the big day

[jj1797]

Hey guys this is jj I've been here for about a year but I havent really posted anything so here we go. I've been skyping the girl I like for about a week and I'm getting the impression that she likes me back. She always smiles whenever I make a joke and ESPECIALLY whenever I mirror her. So I thought "hey, why am I hiding behind a camera?" So I invited her and a couple of other people to the movies this Thursday and I'm planning to ask her to be my girlfriend. Good and bad news is: I'm probably gonna be the only guy there, which is good because I get to fuck with bitches the entire night, but bad because I don't have a wingman. So here is what I want to ask:
1. How much should I flirt with her and mess with her before I ask her out? And
2. I know I need to ask her with confidence, so does that mean I can ask her anyway i want to?
Please reply and thanks so much
-JJ

[Fishie/Kingdom]

Infamous93 posted this link to this natural pua's blog. To sum it up. The guy talks about congruence with what you want and how you react according to how you're feeling. So instead of thinking about the situation, make yourself the innovated casanova. I've asked a couple girls to be my gf, this was before I joined hspuaforum and they were not pretty, but you can also get SiTuAtIoNaL AnXiEtY. If you're calm; act lighthearted and casually ask her... If you're pumped, just spontaneously pick her up, walk away from the other girls, and playfully ask her. Always in accordance with how you're feeling. Never let the ball drop, wtf why are you picking me up?!?!? (don't:idk, just want to ask you something) Do: why are you yelling, everyone is going to know I've got you, lol.
Sloth said this little saying in his wise words journal;
it takes 2 people to be awkward
If you're cool, and she is timid, then situation is NOT awkward
If you're intimidated and so is she, then situation IS awkward

So be true to yourself man. How generic right?
(I'm just starting out myself, however, I've read alot of good stuff on this forum.)

[jj1797]

Thanks man. also, this is just a subconflict, (nothing too overwhelming) but throughout the night, if her friends decide to be bitches and pull her away from me, how will I know when to make the move if she is somewhere else?

[Fishie/Kingdom]

erm.... haven't read anything like that yet...

But I always had a dream of becoming a standup comedian. I would approach groups and start telling jokes. Trust me, people have no attention span, especially when they're excited. I found you can engage ppl in 3 ways. Stir curiosity, cause excitement, make humor. Everything that is not that is "anticipation fluff" sooo, if people are getting board, excite them. I like tossing stuff, balled up napkins, etc.
Based on what I just said, I did read something...
"never let the attraction drop, (ex;I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend you by throwing something) instead, keep it rolling, (ex; psh, I didn't throw it )
shit, I forgot what I was going to say next... sorry... :/

[Sloth]

Fishie try not to answer if you don't actually know how. Particularly if you don't have the experience. Sorry.

JJ, your questions are all relative, you can answer them all by just being confident in the moment. If her friends pull her away it's because you've acted wrongly in the beginning, and regardless if they still pull away don't panic, just use the time you get with her to work things out and ask her out.

[Parkwhore]

I wouldnt ask her to be my gf already, go on more dates first. Keep an open mind. And youre going to be more comfortable if you bring a couple guy friends along.

[545]

A cool tip I read on another forum was that the girl's more likely to say yes when you're at a high point in a conversation, rather than after it's deflated into silence or after the movie or whatever.