if i have learned anything, its this:
PUA is not the route you want to go. This is not to say that chasing girls isnt a path that is fun or productive, only that the seduction community is not the route. 99% of the content out there is just affiliate content and is not just unhelpful but harmful. So I would recommend that you actively keep yourself free of the poisnous memes that are prevelant in pick up.
This sucks for you, since the one source of content to answer your questions and your concerns is poison. But lets look at what you have and what you can do about it.
You have limiting beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of. At this young age you are highly impressionable so let me lay some wisdom down down.
Highschool sucks.
But.
Highschool is much more scary looking then it really is. Most of the issues are inherent in the style of the system, which isnt necessary for you to know. What is important is that it sets down ego barriers for everyone your age, it makes everyone behave. This is all well and good for most people but it doesnt have any affect on people who just dont give a fuck and what results.
What you get out of life is what you put in. If you want to make friends and get with girls, then hang out with people and experiment with girls. I know that youre going into grade 12 but theres always time to reinvent yourself, experimentation and not apologizing for your desires is the basis of sucess.
gaming and who you are are the same thing. Theres no such thing as highschool game, or college game, or cold approachs ect ect. There is only you and how you react to the world.
Now how you actually attain success with girl can be wildly diffrent but here is a letter to an absolute beginner on my style that i think you might get some use from
THE LETTER Hey Man,
You're new to this place, and you have no idea where to start, and that's alright, we all have to start somewhere. Your problem: You don't get girls and it's making life pretty shitty. Solution: you came here to get advice, which you're about to get in just a moment. Now like I said we all have to start somewhere so no matter where you're from or what your problem with the fairer sek is, I can guarantee I have been in your position before, and these are the answers that have changed me.
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. This is such a common thread in our world, the continual break between the genders, and in the end all it does is it makes those hormone fueled less than perfect teenage years even shittier than it really needs to be. Instead of talking to just another person there is this weird list of cultural traditions and values that obscures everything. There is a reason for this, and it is the very basis of human attraction.
Sex and taboo, this is why there are all sorts of crazy traditions around interacting with girls, because you want to have sex with them. The taboo or course leads to trying to limit the most erotic behavior known to man and woman: Dominance and Submission. Women like to be dominated and men love to be dominant. This has a reason but its all about evolution and protection of genes so we'll skip to why this is important. Dominance and submission has been thrown out of youth culture at every turn.
Now the reason why you need to know all this is simple, there is no method, routine, pick up line, script, or other preparation that can be of any service to you if it is not in sync with your core values, experiences, and beliefs, it needs to be authentic. If you learn a kickass opening line that gets tons of pussy, and it isn't you, then it will fail no matter what, but if you include dominance in your personality it will infect every discourse and conversation you have, and end up making you a dominant person, and if you talk to the girl you want be in a bind for advice or lines but you will follow your gut and get results from just being you, and that's so much easier.
So lets get this clear you in highschool and you've never done anything with a girl, you're an absolute beginner. Where do you start? we start with this idea:
'Don't give a fuck, and have fun'
Your ego is what's tying you to the opinions of other people, which is what prevents you making good on all your desires, which can be a good or a bad thing. HOwever if you learn not to give a fuck and just enjoy every experience as you go you will be like a shade when other peoples opinions are concerned. You don't let shit bother you, and don't bow to failure. Don't over react, or even react to some bullshit. Instead you deal with in like a goddamn man, and take premeditated action. Don't let popular opinion sway your actions, be your own man and lead rather than agree to the conditions of some dick, and you ignore both.
Why are you even concerned with women? Its because you want to enjoy yourself as much as possible, and getting with girls can definitely be a great thing indeed. SO you should make that a point in anything you do, have a good time doing it, it's your life and don't waste it feeling like shit and not enjoying it. Your life can be amazing and full of joy, you just have to decide to.
These are great: not giving a fuck, and have fun. It is the motto I say when i'm not getting results I wanted and not just being me. I could give a rats ass how others thought of me and in the end I just want to be happy, So I am. In school this is a great philosophy to stand by as you change your behavior. It will make highschool a much better place no matter what happens.
You need conviction and pride as well. You need to accept yourself and love yourself. If you believe in what you stand for, and when you speak you stand by what you said, you don't apologize for your existence and always be true to your desires and needs. If you make it a habit of making this above statement true it will conquer your insecurities and fears and life will be easier than ever.
One way of making this true belief is by recruiting the hormones of your body to help you. Give yourself a natural boost. This is easily done with two habits.
1. Stop fapping.
www.reddit.com/r/nofapMasturbation is not a bad thing on its own, but internet porn addiction leeches your courage, takes your balls away, and can lead to Erectile Dysfunction. After a few months of not fapping your motivation and courage will be noticeably larger, this is made much more apparent if you...
2. Work out.
4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki/Harsh%27s_Worksheet_%28WIP%29Now its not that healthy to work out a lot at such a young age such as early highschool, if you're a Senior im pretty sure that you can hit the gym,, but otherwise you just need to stay healthy and exercise regularly. This makes your body look and feel so much better, and it also makes you less afraid to talk to that one girl thats you have a boner for.
These two habits have such a powerful impact on the most important thing to you getting the girls, which is Instinct. If your automatic reactions are amplified by the testorone you will have then you will appear much more masculine and make the choices you would never usually be brave enough to do. They also massively contribute to your happiness.
Now for the actual strategy of how to get girls in Highschool, you ready?
Its: Be the cool guy who hangs out with the people you want to, and never try to hide your desires like a little bitch.
High School is a social pit, so being that honest guy that usually open about what he wants, people know that he's a straight shooter, and generally trust as well as hang out with, the best strategy is to not play the game, instead by true to yourself and honest to the girl, but it only works if you stick to your desires.
So as long as you hang out with people, and be the dominant member you can get away with not playing the childish games high school is known for, which makes getting with girls so easy.
This is all you do, you go up to the girls you like, make your desires clear, lead the conversation, always escalate, and remain dominant. There's a little more to it, but for the most part this is so much better than anything else in school since you aren't a victim of gossip and drama, and girls always know what to expect from you, which can even make girls you've never talked to fall in love with your cock.
I'm about to tell you that you should be this direct and open with any girl you want in the school, but I wouldn't have to tell you this if you had learned that rejection and failure are actually good things, that you can't get any girl you want, and that letting peoples bullshit affect you is for pussies.
like fishing, you don't get everything you want. You cast your net, your metaphorical sexy net, and you miss some chicks. This is because no matter what you say or do, some people just don't like you, thats just how it is. You improve yourself and be honest with chicks because you want to make your net of potential girls and you want to find out what kind of girl is quickly and so you can stop wasting your time romantically with the ones who won't ever like you.
Finding out that some girls won't ever like you is so awesome because it makes rejection irrelevant. You're not getting rejected because you said the wrong thing, you're getting rejected because the universe is telling you that it wouldn't have worked because you two are incompatible. You don't care if you're rejected because its her problem, and if rejection isn't a problem for you then you can never fail as long as you were being authentic, it wasn't your call to make. This takes off a lot of the fear to perform, just be yourself and have fun.
So now that you don't fear rejection you should go to any girl you want to go out and ask them out. Actually you should make your intentions clear in a straightforward manner which is slightly different. Once you tell her that you like her, you two should be together, and to hand you her phone, in a slow and breathy manner with focus on the feeling behind the words while maintaining eye contact, then one of three things can happen:
a. She rejects you, says she's not interested or she's dating someone, and is clear about it, then you smile and tell her 'fair enough' and you go your separate ways, don't poison the watering hole, be cool about it.
b. She rebukes you, insults you or acts offend at your attitude and desires but doesnt outright reject her, then you need to escalate past her concerns because theres a good chance she likes you but doesnt want her goody two shoes or prude reputation be garnished. just counter her like so:
“RMO: Hey pigtails
Girl: Excuse me?
RMO: You're excused, for now, look, I don't have any time to talk to you right, but we need to hang out. Are you coming to my place, or am i going to your place next weekend?
Girl: What? Im not going to your house, I don't know you!
RMO: My names R.M., Im 19, and im a Taurus was that a friday?
Girl: im not that kind of girl!
RMO: What kind of girl do you think i like?
Girl: What do you want to do with the girls you like?
RMO: It doesn't matter what i do with other girls, but i want you to suck my dick”
And then escalate normally.
c. She accepts you, you get her number and escalate normally. After initial shock quite a few girls in highschool are total fools for a man with such an attitude.
Escalation for me is the rising steps of action that you should take once you meet a gir to get her in the sack and/or date her.
This is usually begins with your conversation becoming more and more sexual, you touching her because you want to, making out, getting her into a bed, and then dating. That order is usually pretty good. Any online or electronic communication should be fun and flirty. its not important to freak out about, but don't let her give you shit there. Don't communicate with her in that medium if she disrespects you on it until she apologizes, this is a dominance thing.
What you'll find is that escalation is just making consistent action no matter what, and that things grow organically and unconsciously, so just go with the flow, you'll be dating soon enough and wonder how its any different then before. You will have a great many relationships in highschool and enjoy great success by enjoying the moment and not fearing it.
The three most important traits that improve your chances of your request being accepted are dominance, persistence,and honesty.
1.Honesty is important for many reasons, but on a practical level it keeps you from the drama train. There's no grey area to gossip about and as such no matter how much people at your school involve you in their pseudo tribal social judgement they can’t poison your name or reputation very well if at all. It also helps with maintaining those ties to the chicks you do dig and the relationships you have with them. This one rule will make highschool so much easier.
2. Persitience. When you do anything, do it till its done. Never give up. Its going to be tough, but it's going to help you so much. This mindset is very effective in highschool, and especially in college, but these habits that you constantly develop will protect you later in life from dangerous woman and poisonous relationships.
3. Dominance. This is the most important. You see, your ultimate style you end up adopting will have many characteristics and will be a reflection of your inner self,but if you can't lead the girl, if you can't make your intentions clear, if your not the dominant party then she will never see your true self and consequently question you to death and leave you because she can control you.
This is the big shitty end of the stick, women have to be submissive, otherwise she leaves you for a guy who can make her submit, its just in the way girls think, its similar to your desire to beat up guys who with your your girl, or even look at her funny, its just some unconscious reflex meant to protect genes.
So this is why it's so important, if you can't lead you will lose everything you got in the first place. She will always challenge you in one degree or another so you just need to take ead by controlling your actions.
One easy way to be dominant is to be physically dominate, like with pushing her into a locker and getting a kiss from her, or picking her up, tickling her, or otherwise controlling her physical body. This can only be done as reward or teasing. No negative or punishment with physical dominance since this leads to abuse.
Now what I mean by reward is that all of psychology boils down to: 'reward behavior that you like, and punish behavior you don't'
In highschool the easiest tool fo this is attention, if she's being awesome give her attention, if she's being a bitch don't give it to her till she's apologized. The point being that you are the leader and thus the administrator. Rewarding and punishing behavior is much better then being demanding because you are altering her actions around you so you are readily dominant on an animal level, which needs to be satisfied with dominance, but you aren't controlling or bossy, this allows you to cut the bs.
This works. Its because its a series of tips that any kind of guy can apply to is own life and personality. It is a way of you getting to know you confident self, and you will always approach when you are attracted and you can be free of regret.
It is dangerous to an extent though. You can't be a dick, you have to got out of your comfort zones, and its going to take time to really believe that it does work. Its very direct, and since it's not based on personality type it can't judge what's too offensive, but if you do truly offend, apologize for offending her, but not you actually doing it. Stand by what you say.
Talking to girls outside of school is pretty much the same, but you really need to setup when you guys are going to meet again so you can for sure physically escalate, as well as have balls since shes not going to know that your this cool honest guy.
Now once you having sex and what not, make sure you use a condom and aren't stupid about it, too many good looking people get trapped because they knock someone up in HS. It helps if you try to help her cum and she tries to help you cum, not being selfish about it, makes the sex way better.
RECAP: don't give a shit, and have fun. HS isnt that big of a deal so just be honest when you see a girl you like because rejection is protecting you from girls who are bad for you. Be honest, persistent, and dominant to maintain control with women and keep your personality intact. life is short, don't mess it up by not being true to what you desire.
There's always more to learn, but spend some time figuring out who you are and what you can do to bring women into your life for the mean time as well as escalate and you'll get a crap ton of helpful experience.Good luck!
-RMO
so she wanted to play along with me). I literally said in front of the class, "My, aren't you a hot one" (LOL) in the most softest voice so I don't think a anyone heard it.
