america
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Post by america on Jun 1, 2012 22:06:06 GMT -5
I get invited to parties a lot, but it seems like I always end up just standing around and talking with my closer friends while we all watch other people do wild shenanigans and get the attention of everyone. Rarely do I game girls unless they start coming on to me first. Then all the girls start going over to the dumbasses that are making complete idiots of themselves. Do I have to get stupid drunk and act like a dumbass at a party to get women, or is there a smarter way of going about it?
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Post by slater on Jun 2, 2012 4:12:01 GMT -5
The place your coming from is wrong. The problem is you not macking girls. Your so lazy and stifled you wait for the girls to come to you .. And the underlying message of the post you made was basically - "all the girls go to the drunk guys, do I have to be drunk FOR THEM TO COME TO ME" .. Your so lazy you just wanna know what works so that the girls can still come to you, never you taking the responsibility and going to them, and still carrying the weight of the interaction. My wing always tells me that the girls that come to you are not your 10's cos no 10 will approach a guy, she might give signals, but she won't approach, now that already means the girls that are coming to you are par at best. No there is no "smarter/easier way" and no you do not have to get drunk. You made the wrong observation, you saw drunk guys get attention but you did not see why .. Cos they brought value by bringing party dick .. its a shit term let me try again .. They make people react, in the boxing ring they are the ones throwing the punches .. Another shit term here's a better one - They take initiative .. something your not doing. Here's a fact: girls are humans, humans are variables. No matter what you do, you will never be able to calibrate your approach the way you want to, you can literally have one opener the whole night and still get 10 different reactions. Now knowing that fact should give you the peace of mind. All you need to do is be there, in the girls face, taking initiative, maybe talking, maybe not, beating tests, moving forward - that is giving value, it may not seem valuable to you but that is where the infinite value and creativity lies, inside not outside. TL/DR - Yes get drunk, do dumb things and always be pulling.
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hoops45
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Post by hoops45 on Jun 2, 2012 13:29:37 GMT -5
It seems like you're too unwilling to get out of your comfort zone. You need to start socializing and having fun at parties even if you're a little nervous about putting yourself out there, because every time you don't you're reinforcing behavior that's not getting you what you want. You don't have to get drunk if you don't want to. It helps, but it is definitely not necessary. Just try to have fun and introduce yourself to everybody. Start conversations with a bunch of people. Once you put yourself out there and see that it's fun and easy you'll be the guy that all the girls are coming too and all the guys are watching.
Also remember, you don't have to be the center of attention to get pussy. It's fun and that's why you should do it. For yourself, not for anybody else.
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hoops45
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Post by hoops45 on Jun 2, 2012 13:33:25 GMT -5
Oh sorry, I guess i didn't really answer the real question.
Yes, there is a smarter way of going about getting women. Introduce yourself to girls and start gaming them.
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america
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Post by america on Jun 2, 2012 23:36:57 GMT -5
I think all I need right now is a good slap in the face to wake me up. Here I was thinking I was king PUA or something just because I finally got laid. I've realized I still have so much to learn from these recent party experiences. Just when I thought I was on top...
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Post by canadiankid on Jun 3, 2012 13:30:31 GMT -5
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america
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Post by america on Jun 3, 2012 23:32:08 GMT -5
+1.. that just made my day and was actually pretty damn useful advice. |
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Post by jae on Jun 4, 2012 1:54:13 GMT -5
Talk to everyone from the get go, guy or girl, don't be selective. If you see them talk to them. Don't bother with anything else and even if you're not the life of the party everyone will remember you as a social cool dude, no matter what you talk about, just because ther saw you talking to everyone else.
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