The freshman approach

[denni]

Ok, so my approach is usually direct, with something like hey your pretty or your cute, and then I continue on from there with some banter, and qualifying.



But can I do this in high school, can be direct by calling her pretty or cute.

Or should I just be direct but not say something on her appearance, makes it seam more friendly. For Ex. hey you seem really smart, or you seem like a really cool person i wanna talk to you, or let's be friends.

Or should I not even use a OPENER, should I just do everything but that, and start with the banter.

So my question is, what kind of high school opener is right.

1. You are pretty/cute
2. You seem really cool/ You look really smart
3.In-direct opener?? I hate these
4. Skip the opener


Which one is right? I like direct openers, but haven't used it yet for high school.

[Sloth]

you are thinking way too much about this. As soon as you start saying stuff like 'which opener should i use' you know you're not natural whatsoever.

I mean you do realise openers are meaningless right? They literally mean nothing, you can say anything. It's where you go afterwards that matters.

[denni]

Aug 29, 2013 8:21:03 GMT -5 Sloth said:

you are thinking way too much about this. As soon as you start saying stuff like 'which opener should i use' you know you're not natural whatsoever.

I mean you do realise openers are meaningless right? They literally mean nothing, you can say anything. It's where you go afterwards that matters.

I don't mean what opener I should use, I am asking what type, because I can think of over a hundred new different openers seconds before I approach the girl, one just pops up in my head an I use it. I never repeat openers, and I never used canned material from online either. Like I said I come up with them on my own but when I do I have different opener types that come to my mind. I think, should I go direct? Or in-direct? If I chose direct I make up one right off the top of my head, which is pretty natural to me. It's not like a right down a list of different openers and repeat them in certain situations.

I don't understand how you can say what I'm doing is not natural or how I shouldn't use an opener, when we all use openers when we first talk to a girl and theres no way of not using one. An opener is just what you say to the girl at the beginning.

What your telling me is like telling me I shouldn't even talk to or open up to the girl... cus theres no afterwards without saying something first ( an opener ). 

I wan't to know what I should not say, and your answer doesn't even make sense because if I know what is a turn off I won't do it or even think about doing it in my head, and naturally I will just do the right thing.

[Sloth]

wow you totally missed the point.

Asking what type is still just mental masterbation. Seriously, my point was stopping asking questions about whether you should go up to a girl and tell her she's cute or whether you should go up and just say hi. You're not natural because you're still thinking far too much about how to get success from the interaction.

Part of me thinks you're asking these questions because you are too scared to go up to the girl and say either, so you've come here looking for answers that you hope will make things less scary. Well they do not exist.

There's no point asking questions about openers because they do not matter. Fact. You can say anything as an opener and still do just fine, watch any simple pick up video if you need evidence for that. So my post wasn't telling you not to use an opener, it was telling you to stop caring about openers, say anything, stop thinking so much -it will kill your game.

[gentleman_bandit]

Aug 29, 2013 21:16:46 GMT -5 Sloth said:

wow you totally missed the point.

Asking what type is still just mental masterbation. Seriously, my point was stopping asking questions about whether you should go up to a girl and tell her she's cute or whether you should go up and just say hi. You're not natural because you're still thinking far too much about how to get success from the interaction.

Part of me thinks you're asking these questions because you are too scared to go up to the girl and say either, so you've come here looking for answers that you hope will make things less scary. Well they do not exist.

There's no point asking questions about openers because they do not matter. Fact. You can say anything as an opener and still do just fine, watch any simple pick up video if you need evidence for that. So my post wasn't telling you not to use an opener, it was telling you to stop caring about openers, say anything, stop thinking so much -it will kill your game.

I agree comepletely

[denni]

Yeah I get it now. in highschool its not like getting girls at parties or in the mall, and now that I started school it makes more sense and I just answered my own question on the first day.

[highschoolfresh24]

Aug 29, 2013 2:56:43 GMT -5 denni said:

Ok, so my approach is usually direct, with something like hey your pretty or your cute, and then I continue on from there with some banter, and qualifying.



But can I do this in high school, can be direct by calling her pretty or cute.

Or should I just be direct but not say something on her appearance, makes it seam more friendly. For Ex. hey you seem really smart, or you seem like a really cool person i wanna talk to you, or let's be friends.

Or should I not even use a OPENER, should I just do everything but that, and start with the banter.

So my question is, what kind of high school opener is right.

1. You are pretty/cute
2. You seem really cool/ You look really smart
3.In-direct opener?? I hate these
4. Skip the opener


Which one is right? I like direct openers, but haven't used it yet for high school.

Lol Well I use an opener sometimes make sure it's original. Cuz like u can tell anyone that their pretty cute etc..
Try to open up with something. She's doing That's attractive or something she's wearing..
Ex. Hey u know not many girls look good it that (insert brand name ) of jeans But u are looking nice

Or I notice. Ur blonde and I like blondes that gives u a little advantage. Over some of these girls .?

I like just commenting. On the surrounding and just keeping the convinced going