This is a problem of mine..

[dayo]

I used to not be a social guy at all, and middle school was the worst time for me because I only had a couple friends and I had no experience with girls...but I came into high school with the attitude that I wasn't going to be so quiet anymore(I'm in 10th grade now) and my life is 50x better than it was before, I went from having little experience with girls to actually kissing a girl for the first time a couple weeks ago but im not trying to tell my life story just give you guys some background before i get to my problem...... I'm scared of being judged and it can stop me from having a good time in class sometimes. In class I might not say something because I'm just afraid of being judged(even though i know other people are too wrapped up in their own heads to care)and its irrational and i need to get over it because i would say its my #1 problem to bettering myself, and my question is..How?

[bagel]

Inner confidence man. You have to learn to not care. People judge, so what? I know what you mean by in class. I feel that way too sometimes, then I realize, I'm not saying anything stupid so why hesitate?

I actually got over this by going to the mall on weekends and talking to anyone and everyone. It builds inner confidence and that's the foundation for the rest of the game. You got a weak foundation, you'll be balancing on weak routines that aren't backed up and risk collapse.

[canadiankid]

Just like anything else in life, you have to want it bad enough to do it. Get up the courage to do it once and it'll be easier every time. Then you'll start to gain confidence. It's one of those things thats tough to start, easy to keep going.

[dayo]

I definately want it and I see what you mean, I just have to work at it and I can achieve. I was talking today in class a little more than usual and it actually did get easier as I went along.

[timmywimmy]

What i did and it got me over my fear of everything except AA is i just looked inside and found out who i want to be and told myself over and over again that what other people think doesnt change who I am. Having a shit ton of fun and honest to god, everyone loves me as a friend. Their is one crazy chick who doesnt like me everyone else thinks im awesome (not bragging just showing you what happens when you be yourself and have fun) now i just gotta work on going from friends to bf and bam ill be good

[america]

Dude... what are you afraid of? So what if certain people don't like you? Fuck the haters! It's amazing how quickly people forgive things too. Most of my friends I have today were people that practically hated me just 2 years ago. And I've seen the more you learn to stop caring, the more other people like you. There's this one ABSURDLY hot chick that I actually just made fun of for awhile to see if the whole neg thing actually worked (don't do this though. It's stupid. I knew I had no chance with her... at the time anyway.) that started to hate me. I stop the negging, and one week later, she pretty much wants to fuck me. This chick's a virgin too. This never would've happen if I gave a shit. So stop caring. It'll do you good.

P.S. I came from the same place you did. In middle school, I was 5'6" and 220 lbs. with literally two friends (one of them was a total douche). Talk about not having a strong base at all...

[dayo]

Im not saying i get scared all the time, i am pretty talkative now but its just mostly new classes with people where it happens, but I see what you guys are saying that it doesn't really matter what other people think as long as youre having fun. Seems i need to read up on inner game more. Is The Power of Now a good book to read about this?

[Contempt]

ok, this is how i view this shit. You know how your scared of being judged or what people think of you? 95% of people are the exact same way. When someone besides you fucks up, do you really care that much? when a kid makes a bad joke in class are you like "wow, i dont like that kid?" No, cause you too concerned with yourself, and so is everyone else. Everyone is so concerned with what people think about them in life to really care about what other people do. So put yourself out there in new situations cause no one is really actually going to call you out on anything.

[warkid10]

I had this same problem and Im still working on it. What i did was sit down and ask myself.....what is stopping me from getting what i want? And i answered and said I don't want people to judge me. Then i asked myself why would i let there opinion stop me from reaching my full potential? And i couldnt answer. That's when i realized that peoples judgement hold you back and you should just be yourself. Speak to your inner self. That's what i did. Goodluck.