Post by Grape on Dec 6, 2008 9:59:46 GMT -5
High School PUAs Forum
Newsletter 2008, December 6
highschoolpuas.proboards.com/
Local News/Updates
Hey everyone! Thank you for taking the time to look through the second newsletter of HSPF!
As you may have noticed, the forum has taken big steps to success and has been prospering very significantly!
To start, we have a list of the new updates and events:
- E-Book
- AIM Meeting December 13, 2008
- Past Meetings AIM Logs Posted
- Project #2
- Myspace Contest
- Chatroom TBA
- Forum Shut Downs Fixed
- New staff members Nine and Luc
- 133 Members, with 70 online within a 24-hour time period
- Reformatting of October Man Sequence Webinar
We as a forum are trying to write a book using the program Google Docs. It enables us to share word documents with dozens of other people and collaborate into one. There is a thread posted in the Forum Updates/News section so be sure to check it out! The project has been dead for a while, but bringing it back will lead us closer to finishing.
An AIM meeting is coming up next Saturday at 11am Eastern. Be sure to come and check it out! We will be discussing everything that needs to be talked about and take in suggestions to improve the forum. We've posted the logs from the past two conferences so if you want to read them, which are hysterical, goto the forum updates/news section!
We have a new HSPF project (#2) which will be released on January 10, 2009!
Grape is currently planning a new myspace contest which involves around 10 PUAs trying to pick up the same target. Be sure to sign up and participate!
Our current situation with a chat room is very abstract at the moment and we have almost no concrete idea of what we're going to do. An IRC room will be too much of a hassle and we are looking for an Adobe Flash running embeddable chat room. Stick around!
Also, our forum has been shutting a few members down this past month. We fixed it! If you thought you were kicked off or banned, don't worry about it anymore! Our old Java chatroom was bugging people's browser, causing it to shut down. It is now removed from the front page and can be accessed at the top navigation tool bar [Live Chat].
Welcome our new staff members Nine and Luc! Both members are honest and dedicated members of the forum and they will be able to help you with many aspects of pick up and high school.
We currently have 133 members signed up, with 35 members on daily and 35 guests online daily.
As many of you have noticed, we have been postponing our OMS webinar for the past 2 months.
It seems that Jon (jsquared11) is now inactive due to other plans in life! Grape will now host the webinar which will be right after the meeting next week! Stick around!
Thank you all and be sure to read this month's topic of choice: Keeping Tension w/Everyday Targets.
- The HSPF Staff
Articles: Keeping Tension w/Everyday Targets
Changing up your daily life [being unpredictable]
You are constantly being judged. It's the truth. You also judge others constantly. It's a tool of survival that has been implanted into our instincts and we learn that we must judge others to be able to know who is dangerous, who is valuable, and who is weak. But over the centuries, humans have learned the game of lying and deceiving. Many people fake themselves, create illusions, and manipulate others into thinking what they'd like to be thought as, and for the most part, they succeed in doing this act. Even we fake ourselves many times, sometimes we do it consciously and other times subconsciously. Let's go through what people look for when judging someone and how we can apply this concept to our own advantage.
People judge other people by their:
- Intelligence & Skills
- Personality & Identity
- Outer-Validation & Rapport
If one can make these three traits about him unpredictable, he will instill tension inside everyone around him.
How to be unpredictable:
Intelligence & Skills
Constantly change their focus on a good skill you possess and then a not so good skill. For example, I am an amazing guitarist but I can't sing so well. I tell a story about how I was on stage playing music and how I am glad I don't sing for my band anymore because I'm so bad at it. Also, demonstrate your intelligence through everyday role-playing. If you're working on a science project in class, help others succeed in their work while asking for help to better your own. It's a mutual benefit and you gain the respect and good judgment from others.
Personality & Identity
Once people have you figured out, they'll either stick around or avoid you when they can. Have them around for a long time wondering what kind of person you are by acting bi-polar with multiple ATTRACTIVE personalities. Be cute and adorable, and then act cocky and funny, and then like a father figure, and so forth. All these personalities are attractive to women, so if you keep switching between, they'll be amazed and want you around forever.
The one thing that's iffy about this tactic is the whole concept of incongruency. Once they've labeled you, it'll be hard to get away from that label. Guys will receive a "shit-test" from girls in which girls will ask indirectly "Did you really change or are you faking it for attention?"
If you pass, she will be attracted. If not, bye bye girl.
Outer-Validation & Rapport
This tactic will be explained in further detail by our lovely Andrew and our magnificent Luc.
People crave attention. Attention gives proof of value and importance in the world. Without importance, we are nothing. Once people receive your full validation, they'll seek for others' validation right away; after all, we only have so much time to live. We can constantly change our validation towards people and keep them around forever. This is a reason on why some relationships last forever. It's because playing a game of validation can last a lifetime. It instills emotion inside a person and the participant is never bored of it or satisfied with it. It's an unresolved mystery that is heavily manipulated by their own imaginations!! A wonderful tool us PUAs like to call Push-Pull.
Overall:
Don't focus on being one kind of person. Don't label yourself as being purely cute and funny. Be natural, and just go with the flow. You will realize you could be more than you ever thought possible. Be alpha, be receptive, be nice, be cocky, be ALPHA.
Tell it like it is. Don't hide your true feelings just so someone will think their pants make them look skinny. Everyone has their goods and bads. Every day you will notice a good thing and a bad thing about a person. Instead of flattering them with compliments or being a complete asshole, just tell them the things you like and don't like about them in a nice way.
Also, control your own life. As soon as people label you, you must know that you have to change just to have them not be able to label you for a long time. Don't let others limit you from the great aspirations you have in life. You control your own life, so go create yourself.
- Grape
Open Loops/Tension Loops [Swinggcat]
By: Luc -- xD
OPEN LOOPS--
Open Loops are a very common tool used by PUA's and naturals alike, most people don't even notice that they are using him half of the time, but when used effectively, they are a very powerful tool.
The idea of an open loop is saying an open ended statement, and not finishing your thought. This will create anticipation and a little insecurity. The target will want you to finish your thought no matter what happens. The beauty of an open loops is that you can be the most boring person in the world, yet depending on how you convey your idea (i.e. using an open loop) you can make yourself sound incredibly interesting. Here is an example of an open loop that I pulled off of the internet:
PUA: ¡°You know, this place reminds me of when I was in a german sex show with my girlfriend.¡±
HB: ¡°You were in a german sex show? What happened?¡±
PUA: ¡°Well I was in Germany because I love McDonalds ice cream, and I made it a personal goal to try McDonalds ice cream in every country in the world. Don¡¯t you just love ice cream?¡±
This is a really good example for a type of open loop. Here the PUA is hooking the HB in with some sex show about him and his girlfriend, but then when she asks about it he talks about something ridiculous and off topic. The whole time the HB will be wondering "But what about the sex show!!!" Through this she will get increasingly frustrated, but that's a good thing. When the HB starts to get frustrated, attraction will grow. NEVER, throughout the whole process, NEVER tell her about, well in this case, the sex show. She will always wonder about it, and no matter how much she asks you, never tell her about it.
Another way to run an Open Loop is to leave your target with an Open loop. This would sound something like....
PUA: Wow that reminds me of LA...
HB: when where you in LA?
PUA: Well I used to live there, until my -- oh sorry I have to go
HB: But what about LA?
PUA: If you're good I'll tell you next time xD
Now it doesn't have to be as abrupt of an exit as that (I made this up in like 2 seconds), but in this open loop you are leaving her with the same anticipation and insecurity as the last open loop, but you are also walking away from the target. This is very powerful because you leave her with an idea of you in her head that she has to complete for herself. She will be thinking of you (in this case in LA) until the next time you two see each other.
TENSION LOOPS --
So Tension Loops are a HUUUUUUUUUUUGE topic and quite frankly, there just isn't enough time or room or lack of ADD moments to explain them in detail, so I'm just going to give you a basic idea of what they are, and you can keep reading to learn them in detail by yourself.
What are they?
A tension loop is a type of open loop that creates unresolved tension inside a woman, builds it to a climax (no not that kind), then releases it only to re-spark it later.
Soap Opera writers use them all the time. They create tension through many many many episodes, then it comes to a climax, but then it is resolved later, and of course, further along it is sparked again.
Many people would ask why this works. It's a hard concept to grasp, but it sure does work. Look at the Soap Opera's. They have terrible acting and all they are is drama, yet people continuously watch them. To tell you the truth I hate Soap Opera's, and I'm sure most of you do too, but contrary to popular belief, people do watch them. Anyway...
Steps to Tension Loops:
So what many people have noticed in writers, directors, and even PUA's tension loops is that they all follow a similar structure.
1) They do or say something to create the tension loop
2) They keep going with what they said or did, making the ¡°tension loop¡± larger
3) They do something to close the tension loop; bring some release or resolution to it
4) They open it back up, but just a little bit.
A big part of this concept is the rising and falling of the tension. It's like the idea of a diet, after being on one for a long time, it feels really good to have that McDonald's; the building of the tension is the diet, and the release of the tension is the Big Mac, a big thing to remember is that you have to go back on that diet after your cheeseburger though. The diet in the first place would be a waste if you abandon it with that cheese burger wouldn't it?
There are many types of tension loops and i really don't have the patience to research them all, but push pull is the biggest and most commonly talked about of them all. This is perfect because Andrews article on push pull is right below.
Peace and love
--Luc
The Art of Push/Pull
---By Andrew =D
Think of a cat. When your playing with a cat, do you just hand the animal the toy and be done with it? Or do you keep the toy away from your pet and never let them get it?
Neither.
What you do is give the cat or the dog a taste, just a taste. You'll dangle it just out of their reach so they can maybe just get it for a second.
Do you see where I'm going with this?
Sorry for the animalistic metaphor, but shes the cat and your the toy. And this doesnt just work with your kitty, this drives women NUTS.
Push Pull is a tension loop that was originally coined by Swinggcat, but was the tool of naturals for as long as game has existed. Women who are good at men-game (gaming men, if you need it spelled out) do push/pull too, only most of them use it to tease, to have fun with, or generally to toy with us. Watch out!
What is Push/Pull?
Push/Pull is when you emotionally push a woman away from you, creating an emotional space. Once you've built this space apart, the push/pull artist will emotionally pull the target back in. This works both ways.
When you effectively push and pull enough in a certain amount of time and of varying degrees of intensity, it creates an emotional vaccuum which they then tend to fill with an inordinate amount of IOIs (Indicators Of Interest, for our first time readers).
Not only that but its fun. It ends up being playful and entertaining. When you get the mindset down, it ends up flowing back and forth, straight from YOU. No canned lines or routines or anything like that. When you see or hear flirting going on, unless it has a direct sexual vibe it almost always has aspects of push/pull in it. If you know how to flirt you know how to push pull and if you know how to effectively push and pull your a champ at flirting.
The Mindset.
While the art of Push/Pull is more along the lines of a "routine," formulating the push/pull is more along the lines of inner game. A mindset. This is because unlike The Mystery Method, or Cocky Funny, or Day Game, or any other method or set of routines. Theres no real rules or guidelines to follow. Just what to believe and tell yourself.
Important things to keep in mind:
-- You are the prize! She should be working to win YOUR affection, not the other way around. This is the most important rule here.
-- While talking or in interacting general, there should always be a push when there is a pull. Pulling when there is a push isnt always necesary.
-- Do not base your conversations around push pull! This should be something thrown in there now and again as a "conversation spice." You shouldnt be looking ahead to when your going to next add your push or pull. It should flow.
-- Dont be mean. If a push was too hard and she is LEGITIMATELY offended, dont take it back, but maybe lay off the pushs for a bit or add a nice little pull.
-- Be relaxed when your doing it. This isnt a high strung art here.
-- Have fun. Flirt.
Examples of Push/Pull
Chick: *Sarcasm*
PUA: Wow your pretty sarcastic! I bet some girls and guys see you as a mean bitch. ((push)) But I like your sarcasm. Im really sarcastic too. ((pull)) The problem is, we could never hang out together. ((push))
Chick: Why?!?!?
PUA: Because think about it. Your sarcastic, Im sarcastic, we'd basically spend all of our time being snarky and mean and sarcastic to people. The world would probably end with all the sarcasm you and I would throw out together. But hey we'd have a good time.
Lets see why this one works BESIDES the push and the pull. First of all, if she is really a sarcastic person a lot chances are people HAVE called her a bitch before. The fact that you know this means you can read between the lines and can read people. Girls love that. Also, while there is no pull at the end to really even it out, you present her with a fairly ridiculous situation that presents YOU and HER together subconsciencely lets her know that you were really joking.
This one's my favorite!
PUA: Wow you and I have a lot in common don't we?
Chick: yeah I guess so.
PUA: But this means we could never hang out =[ ((push, and making a sad face shows your "serious"))
Chick: What?? Why??
PUA: Think about it. Were so alike that wed end up in a relationship and married ((pull-ish)). But then we would end up fighting all the time and then resort to tons of HOT HOT makeup sex. After a month or so we would both be in psychiatric care due to emotional and physical stress and fatigue.
Ahahahah I love this. This whole story should be said with a sad face like your really upset. Sells it better. While there is no real pull after this, Its the same thing with the ridiculous story. Girls love that. It adds an aspect of romance to it. And if thats not enough, you throw a strong sexual vibe into it!
PUA: *takes girls hand*
Chick: *some non-verbal response*
PUA: Hey! no holding hands! *throws back hand*
This just confuses and plays with her. This just shows dominance in a relationship.
-- Push Pull can be as simple as pulling in for a hug or a walking hug, then pushing away.
Why it Works.
While the cat metaphor is simple and effective, women are more complicated then cats. Push/Pull plays on the old proverb "absence makes the heart grow fonder." While the cat just wants to play, Push/pull effectively changes a woman's attitude and perspective towards you.
Think of a man in a bar. This man sees two beautiful women, buys them drinks, compliments them TONS, and is generally being a nice sweet guy, trying to buy the girls attraction. Now this man has a girl who he is attracted to and wants to start something with. He listens to all her boy problems, buys he flowers and takes her to dinner all the time. Again, trying to buy her attraction and her affection.
Believe me I wish this would work. It would make our job a hell of a whole lot easier. But his man is pull pull PULLING the girls in. He's yanking them towards him when girls don't want to be yanked.
I dont think I have to explain to you the other end of the spectrum. Hes a dick, just being mean to girls all the time. He may have a few girlfriends here and there, but most girls tend to stay away from him.
WHY in the WORLD does the dick get girlfriends when the sweet, nice guy with deep pockets and an even deeper heart?
Simple. Girls love a challenge! It's interesting and fun for them. Its a tease.
Its no fun for them when you just lay yourself in front of them for them to do with you their every whim. Many girls want what they cant have.
Girl Feedback.
I'll leave you with this. A girl told me this while we were sitting in her car. Important to note, dont show all disinterest all the time!
"Andrew, this is really confusing and I dont know if its gonna make sense to you, but you do this weird reverse-psychology thing with me. The more disinterest you show me, the more I want you. I dont get it! It makes no sense!"
But it does! Its push/pull!
Have fun!
-Andrew
Newsletter 2008, December 6
highschoolpuas.proboards.com/
Local News/Updates
Hey everyone! Thank you for taking the time to look through the second newsletter of HSPF!
As you may have noticed, the forum has taken big steps to success and has been prospering very significantly!
To start, we have a list of the new updates and events:
- E-Book
- AIM Meeting December 13, 2008
- Past Meetings AIM Logs Posted
- Project #2
- Myspace Contest
- Chatroom TBA
- Forum Shut Downs Fixed
- New staff members Nine and Luc
- 133 Members, with 70 online within a 24-hour time period
- Reformatting of October Man Sequence Webinar
We as a forum are trying to write a book using the program Google Docs. It enables us to share word documents with dozens of other people and collaborate into one. There is a thread posted in the Forum Updates/News section so be sure to check it out! The project has been dead for a while, but bringing it back will lead us closer to finishing.
An AIM meeting is coming up next Saturday at 11am Eastern. Be sure to come and check it out! We will be discussing everything that needs to be talked about and take in suggestions to improve the forum. We've posted the logs from the past two conferences so if you want to read them, which are hysterical, goto the forum updates/news section!
We have a new HSPF project (#2) which will be released on January 10, 2009!
Grape is currently planning a new myspace contest which involves around 10 PUAs trying to pick up the same target. Be sure to sign up and participate!
Our current situation with a chat room is very abstract at the moment and we have almost no concrete idea of what we're going to do. An IRC room will be too much of a hassle and we are looking for an Adobe Flash running embeddable chat room. Stick around!
Also, our forum has been shutting a few members down this past month. We fixed it! If you thought you were kicked off or banned, don't worry about it anymore! Our old Java chatroom was bugging people's browser, causing it to shut down. It is now removed from the front page and can be accessed at the top navigation tool bar [Live Chat].
Welcome our new staff members Nine and Luc! Both members are honest and dedicated members of the forum and they will be able to help you with many aspects of pick up and high school.
We currently have 133 members signed up, with 35 members on daily and 35 guests online daily.
As many of you have noticed, we have been postponing our OMS webinar for the past 2 months.
It seems that Jon (jsquared11) is now inactive due to other plans in life! Grape will now host the webinar which will be right after the meeting next week! Stick around!
Thank you all and be sure to read this month's topic of choice: Keeping Tension w/Everyday Targets.
- The HSPF Staff
Articles: Keeping Tension w/Everyday Targets
Changing up your daily life [being unpredictable]
You are constantly being judged. It's the truth. You also judge others constantly. It's a tool of survival that has been implanted into our instincts and we learn that we must judge others to be able to know who is dangerous, who is valuable, and who is weak. But over the centuries, humans have learned the game of lying and deceiving. Many people fake themselves, create illusions, and manipulate others into thinking what they'd like to be thought as, and for the most part, they succeed in doing this act. Even we fake ourselves many times, sometimes we do it consciously and other times subconsciously. Let's go through what people look for when judging someone and how we can apply this concept to our own advantage.
People judge other people by their:
- Intelligence & Skills
- Personality & Identity
- Outer-Validation & Rapport
If one can make these three traits about him unpredictable, he will instill tension inside everyone around him.
How to be unpredictable:
Intelligence & Skills
Constantly change their focus on a good skill you possess and then a not so good skill. For example, I am an amazing guitarist but I can't sing so well. I tell a story about how I was on stage playing music and how I am glad I don't sing for my band anymore because I'm so bad at it. Also, demonstrate your intelligence through everyday role-playing. If you're working on a science project in class, help others succeed in their work while asking for help to better your own. It's a mutual benefit and you gain the respect and good judgment from others.
Personality & Identity
Once people have you figured out, they'll either stick around or avoid you when they can. Have them around for a long time wondering what kind of person you are by acting bi-polar with multiple ATTRACTIVE personalities. Be cute and adorable, and then act cocky and funny, and then like a father figure, and so forth. All these personalities are attractive to women, so if you keep switching between, they'll be amazed and want you around forever.
The one thing that's iffy about this tactic is the whole concept of incongruency. Once they've labeled you, it'll be hard to get away from that label. Guys will receive a "shit-test" from girls in which girls will ask indirectly "Did you really change or are you faking it for attention?"
If you pass, she will be attracted. If not, bye bye girl.
Outer-Validation & Rapport
This tactic will be explained in further detail by our lovely Andrew and our magnificent Luc.
People crave attention. Attention gives proof of value and importance in the world. Without importance, we are nothing. Once people receive your full validation, they'll seek for others' validation right away; after all, we only have so much time to live. We can constantly change our validation towards people and keep them around forever. This is a reason on why some relationships last forever. It's because playing a game of validation can last a lifetime. It instills emotion inside a person and the participant is never bored of it or satisfied with it. It's an unresolved mystery that is heavily manipulated by their own imaginations!! A wonderful tool us PUAs like to call Push-Pull.
Overall:
Don't focus on being one kind of person. Don't label yourself as being purely cute and funny. Be natural, and just go with the flow. You will realize you could be more than you ever thought possible. Be alpha, be receptive, be nice, be cocky, be ALPHA.
Tell it like it is. Don't hide your true feelings just so someone will think their pants make them look skinny. Everyone has their goods and bads. Every day you will notice a good thing and a bad thing about a person. Instead of flattering them with compliments or being a complete asshole, just tell them the things you like and don't like about them in a nice way.
Also, control your own life. As soon as people label you, you must know that you have to change just to have them not be able to label you for a long time. Don't let others limit you from the great aspirations you have in life. You control your own life, so go create yourself.
- Grape
Open Loops/Tension Loops [Swinggcat]
By: Luc -- xD
OPEN LOOPS--
Open Loops are a very common tool used by PUA's and naturals alike, most people don't even notice that they are using him half of the time, but when used effectively, they are a very powerful tool.
The idea of an open loop is saying an open ended statement, and not finishing your thought. This will create anticipation and a little insecurity. The target will want you to finish your thought no matter what happens. The beauty of an open loops is that you can be the most boring person in the world, yet depending on how you convey your idea (i.e. using an open loop) you can make yourself sound incredibly interesting. Here is an example of an open loop that I pulled off of the internet:
PUA: ¡°You know, this place reminds me of when I was in a german sex show with my girlfriend.¡±
HB: ¡°You were in a german sex show? What happened?¡±
PUA: ¡°Well I was in Germany because I love McDonalds ice cream, and I made it a personal goal to try McDonalds ice cream in every country in the world. Don¡¯t you just love ice cream?¡±
This is a really good example for a type of open loop. Here the PUA is hooking the HB in with some sex show about him and his girlfriend, but then when she asks about it he talks about something ridiculous and off topic. The whole time the HB will be wondering "But what about the sex show!!!" Through this she will get increasingly frustrated, but that's a good thing. When the HB starts to get frustrated, attraction will grow. NEVER, throughout the whole process, NEVER tell her about, well in this case, the sex show. She will always wonder about it, and no matter how much she asks you, never tell her about it.
Another way to run an Open Loop is to leave your target with an Open loop. This would sound something like....
PUA: Wow that reminds me of LA...
HB: when where you in LA?
PUA: Well I used to live there, until my -- oh sorry I have to go
HB: But what about LA?
PUA: If you're good I'll tell you next time xD
Now it doesn't have to be as abrupt of an exit as that (I made this up in like 2 seconds), but in this open loop you are leaving her with the same anticipation and insecurity as the last open loop, but you are also walking away from the target. This is very powerful because you leave her with an idea of you in her head that she has to complete for herself. She will be thinking of you (in this case in LA) until the next time you two see each other.
TENSION LOOPS --
So Tension Loops are a HUUUUUUUUUUUGE topic and quite frankly, there just isn't enough time or room or lack of ADD moments to explain them in detail, so I'm just going to give you a basic idea of what they are, and you can keep reading to learn them in detail by yourself.
What are they?
A tension loop is a type of open loop that creates unresolved tension inside a woman, builds it to a climax (no not that kind), then releases it only to re-spark it later.
Soap Opera writers use them all the time. They create tension through many many many episodes, then it comes to a climax, but then it is resolved later, and of course, further along it is sparked again.
Many people would ask why this works. It's a hard concept to grasp, but it sure does work. Look at the Soap Opera's. They have terrible acting and all they are is drama, yet people continuously watch them. To tell you the truth I hate Soap Opera's, and I'm sure most of you do too, but contrary to popular belief, people do watch them. Anyway...
Steps to Tension Loops:
So what many people have noticed in writers, directors, and even PUA's tension loops is that they all follow a similar structure.
1) They do or say something to create the tension loop
2) They keep going with what they said or did, making the ¡°tension loop¡± larger
3) They do something to close the tension loop; bring some release or resolution to it
4) They open it back up, but just a little bit.
A big part of this concept is the rising and falling of the tension. It's like the idea of a diet, after being on one for a long time, it feels really good to have that McDonald's; the building of the tension is the diet, and the release of the tension is the Big Mac, a big thing to remember is that you have to go back on that diet after your cheeseburger though. The diet in the first place would be a waste if you abandon it with that cheese burger wouldn't it?
There are many types of tension loops and i really don't have the patience to research them all, but push pull is the biggest and most commonly talked about of them all. This is perfect because Andrews article on push pull is right below.
Peace and love
--Luc
The Art of Push/Pull
---By Andrew =D
Think of a cat. When your playing with a cat, do you just hand the animal the toy and be done with it? Or do you keep the toy away from your pet and never let them get it?
Neither.
What you do is give the cat or the dog a taste, just a taste. You'll dangle it just out of their reach so they can maybe just get it for a second.
Do you see where I'm going with this?
Sorry for the animalistic metaphor, but shes the cat and your the toy. And this doesnt just work with your kitty, this drives women NUTS.
Push Pull is a tension loop that was originally coined by Swinggcat, but was the tool of naturals for as long as game has existed. Women who are good at men-game (gaming men, if you need it spelled out) do push/pull too, only most of them use it to tease, to have fun with, or generally to toy with us. Watch out!
What is Push/Pull?
Push/Pull is when you emotionally push a woman away from you, creating an emotional space. Once you've built this space apart, the push/pull artist will emotionally pull the target back in. This works both ways.
When you effectively push and pull enough in a certain amount of time and of varying degrees of intensity, it creates an emotional vaccuum which they then tend to fill with an inordinate amount of IOIs (Indicators Of Interest, for our first time readers).
Not only that but its fun. It ends up being playful and entertaining. When you get the mindset down, it ends up flowing back and forth, straight from YOU. No canned lines or routines or anything like that. When you see or hear flirting going on, unless it has a direct sexual vibe it almost always has aspects of push/pull in it. If you know how to flirt you know how to push pull and if you know how to effectively push and pull your a champ at flirting.
The Mindset.
While the art of Push/Pull is more along the lines of a "routine," formulating the push/pull is more along the lines of inner game. A mindset. This is because unlike The Mystery Method, or Cocky Funny, or Day Game, or any other method or set of routines. Theres no real rules or guidelines to follow. Just what to believe and tell yourself.
Important things to keep in mind:
-- You are the prize! She should be working to win YOUR affection, not the other way around. This is the most important rule here.
-- While talking or in interacting general, there should always be a push when there is a pull. Pulling when there is a push isnt always necesary.
-- Do not base your conversations around push pull! This should be something thrown in there now and again as a "conversation spice." You shouldnt be looking ahead to when your going to next add your push or pull. It should flow.
-- Dont be mean. If a push was too hard and she is LEGITIMATELY offended, dont take it back, but maybe lay off the pushs for a bit or add a nice little pull.
-- Be relaxed when your doing it. This isnt a high strung art here.
-- Have fun. Flirt.
Examples of Push/Pull
Chick: *Sarcasm*
PUA: Wow your pretty sarcastic! I bet some girls and guys see you as a mean bitch. ((push)) But I like your sarcasm. Im really sarcastic too. ((pull)) The problem is, we could never hang out together. ((push))
Chick: Why?!?!?
PUA: Because think about it. Your sarcastic, Im sarcastic, we'd basically spend all of our time being snarky and mean and sarcastic to people. The world would probably end with all the sarcasm you and I would throw out together. But hey we'd have a good time.
Lets see why this one works BESIDES the push and the pull. First of all, if she is really a sarcastic person a lot chances are people HAVE called her a bitch before. The fact that you know this means you can read between the lines and can read people. Girls love that. Also, while there is no pull at the end to really even it out, you present her with a fairly ridiculous situation that presents YOU and HER together subconsciencely lets her know that you were really joking.
This one's my favorite!
PUA: Wow you and I have a lot in common don't we?
Chick: yeah I guess so.
PUA: But this means we could never hang out =[ ((push, and making a sad face shows your "serious"))
Chick: What?? Why??
PUA: Think about it. Were so alike that wed end up in a relationship and married ((pull-ish)). But then we would end up fighting all the time and then resort to tons of HOT HOT makeup sex. After a month or so we would both be in psychiatric care due to emotional and physical stress and fatigue.
Ahahahah I love this. This whole story should be said with a sad face like your really upset. Sells it better. While there is no real pull after this, Its the same thing with the ridiculous story. Girls love that. It adds an aspect of romance to it. And if thats not enough, you throw a strong sexual vibe into it!
PUA: *takes girls hand*
Chick: *some non-verbal response*
PUA: Hey! no holding hands! *throws back hand*
This just confuses and plays with her. This just shows dominance in a relationship.
-- Push Pull can be as simple as pulling in for a hug or a walking hug, then pushing away.
Why it Works.
While the cat metaphor is simple and effective, women are more complicated then cats. Push/Pull plays on the old proverb "absence makes the heart grow fonder." While the cat just wants to play, Push/pull effectively changes a woman's attitude and perspective towards you.
Think of a man in a bar. This man sees two beautiful women, buys them drinks, compliments them TONS, and is generally being a nice sweet guy, trying to buy the girls attraction. Now this man has a girl who he is attracted to and wants to start something with. He listens to all her boy problems, buys he flowers and takes her to dinner all the time. Again, trying to buy her attraction and her affection.
Believe me I wish this would work. It would make our job a hell of a whole lot easier. But his man is pull pull PULLING the girls in. He's yanking them towards him when girls don't want to be yanked.
I dont think I have to explain to you the other end of the spectrum. Hes a dick, just being mean to girls all the time. He may have a few girlfriends here and there, but most girls tend to stay away from him.
WHY in the WORLD does the dick get girlfriends when the sweet, nice guy with deep pockets and an even deeper heart?
Simple. Girls love a challenge! It's interesting and fun for them. Its a tease.
Its no fun for them when you just lay yourself in front of them for them to do with you their every whim. Many girls want what they cant have.
Girl Feedback.
I'll leave you with this. A girl told me this while we were sitting in her car. Important to note, dont show all disinterest all the time!
"Andrew, this is really confusing and I dont know if its gonna make sense to you, but you do this weird reverse-psychology thing with me. The more disinterest you show me, the more I want you. I dont get it! It makes no sense!"
But it does! Its push/pull!
Have fun!
-Andrew
