Post by ihop on Dec 22, 2012 16:46:05 GMT -5
Oi! Got a little girlie for the holidays, shes cute, wouldn't mind meeting others though 
So, with the whether cold outside here in north America, it got me thinking about cold-approaching
Ill be honest, I don't cold approach as much as I should. Its just because ill see the girl and think "ehh, I can do it" and postpone the approach till something happens like the girl moving close to me or I bump into her. This isn't effective because im wasting time "just chilling" instead of hittin up da bitches. On the other hand, When I do go out with the sole purpose of cold approaching, I sometimes get to into my head. This sucks because I know I can get the girl and its all in making that one first step. So what I do now is go with the intention of approaching but I make it fun to cold approach
Dry Wood Catching Fire
Now, we all know more than the average male about girls and how to get them so that gives us the upper hand in interactions. I like to think of approaching as that little spark falling on that piece of dry wood. Approaching women is that spark of opening her to your awesome world.
And when you want to approach, you should be able to right?
There shouldn't be any anxiety or being stuck in your head or any resistance towards the approach. So what I do when im nervous, is I say to myself "Dude if you can get a little bit closer to the girl, your golden"
lol. So ill move myself closer to the girl, still wont say anything because im scared haha. Then ill say:
"Dude if you can just make a noise, it doesn't even have to be a word, youre in"
"Heeeeep" in an inside voice
"LOUDER!"
"HEEEEEEP!" girls turns, we make eye contact,
Me: "uhh, uhh, hi" still nervous and shit
Her: "uhh hi"
im in, swag.
And that's when the fire is started. All you need is that one spark and YOURE IN. As the interaction continues, you become less nervous and start to ease in. You start to enjoy talking to the girl. And great way to cold approach if you're nervous is to small chunk it and warm yourself up to take action by doing fun little shit like saying "HEEEP" because its make you realize that the game is fun and all you have to do is enjoy it.
Cheers,
Ihop
So, with the whether cold outside here in north America, it got me thinking about cold-approachingIll be honest, I don't cold approach as much as I should. Its just because ill see the girl and think "ehh, I can do it" and postpone the approach till something happens like the girl moving close to me or I bump into her. This isn't effective because im wasting time "just chilling" instead of hittin up da bitches. On the other hand, When I do go out with the sole purpose of cold approaching, I sometimes get to into my head. This sucks because I know I can get the girl and its all in making that one first step. So what I do now is go with the intention of approaching but I make it fun to cold approach
Dry Wood Catching Fire
Now, we all know more than the average male about girls and how to get them so that gives us the upper hand in interactions. I like to think of approaching as that little spark falling on that piece of dry wood. Approaching women is that spark of opening her to your awesome world.
And when you want to approach, you should be able to right?
There shouldn't be any anxiety or being stuck in your head or any resistance towards the approach. So what I do when im nervous, is I say to myself "Dude if you can get a little bit closer to the girl, your golden"
lol. So ill move myself closer to the girl, still wont say anything because im scared haha. Then ill say:
"Dude if you can just make a noise, it doesn't even have to be a word, youre in"
"Heeeeep" in an inside voice
"LOUDER!"
"HEEEEEEP!" girls turns, we make eye contact,
Me: "uhh, uhh, hi" still nervous and shit
Her: "uhh hi"
im in, swag.
And that's when the fire is started. All you need is that one spark and YOURE IN. As the interaction continues, you become less nervous and start to ease in. You start to enjoy talking to the girl. And great way to cold approach if you're nervous is to small chunk it and warm yourself up to take action by doing fun little shit like saying "HEEEP" because its make you realize that the game is fun and all you have to do is enjoy it.
Cheers,
Ihop
