Post by Chris on Sept 27, 2008 13:48:32 GMT -5
A long time ago, I watched David Deangelo's Deep Inner Game program. One of the main concepts about the seminar is how you use your anxiety. Now im sure ALL of you have had anxiety when it comes to girls. maybe it was approach anxiey, fear of rejection, whatever! The point is there are three things you can do with it.
One is being passive and letting your anxiety run you. This leads to things like addictions. Not good!
Two is doing something with it in a destructive way. Acting like a victim. Maybe you approached the girl but whined to yourself the whole way through wich is mentally destructive.
Three: This is what should always be done. It is "doing courage" with your anxiety. Do what is right regardless of your emotions or how it feels, and giving everything youve got, not whining about it but going in positivley.
If you do courage, you will get the same amount of confidence in return of how much courage you used. Lets say it took A LOT of courage to finally go in for that kiss, but you did it anyway. the next time you go for a kiss, you are gonna feel A LOT more confident about it.
So this is one great way to build confidence guys! The more courage you imploy, the more confidence you will recieve. I remember first getting into this stuff, i was freaked out to k-close. Now that i have used courage, it is nothing to me anymore its super easy. In fact, after my first k-close as a PUA, i felt like i could do it all the time.
One is being passive and letting your anxiety run you. This leads to things like addictions. Not good!
Two is doing something with it in a destructive way. Acting like a victim. Maybe you approached the girl but whined to yourself the whole way through wich is mentally destructive.
Three: This is what should always be done. It is "doing courage" with your anxiety. Do what is right regardless of your emotions or how it feels, and giving everything youve got, not whining about it but going in positivley.
If you do courage, you will get the same amount of confidence in return of how much courage you used. Lets say it took A LOT of courage to finally go in for that kiss, but you did it anyway. the next time you go for a kiss, you are gonna feel A LOT more confident about it.
So this is one great way to build confidence guys! The more courage you imploy, the more confidence you will recieve. I remember first getting into this stuff, i was freaked out to k-close. Now that i have used courage, it is nothing to me anymore its super easy. In fact, after my first k-close as a PUA, i felt like i could do it all the time.