Talking to a girl you've never met before..

[dutchguy]

Hey people,

Just a quick question here. What are some good things to talk about with a girl you have never met before? I am not so good at meeting new people, once I get to know them it is easy but first times are difficult. I want to get to know this girl, see if her personality is as beautiful as she is .

Greetings and thanks in advantage,

Dutchguy

[denni]

Only use talking about school as a last resort when talking to a girl because it is boring and you will get no where with the girl that way. Talk about the girls life, your social life, fun things, you and her and emotions between you and her, and yeah, overall don't talk about boring, sad, negative stuff since you will get no where with that.

There's a lot more to talking to girls successfully than this really, but I would need to write a book which will never happen.

[Sloth]

www.highschool-game.net

both myself and sketch have covered it.

[amarok]

Aug 29, 2013 19:21:36 GMT -5 denni said:

Only use talking about school as a last resort when talking to a girl because it is boring and you will get no where with the girl that way.

Not quite. It's great basic small talk. If you go up to a girl and all of a sudden start talking about how you did something crazy last night, you'll seem egotistical, and if you ask her what the craziest thing she's done is... that kind of thing just doesn't work when you're FIRST talking to her. Asking about What kind of classes she's taking, which ones she likes best, what she plans to do in college, as a career, are all GREAT things to talk about IF YOU MOVE THEM FORWARD.

For example.
Me: Hey! My name is Amarok, what's yours?
HB: Mine is HB!
Me: HB, very nice to meet you.
HB: You too!
Me: What class were you just coming from?
HB: Psychology!
Me: Have you made an ink blot yet? That'd be pretty cool to do!
HB: Yeah I really want to! We're doing that later in the year though :/
Me: So how do you like psychology? Something you'd want to do in college?
HB: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking! How about you?
Me: Premed, what got you that interested in psych? (make sure not to give much emphasis on what you're answer is, keep her talking about herself)

Simple, natural introduction, Hey, what's your name, then casual, COMFORTABLE conversation, THEN you make it more personal by asking deeper things about what you're talking about. This is just one example but this is such a simple skill to learn. I'll put it in caps. THIS IS HOW YOU TALK TO PEOPLE. People. A girl is not special. She's a person. Don't make her something special by trying to change up how you TALK to people. She has to be comfortable where the conversation is going into, and if you just come out either with something personal or just completely out of the blue, it kinda is like shock and awe. Just let the conversation progress where it should naturally go.

[dutchguy]

Thanks for the quick replies everyone, especially you Amarok with the examples. Monday I'll go for it when I get the chance.

[twotyme]

Talk the language girls speak .. shit.. Speak shit and speak with your body and actions basically.. and try not to supplicate as in don't ask questions you don't really wanna know the answers to

[dutchguy]

EDIT,

Well I didn't yet talk to her because I'm facing a problem. She always has these cockblockers around her.. How do I take care of that?

[swatt]

Cockblockers should mean nothing to you, this shows you do not have confidence in your approach if you wait until they leave or something like that. I mean you could get lucky and they just aren't there but if you walk straight up and introduce yourself with confidence and talk with confidence, these cockblockers shouldn't even be relevant. Be nice, have good body language, but everyone has already said that. BE CONFIDENT

[Sloth]

lies and more lies. You didn't talk to her because you're scared. That is all.

[DanZy]

Sept 11, 2013 7:54:57 GMT -5 Sloth said:

lies and more lies. You didn't talk to her because you're scared. That is all.

THIS. Come on mate, go talk to her. Just say shit that amuses you

[dutchguy]

Sept 11, 2013 7:54:57 GMT -5 Sloth said:

lies and more lies. You didn't talk to her because you're scared. That is all.

Yeah, I am scared. But I do not want te be scared and I know I shouldn't be. But everytime I see her I somehow freak out from the inside. I might think a little too much about what if.