Post by Grape on Sept 28, 2008 12:04:46 GMT -5
To have that "confident" charisma reeking off one's body, here's what I recommend, go through this check list and make sure you're comfortable and good at doing the following:
- Posture
Take a good look at yourself. What does your body language say about you?
Are you slouching or are you standing up straight.
According to "Body Language for Dummies", a confident man stands up straight with his chest puffed out, his hands at his sides and fingers rested while breathing gently like a baby.
Good advice coming from a woman who does workshops.
- Smile
Smiling will show everyone in the room that you're SOMEBODY with people to laugh with. Make sure you have a good smile on your face before you walk into a social area.
- Space
Are you comfortable with people being in your personal bubble? A confident man will be respected his space (about an arms length in radius) but will WELCOME people to join his bubble.
- Voice
Sound loud and solid like a real MAN. You're not a child anymore. Only real men get laid and only real men have a nice voice.
- Touch
If you can't even touch a girl's hands, how would ANYONE expect you to get physical? Kino-escalate. Touch people, pet other men on the back, pet girls on their heads. Become a touchy person.
- Reaction
A girl comes up to you and goes, "You're fucking ugly."
Three reactions are possible:
- "Fuck you bitch!~"
- "HAHAHAHA, you're funny!" (Backturn)
- "Okay." (Backturn)
Depending on your personality, you SHOULD choose 2 or 3.
I personally would go with 3 with a very sarcastic tone and backturn piquing the chick's interest. Laughing is still reacting and reacting shows that she affected your emotions in some way.
Other than that, just make sure you don't react TOO hard to funny jokes, insults, stories, etc.
- Body Alignment
Don't creep people out by walking right into their personal bubble. Align your body to face 45 degrees away from the person and tilt your head towards him/her. This way, s/he won't be as defensive and feel much more comfortable talking with you.
- Eye Contact
Look people deeply in their eyes. They'll know exactly what you're thinking.
When I'm mad at people, I look them in the eye with a serious face.
When I'm attracted to people, I look them in the eye with a seductive look.
When I'm friendly with people, I look them in the eye with a smile.
Point is, you're looking them in the eye and you're not afraid to do it either.
All of these give you a sense of dominance and power. Most of these are related to one another so it won't be that hard.
Good luck all,,
<33 Grape
- Posture
Take a good look at yourself. What does your body language say about you?
Are you slouching or are you standing up straight.
According to "Body Language for Dummies", a confident man stands up straight with his chest puffed out, his hands at his sides and fingers rested while breathing gently like a baby.
Good advice coming from a woman who does workshops.
- Smile
Smiling will show everyone in the room that you're SOMEBODY with people to laugh with. Make sure you have a good smile on your face before you walk into a social area.
- Space
Are you comfortable with people being in your personal bubble? A confident man will be respected his space (about an arms length in radius) but will WELCOME people to join his bubble.
- Voice
Sound loud and solid like a real MAN. You're not a child anymore. Only real men get laid and only real men have a nice voice.
- Touch
If you can't even touch a girl's hands, how would ANYONE expect you to get physical? Kino-escalate. Touch people, pet other men on the back, pet girls on their heads. Become a touchy person.
- Reaction
A girl comes up to you and goes, "You're fucking ugly."
Three reactions are possible:
- "Fuck you bitch!~"
- "HAHAHAHA, you're funny!" (Backturn)
- "Okay." (Backturn)
Depending on your personality, you SHOULD choose 2 or 3.
I personally would go with 3 with a very sarcastic tone and backturn piquing the chick's interest. Laughing is still reacting and reacting shows that she affected your emotions in some way.
Other than that, just make sure you don't react TOO hard to funny jokes, insults, stories, etc.
- Body Alignment
Don't creep people out by walking right into their personal bubble. Align your body to face 45 degrees away from the person and tilt your head towards him/her. This way, s/he won't be as defensive and feel much more comfortable talking with you.
- Eye Contact
Look people deeply in their eyes. They'll know exactly what you're thinking.
When I'm mad at people, I look them in the eye with a serious face.
When I'm attracted to people, I look them in the eye with a seductive look.
When I'm friendly with people, I look them in the eye with a smile.
Point is, you're looking them in the eye and you're not afraid to do it either.
All of these give you a sense of dominance and power. Most of these are related to one another so it won't be that hard.
Good luck all,,
<33 Grape
