Post by jack21 on Sept 17, 2012 23:53:34 GMT -5
Hey guys, I've been going after this girl (we'll call her "M") on and off for a year and a half now (serious oneitis, I know), but let me explain. The first time I asked her out, she flaked. After that I did a lot of inner-game work and improved physically, and she suggested we go out sometime (about 9 months ago).
We're both incredibly busy with our schedules, and lucky to find time once a week to get together. So, we kept trying to find a time to go out, and it felt like I was doing all the work, so I ended up dating a friend of mine (female!) for about 4 months.
We broke up a month ago (Whole 'nother story) and a month prior to that, I had a talk with "M" about what went wrong, and it turns out she still wanted to date me before I started dating my friend.
I asked her out last week, and we went for coffee last night and had a great time. She was giving IOI's, and I ended the date on a high point. I didn't try to k-close (error on my part).
Turns out she did have a great time, but "isn't ready". This girls an HB10, and an extremely talented singer (we jam). She's never had a real boyfriend before (we're in gr.12
) so that could be the source of anxiety. She's been screwed over a couple times by guys too.
Maybe it's wishful thinking and she actually isn't attracted to me, but I think this is an exception. I figured I'd ask you guys for your thoughts; tomorrow I'm planning on telling her we can keep going out and see what happens, it doesn't need to be serious. I'll be alpha about it though.
We're both incredibly busy with our schedules, and lucky to find time once a week to get together. So, we kept trying to find a time to go out, and it felt like I was doing all the work, so I ended up dating a friend of mine (female!) for about 4 months.
We broke up a month ago (Whole 'nother story) and a month prior to that, I had a talk with "M" about what went wrong, and it turns out she still wanted to date me before I started dating my friend.
I asked her out last week, and we went for coffee last night and had a great time. She was giving IOI's, and I ended the date on a high point. I didn't try to k-close (error on my part).
Turns out she did have a great time, but "isn't ready". This girls an HB10, and an extremely talented singer (we jam). She's never had a real boyfriend before (we're in gr.12
) so that could be the source of anxiety. She's been screwed over a couple times by guys too.Maybe it's wishful thinking and she actually isn't attracted to me, but I think this is an exception. I figured I'd ask you guys for your thoughts; tomorrow I'm planning on telling her we can keep going out and see what happens, it doesn't need to be serious. I'll be alpha about it though.
