Confidence Boost?

[SamethP]

I've noticed this almost everytime I've gotten a GF.
Once I get one, my confidence goes through the roof.
I'll be able to go up to anyone and start a conversation.
Maybe it's because I know that I don't give a fuck if I get rejected because I know that I have a girl somewhere else.

Has anyone else noticed this?
IF so, HOW can I transfer this confidence to when I'm single?

[Volt]

I've seen it. When you have a GF, other girls come out of the woodwork for you because it's a double-DHV. You act more alpha and you have preselection.
The only way to emulate, I would imagine, is by faking it.

[SamethP]

i see
well put volt =]
but you cant fake things, everything comes out in the end.
maybe its just beliefs and inner game
im going to try and emulate this and see how it goes

[RedDog]

Dec 13, 2008 20:17:35 GMT -5 SamethP said:

Maybe it's because I know that I don't give a fuck if I get rejected because I know that I have a girl somewhere else.

That's probably the key, If you have the inner game to know that it doesn't matter because you have other girls that want you, you'll do fine.

[optimus]

I've noticed this one too.

I think a big part of it is that you don't have any fear of rejection because you already got the girl, now it's just for fun.

[SamethP]

hmmm
well im gonna experiment with this
im getting into an LTR soon
and ill see how many #closes i can get
no more than a #close though haha

[jainarihant]

Yea I really get what u saying Robo, had the same feeling.

I have that feeling also when I'm working on multiple targets, its like: 3I don't give a fuck, if she doenst like me, I still have x targets left to game on.

Its no preselection and not a dhv, but pretty good mindset I think. ( mutliple targets, gf shows preselection ofc)

U could have the same when just talking to a new girl, you don't give a fuck of waht she thinks sine there are like 100 other girls in the club.

[SamethP]

true true
and lol
a new girl walked into my class, at least an 8,
i couldnt give a fuck what anyone else in my class thinks
so i just went "heyy there's a spare seat here"
and me and her flirted for like an hour hahah
*that was back when school was still in lol*

but the thing was, i really couldnt care less what her or anyone else thought, and now me and her are good friends

[jainarihant]

Yea,

is there any trick how to become not outcome dependant or a small trick too not igve a fuck about what people think about you and your ego?

im doing pretty well sometimes, but then sometimes I'm kinda ego guy and afraid that people may call me out on some things.

This is innergame material but since were talking about this in the topic...

[SamethP]

Beliefs... you have to believe that you dont give a fuck what people think of you... twice a day say to yourself "i don't care what people think"... your brain will start trying to find examples of this.... once it does, you wont give a fuck what people think

keep on...