 101 guests were online, that was a bit weird, we'll keep you guys posted. Nine thinks it's a hack by a computer nerd who's girlfriend someone stole. So watch out for who you anger guys
THE FUTURE - We may have a webinar on the October Man Sequence, hosted by Grape and JSquared. It will cover the subject heavily on what exactly it's about, clearing up questions about the OMS. Also, plans are in the making for a potential book. Anyone a part of HSPF is welcome to participate in contributing to the book. We hope to have it finished by the end of Spring of 2009 and have it published soon.
Articles: Social Circle Game
AMOG/Alpha - Chrispb7
Becoming the Alpha Male Of the Group (AMOG)
In high school, it is EXTREMELY important to BE an Alpha Male if you want to have great success with the "female species." Girls are attracted to Alpha Males. Since pretty much everyone knows each other in high school, it is all the more important to have an Alpha Male reputation. If you aren’t already Alpha, YOU need to do something about it. YOU have got to go to work on yourself and change yourself for the better.
So what is an Alpha Male exactly? The basic definition is the dominant male of the group, which is where the acronym AMOG comes from (Alpha Male of the group). There are two general types of Alpha Males. One is the jerk. He is the guy who is addicted to drugs, abuses women, and beats the sh*t out of other guys. I AM NOT ENCOURAGING THIS ONE! Instead, I think we should all strive to be the “True Alpha Male.” He is the guy who is a respectable leader among men, protects his loved ones, he’s a planet to which women orbit, and a whole lot of other great things. So how do you become him?
First, I want to list the True Alpha Male's main personality traits. This will give you an idea of what you should be striving for:
1. Dominant. He is seen as an authority over other guys and has no fear of them. He is not always the physically dominant man, although he often is. Today's Alpha Male knows that fighting is not a necessary strategy to survive. Instead, he uses his wit, his brain over his brawn. He displays his dominance through non-verbal communication. He has a strong belief that he is dominant and others are pulled into his reality. He protects his loved ones with his dominance, and is willing to fight if necessary.
2. Leader. When there are tragedies that happen, people begin to look around to see who his going to take charge and lead them out of the whole mess. The Alpha Male does this. He accepts the reality in front of him and MAKES THINGS HAPPEN. Even in social situations, you will see him making the decisions. He is very decisive because he knows what he wants. He instructs, never asks. When he is out with his social group, he usually has control of the interaction, people are reacting to HIM. When he is out with a woman, he shows leadership by being decisive. He knows what the plan is and does not hesitate EVER.
3. Playful. The Alpha Male is playful, but in a cocky way. He has a sense of humor, but never self depricates himself. He is the guy that is having the best time and is basically, the source of good emotions in the environment he is in. He doesn't take things to seriously and knows how to have fun, but he does it from a position of high value where he is border-line arrogant.
4. Confident. The Alpha Male believes in himself. I know this sounds "cheesy" because it is an over used statement but it is true. He has a strong belief that all women want him and his belief is broadcasted through his style of communication.
5. Independent. He puts himself in his life first and doesn't live his life according to what other people want. He does his own thing often and even encourages independence in others, including the women in his life. He is short on time and does not waste his valuable time waiting around for others.
6. Indifferent. He is unselfconscious and doesn't give a F*ck what other people think about him. He has realized what other people think is none of his business and lets people have their thoughts without it affecting him. He doesn't seek approval from anyone, in fact, many people seek his. He is unimpressed by most things. If something with a woman doesn't work out, he is unaffected. He is the master of his own emotions and uses them to his advantage. He doesn't apologize for who he is. Thus, you will never catch an Alpha Male qualifying himself.
Now that we have covered the BASIC personality of the True Alpha Male, let's look at how he presents himself and how he communicates non-verbally. This is the type of body language you need to adapt.
So we have covered the Alpha's basic personality and body language, so let's look at some techniques you can apply within your social circle so you can begin to be seen as an Alpha Male.
Now all these AMOG tactics are great, but the personality traits are the things you really want to strive to possess. If you have those traits, a lot of these techniques come very naturally. I want you to work on acquiring strong beliefs and Alpha personality traits.
Now go use this stuff and watch your status and success rise.
-Chrispb7
How To Apply Social Value - Grape
Social Value plays a BIG role in the art of pick up.
It shows that you're a cool person who has a successful social life.
How can we apply the concept of social value to our lives and pick up?
Well first of all, we don't have to focus on getting it so much once we've obtained some of it and we can now focus on using it on getting girls, establishing relationships, etc.
At school, I did an experiment where I would act the same but change up my social value every period. It made a HUGE difference.
During one period, I would be my friendly self but not mention anything that would indicate I'm a man of high value.
Another period, I just mentioned ONE story about how I'm trying to cut down on phone time because my grades are falling.
Talking on the phone indicates I'm a social person.
This ONE story subconsciously communicated to my peers that I had social value.
This ONE story changed their actions towards me.
Value may not seem important at times, but without it, one has a risk of being used, manipulated, ignored, and look down on.
So now we use this value to generate attraction.
In general, girls are much more instinctive and emotional than guys and they're more likely to follow the code of nature rather than the code of logic.
They'll naturally be attracted to the guys with more value and popularity.
A relationship between two opposites sexes occur in the following: Attraction, then Comfort, then Seduction.
Once you've gained this value, you don't have to worry about attracting her. You can automatically talk friendly with her and found out more things about her, which you can later accept as attractive and qualify her as being a girl worthy of your presence.
The way I view social dynamics, it all depends on these things:
- Value
- Personality
- Validation
Now you only have to focus on 2 of 3 things: personality and validation.
Personality is strongly connected to value. The right personality will receive the right value.
So don't be the shy guy anymore, it won't get you anywhere.
You MUST be willing to change.
You will need to:
1. Set a goal
2. Take action
3. Assess yourself
4. Be flexible with your options
Be willing to change your personality and be the guy who's:
- Playful
- Confident
- Energetic
- Ambitious
- Intelligent
- Caring
- Leading
Stay away from:
- Neediness
- Desperation
- Violence
- Anger
- Immaturity
- Shyness
Validation is given and taken by people and you also give and take value from people.
Letting someone know exactly what you think about them isn't as effective as making them constantly wonder about how you view them.
So, we use techniques such as push-pull and bait-reel-hook-release.
It's all about making someone think you see them as one thing, and then confusing them by saying something the opposite.
EX: Hey you're cute, but you're too quiet.
The "you're cute" part makes them feel as if you validate them and you like them, as where the "but you're too quiet" part makes them feel as if they've lost the validation you gave them half a second before.
Validation feels good!! No one wants to be hated.
Once you give them a taste of your validation, take it away from them and make them reach after it.
This is how you keep relationships up and alive! Otherwise it gets boring and turns into a pile of moosh.
<33 Grape
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The HSPF Staff
Newsletter 2008, November 1
highschoolpuas.proboards.com/
Local News/Updates - Dream
We had quite a lot going on since the last meeting, the largest event being Project 1. This was a trial of all sorts of different aspects of inner game. Each day the staff members took the given topic and practiced it unquestioningly for a day. The project was a success, improving our staff members and allowing others to see their thoughts. The project can be found here - highschoolpuas.proboards83.com/index.cgi?board=project&action=display&thread=229
The Forum gained many new sub-forums, among which was the magic board and the academics area. Those already seem to have traffic, check them out. On the lighter/more sinister side (we're not sure
) the forums was bombed with users on October 27, at one point 101 guests were online, that was a bit weird, we'll keep you guys posted. Nine thinks it's a hack by a computer nerd who's girlfriend someone stole. So watch out for who you anger guys THE FUTURE - We may have a webinar on the October Man Sequence, hosted by Grape and JSquared. It will cover the subject heavily on what exactly it's about, clearing up questions about the OMS. Also, plans are in the making for a potential book. Anyone a part of HSPF is welcome to participate in contributing to the book. We hope to have it finished by the end of Spring of 2009 and have it published soon.
Articles: Social Circle Game
AMOG/Alpha - Chrispb7
Becoming the Alpha Male Of the Group (AMOG)
In high school, it is EXTREMELY important to BE an Alpha Male if you want to have great success with the "female species." Girls are attracted to Alpha Males. Since pretty much everyone knows each other in high school, it is all the more important to have an Alpha Male reputation. If you aren’t already Alpha, YOU need to do something about it. YOU have got to go to work on yourself and change yourself for the better.
So what is an Alpha Male exactly? The basic definition is the dominant male of the group, which is where the acronym AMOG comes from (Alpha Male of the group). There are two general types of Alpha Males. One is the jerk. He is the guy who is addicted to drugs, abuses women, and beats the sh*t out of other guys. I AM NOT ENCOURAGING THIS ONE! Instead, I think we should all strive to be the “True Alpha Male.” He is the guy who is a respectable leader among men, protects his loved ones, he’s a planet to which women orbit, and a whole lot of other great things. So how do you become him?
First, I want to list the True Alpha Male's main personality traits. This will give you an idea of what you should be striving for:
1. Dominant. He is seen as an authority over other guys and has no fear of them. He is not always the physically dominant man, although he often is. Today's Alpha Male knows that fighting is not a necessary strategy to survive. Instead, he uses his wit, his brain over his brawn. He displays his dominance through non-verbal communication. He has a strong belief that he is dominant and others are pulled into his reality. He protects his loved ones with his dominance, and is willing to fight if necessary.
2. Leader. When there are tragedies that happen, people begin to look around to see who his going to take charge and lead them out of the whole mess. The Alpha Male does this. He accepts the reality in front of him and MAKES THINGS HAPPEN. Even in social situations, you will see him making the decisions. He is very decisive because he knows what he wants. He instructs, never asks. When he is out with his social group, he usually has control of the interaction, people are reacting to HIM. When he is out with a woman, he shows leadership by being decisive. He knows what the plan is and does not hesitate EVER.
3. Playful. The Alpha Male is playful, but in a cocky way. He has a sense of humor, but never self depricates himself. He is the guy that is having the best time and is basically, the source of good emotions in the environment he is in. He doesn't take things to seriously and knows how to have fun, but he does it from a position of high value where he is border-line arrogant.
4. Confident. The Alpha Male believes in himself. I know this sounds "cheesy" because it is an over used statement but it is true. He has a strong belief that all women want him and his belief is broadcasted through his style of communication.
5. Independent. He puts himself in his life first and doesn't live his life according to what other people want. He does his own thing often and even encourages independence in others, including the women in his life. He is short on time and does not waste his valuable time waiting around for others.
6. Indifferent. He is unselfconscious and doesn't give a F*ck what other people think about him. He has realized what other people think is none of his business and lets people have their thoughts without it affecting him. He doesn't seek approval from anyone, in fact, many people seek his. He is unimpressed by most things. If something with a woman doesn't work out, he is unaffected. He is the master of his own emotions and uses them to his advantage. He doesn't apologize for who he is. Thus, you will never catch an Alpha Male qualifying himself.
Now that we have covered the BASIC personality of the True Alpha Male, let's look at how he presents himself and how he communicates non-verbally. This is the type of body language you need to adapt.
- Taking up space. When sitting somewhere, don't be afraid to spread your legs and put your arms out resting on something. The Alpha Male is not afraid to infringe on other people's personal space because he is dominant. Likewise, when standing, make sure your legs are roughly shoulder width apart, never close together.
- Posture. Make sure your are always standing up straight with your head up rested on your spine, chest lifted, and shoulders back and relaxed. The key to your posture is to relax. Practice a dominant walk and a dominant seated position. Also when walking, walk like you have a purpose and you are going somewhere. This doesn't mean walk fast, in fact you should take long slow steps. Make your walk look powerful and ambitious. Rememer also, to always lean back. NEVER, i repeat NEVER lean forward, even if you can't hear someone. Make them lean in to you.
- Slow, coordinated movements and gestures. People will sense your power when you illustrate a point with a slow, powerful gesture. This communicates ultimate comfort in your own skin, decisiveness, self control, and more.
- Always have strong, powerful eye contact. Never be the first to look away submissively. This may take practice.
- Voice. The Alpha Male's voice is clear and confident. He speaks slowly and deeply and his words almost carry "power" when he speaks because of the bass in his voice. He will also use varying voice tones, which keeps things exciting.
- Always be the one having the best time. You be the life of the party. Smile and make it a focus to just have a kick ass time. Joke around with friends and be the anchor of the conversation. When you are having an awesome time, from a position of high value of course, it will automatically put out somewhere around 80% of the correct, magnetic body language. The opposite of this is being boring. Never be looking around, YOU are the party. The Alpha Male always has a very strong, powerful presence no matter where he goes.
So we have covered the Alpha's basic personality and body language, so let's look at some techniques you can apply within your social circle so you can begin to be seen as an Alpha Male.
- You need to be the anchor of the conversation. Be the one LEADING the interaction and get everyone's attention on you. How? Well if you aren't accustomed to this, it might take some getting used to. You can start out by using canned material such as opinion openers but stories work best. Keep working on this untill you don't have to used canned material anymore.
- Be the fun, adventurous guy. You can make anything fun by just using your ATTITUDE. Be the guy who makes fun plans and always be the life of the party. Attitude is key here.
- NEVER qualify yourself. Qualifying is basically explaining yourself in order to gain approval. Remember, you dont care. This is where slapstick humor comes in handy. If people try to qualify you, usu slapstick humor such as if they ask what car you drive: "I drive a push scooter, you can't have a ride though, it only seats one." The key here is to keep your frame of non-approval seeking and the Alpha Male. If some guy is condescending you about, maybe, your peacocking gear, reply with "hey man, I am just trying to impress you. You X guys are sooo cool. I don't know how else to do it," said in a sarcastic way. This get's them feeling self-conscious but only use it if they are trying to qualify you.
- Be the "judge" of the interaction. If you are interacting with a group and you are competing with other Alphas, a good thing to do is say to the girls "this guys is cool, I decided I like him." This puts you in the dominant role of the group without putting the other guy down. It is YOU qualifying THEM. A simple line to get them to qualify is "whoa you look tired today." Usually they will agree or qualify, which both work.
- Touch other guys and don't let other guys touch you without responding. Touching other guys is a sign of dominance. Even just putting your arm around another guy like he is your buddy is great. Pat guys on the back, put your arm around them, whatever. If another guy touches you, you need to respond to maintain dominance. I usually just say "whoa dude hands off I like the ladies. There is a gay club down the street for you," said in a joking way or it might piss him off. This communicates you are dominant by responding to other guys trying to touch you and could get him to qualify to you he isn't gay.
- Tooling other guys, in a playful way. I'm not saying to be a dick here just playful tooling like noogies, and fake high fives. Fake high fives probably work best. By the way, the guy LEADING the high five expresses leadership, so you be the guy to lead high fives (put your hand up for one first). If another guy already has his up for you to slap, put your hand low for him to follow or make a fist for him to punch. Lead.
Now all these AMOG tactics are great, but the personality traits are the things you really want to strive to possess. If you have those traits, a lot of these techniques come very naturally. I want you to work on acquiring strong beliefs and Alpha personality traits.
Now go use this stuff and watch your status and success rise.
-Chrispb7
How To Apply Social Value - Grape
Social Value plays a BIG role in the art of pick up.
It shows that you're a cool person who has a successful social life.
How can we apply the concept of social value to our lives and pick up?
Well first of all, we don't have to focus on getting it so much once we've obtained some of it and we can now focus on using it on getting girls, establishing relationships, etc.
At school, I did an experiment where I would act the same but change up my social value every period. It made a HUGE difference.
During one period, I would be my friendly self but not mention anything that would indicate I'm a man of high value.
Another period, I just mentioned ONE story about how I'm trying to cut down on phone time because my grades are falling.
Talking on the phone indicates I'm a social person.
This ONE story subconsciously communicated to my peers that I had social value.
This ONE story changed their actions towards me.
Value may not seem important at times, but without it, one has a risk of being used, manipulated, ignored, and look down on.
So now we use this value to generate attraction.
In general, girls are much more instinctive and emotional than guys and they're more likely to follow the code of nature rather than the code of logic.
They'll naturally be attracted to the guys with more value and popularity.
A relationship between two opposites sexes occur in the following: Attraction, then Comfort, then Seduction.
Once you've gained this value, you don't have to worry about attracting her. You can automatically talk friendly with her and found out more things about her, which you can later accept as attractive and qualify her as being a girl worthy of your presence.
The way I view social dynamics, it all depends on these things:
- Value
- Personality
- Validation
Now you only have to focus on 2 of 3 things: personality and validation.
Personality is strongly connected to value. The right personality will receive the right value.
So don't be the shy guy anymore, it won't get you anywhere.
You MUST be willing to change.
You will need to:
1. Set a goal
2. Take action
3. Assess yourself
4. Be flexible with your options
Be willing to change your personality and be the guy who's:
- Playful
- Confident
- Energetic
- Ambitious
- Intelligent
- Caring
- Leading
Stay away from:
- Neediness
- Desperation
- Violence
- Anger
- Immaturity
- Shyness
Validation is given and taken by people and you also give and take value from people.
Letting someone know exactly what you think about them isn't as effective as making them constantly wonder about how you view them.
So, we use techniques such as push-pull and bait-reel-hook-release.
It's all about making someone think you see them as one thing, and then confusing them by saying something the opposite.
EX: Hey you're cute, but you're too quiet.
The "you're cute" part makes them feel as if you validate them and you like them, as where the "but you're too quiet" part makes them feel as if they've lost the validation you gave them half a second before.
Validation feels good!! No one wants to be hated.
Once you give them a taste of your validation, take it away from them and make them reach after it.
This is how you keep relationships up and alive! Otherwise it gets boring and turns into a pile of moosh.
<33 Grape
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The HSPF Staff