Post by hexagon on Dec 10, 2008 15:19:58 GMT -5
Here's what I do to make an interesting and flowing conversation
The person you're talking to will be referred to as "Max" (as far as I know thats both a girl and a guys name
)
1.
Think of something to start the conversation with. This could be anything. And I'm sure, that ANYONE, at ANY GIVEN TIME (unless you're asleep or dead), have at least ONE THING thought/topic they can use as a conversation starter. Ex: "Whats your favourite pizza topping?" or "Why are busses always exactly 2 mins too late?"
2.
With questions like the pizza one above, you have started the conversation. When Max answers you have two options.
A: Be silent. (Only one valid reason to chose this one: "Max" answers with something psycho wierd shit, like "My favourite pizza topping is fried brain and cheese from aged goat semen". Then you might aswell run for your life).
B: Use "Max"s answer to create a new path the conversation may follow. If "Max" answers: "Ham and cheese", you can either tell a story related to his answer (Ex: You know, I once visited a cheese factory when i was in Switzerland and blablabla..) OR you can ask Max another question not related to his answer, but to the topic (Ex: Pizza is great. Which place do you usually go to when you eat pizza?).
3.
If you're telling Max a story, he/she'll usually comment on your story and eventually tell something he/she might have experienced related to the topic. The key thing is to talk about things that involves "How?'s and Why?'s" as you can't get a simple yes or no answer, which is what you want to avoid. Use Max's comments/answers to go deeper into your topic, or to create new paths (explained in "2"). You DON'T want to move from one topic to another very fast. From my experience you'll come of as a weirdo if you jump from one topic to another like a grasshopper jump from straw to straw).
4.
Be enthusiastic. Whatever the topic is, noone wants a monologue in monotone. Boooooring. You want to be enthusiastic and use your body when you're talking. You're the transmitter of the good vibes and they, in this case Max, are the antennas. And when they're starting to feel good, they'll be more likely to talk.
5.
Care about what they have to say. If people don't listen when I talk to them, then I just go away. They're not worth my time. You should treat Max the same way you want to be treated when you're talking. Hold eye contact and smile. Give them high fives ect ect if you agree with them.
Topics I like to talk about:
- Funny episodes/experiences from your everyday life (my favourite)
- News (Do NOT discuss politics or religion with girls)
- Your hobbies/passions
- Movies and music
- Naughty talk (Do NOT talk naughty with boys, they might hit you in the face)
Hexagon
The person you're talking to will be referred to as "Max" (as far as I know thats both a girl and a guys name
)1.
Think of something to start the conversation with. This could be anything. And I'm sure, that ANYONE, at ANY GIVEN TIME (unless you're asleep or dead), have at least ONE THING thought/topic they can use as a conversation starter. Ex: "Whats your favourite pizza topping?" or "Why are busses always exactly 2 mins too late?"
2.
With questions like the pizza one above, you have started the conversation. When Max answers you have two options.
A: Be silent. (Only one valid reason to chose this one: "Max" answers with something psycho wierd shit, like "My favourite pizza topping is fried brain and cheese from aged goat semen". Then you might aswell run for your life).
B: Use "Max"s answer to create a new path the conversation may follow. If "Max" answers: "Ham and cheese", you can either tell a story related to his answer (Ex: You know, I once visited a cheese factory when i was in Switzerland and blablabla..) OR you can ask Max another question not related to his answer, but to the topic (Ex: Pizza is great. Which place do you usually go to when you eat pizza?).
3.
If you're telling Max a story, he/she'll usually comment on your story and eventually tell something he/she might have experienced related to the topic. The key thing is to talk about things that involves "How?'s and Why?'s" as you can't get a simple yes or no answer, which is what you want to avoid. Use Max's comments/answers to go deeper into your topic, or to create new paths (explained in "2"). You DON'T want to move from one topic to another very fast. From my experience you'll come of as a weirdo if you jump from one topic to another like a grasshopper jump from straw to straw).
4.
Be enthusiastic. Whatever the topic is, noone wants a monologue in monotone. Boooooring. You want to be enthusiastic and use your body when you're talking. You're the transmitter of the good vibes and they, in this case Max, are the antennas. And when they're starting to feel good, they'll be more likely to talk.
5.
Care about what they have to say. If people don't listen when I talk to them, then I just go away. They're not worth my time. You should treat Max the same way you want to be treated when you're talking. Hold eye contact and smile. Give them high fives ect ect if you agree with them.
Topics I like to talk about:
- Funny episodes/experiences from your everyday life (my favourite)
- News (Do NOT discuss politics or religion with girls)
- Your hobbies/passions
- Movies and music
- Naughty talk (Do NOT talk naughty with boys, they might hit you in the face)
Hexagon
