Highest level of friendzone achieved

[america]

Alright so one of my friends has seriously been wanting the same girl for at least the past 2 years. She's seriously not even that great, maybe a 6/7 if that. He's so obsessed with her though that he completely ignores the fact that other girls hit on him ALL THE TIME. I'm not gonna lie, he's way better looking than me (no homo), yet he has such a hard time with the ladies because of his obsession with this one girl. He's even told her he loves her and she's said the same thing back to him. They hang out more often than this girl does with her boyfriend. She's even kissed him and they've showered together before, yet she keeps getting back with her same POS boyfriend and leaving him in the dust. I've told him so many times that the relationship he has with her is destructive and isn't getting him anywhere, and he even agrees with me, yet he continues to hang out with her and pay no attention to any other girls. How do I get it through to him that he needs to avoid this relationship? He's one of my best friends and it's seriously painful to watch him do this to himself.

[b4l]

I am not going to pretend like I'm an expert on helping your friend overcome his oneitis but I would just be like "Look man you deserve a girl who is going to treat you right, and she is not. You're letting a lot of really awesome chicks go by because you're fixated on a girl who obviously wants to be with this other guy more than she wants to be with you. I know it sucks, but that's life. It's time to move on." and if it's really bad maybe you should have an intervention in which you make him cut her out of his life (my friends did that to me when I was in a similar situation, hated them for like a week then felt awesome). Really only you can know what is BEST for the situation but that's what I would do.

[Sloth]

stop giving him attention about it. Whenever he brings it up change the subject.

[america]

He's definitely not doing it for attention. He's not an attention whore by any means. He's actually extremely shy. Dropping it definitely isn't gonna work though. No one ever said anything about it until recently when I told him he really needs to break this horrible relationship off and then all of his friends agreed with me and kept trying to pressure him to do it. Peer pressure solves pretty much everything in high school.

[RMO]

make him make his intentions clear and if he doesnt ignore him / call him a pussy till he does.

[slater]

Haha nah, let him fail first, it won't make sense to him until he experiences it first hand, just chill and let him do what he must

[Fishie/Kingdom]

In times like this, I think Prodigy is EXTREMELY correct. +1 for huge balls.

[545]

My friend's going through something similar, but I really don't think I'm getting through to him. He basically said he had sex with a girl who told him she still loves him, but doesnt want a relationship. Next week she's already in one with someone else. I tried to tell him to just cut her off completely, and that she just toyed with/used him, but he says he's been in love with her for some 4 years. I dunno how to drive the point home that there are other fish in the sea. Nor if this is the right time to, as he's in pretty bad shape about it. Help?

[america]

That sounds identical to this kid, actually. Except he didn't have sex with her. She was high and wanted him to fuck her, but he refused because he said when he lost his virginity, he made a couple rules, and that was breaking one of them. She also had a boyfriend at the time. This whole situation is fucked up. She likes him more than her boyfriend. This chick's bad news, but there's nothing I can do to get that message through to him -.-

[Sketch]

America, it sounds like your friend's problem almost isn't due to his obsession with her, but because of the value he lacks. If she likes him more, she'd be with him. But she's not. So i'm assuming the guy she's with has a lot more value etc than your friend. If your friend started to show a bit more value, be more alpha etc, she might just go for him. Again..i'm assuming this might be the case. I could be totally wrong as i don't know enough about it all, but i see this sort of shit happening all the time.

-Sketch

[america]

You're right. Despite how ripped this kid is and how women always tell him he's good looking, he's completely beta. One of my friends actually started texting this hot chick from our school on his phone and got him in a pretty good position, and fortunately, she happened to be at the same venue we were at by coincidence. He completely blew it by being really shy and awkward. I think I made more progress with her than he did I wasn't even trying to take her from him either...

[infamous93]

Tell him to stop being a bitch. This kid needs to stand up for himself and stop taking this girls shit. She is using him as a fall back plan whenever she doesn't have first rate penis in her life she turns to the second rate penis (your buddy) to keep her entertained.

If he doesn't take a stand she will never respect him, tell him to man the fuck up.

You've probably told him all of this before, to be honest there is not much you can say or do to help him. The only time a person changes is when he takes initiative himself to change and improve. Old habits die hard, and this guy seems like a wuss who gets pushed around by women and it's not likely that he is going to get over that soon

[america]

Yeah you're right. As much as I hate to admit it. I can't blame him. I used to be the same way until I found this site. Fuck the friendzone.

[Victorious]

One thing I've learned is that girls say a lotta shit (I wanna be with you, I care, etc..) but if they don't act on it...doesn't mean shit in my eyes. Yeah he's gotten her to cheat on her boyfriend like you've said (which, to me is a red flag anyway) but she's obviously gonna stay with this kid, and why wouldn't she? She's having her cake and eating it too.

[america]

Yep. Just found out yesterday this chick's fucking pregnant now. Maybe this will finally break my friend's oneitis.