How to shake this Mindset/ego

[austin]

When I talk to girls, and I feel hella confident that I can get her number or mess wit her i see she says hi to another guy and it throws my whole balance off. Then I think to myself why the hell would she want to talk to me when she can talk to him. Or if I like a girls picture on instagram, I see some other kid I know who talks to her liked it now I'm thinking " he liked her picture so she's totally gonna go for him over me just cause" or if I'm talking to a girl and she hugs me bye and sees another guy and hugs him I'm thinking to myself well never mind cause she could have him so why have me and I stop talking to her . I feel like as long there is another guy out there she talks to there is no room for me to get her, and it's really effecting me. Any suggestions cause i gotta shake this shit asap if I wanna get a chick in life!

[Icy]

Hey man, haven't been on this forum for a while but I'd like to solve your problem.

I like how you determined that this was a mindset problem and that means your on the right track. Basically think about it like this, you are awesome, you are enough and you are a 10. I had this mindset get driven into my brain by watching RSD videos and their whole premise is that THERE IS NO REASON WHY YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH* (trademark Alex). So lets tackle your problems.

Get into your head that you are a 10, because you are focused on improving yourself and wanting to lead a more fulfilled life. No matter what you look like, learn to love yourself, research about self esteem and build self esteem. Search up a thread on self esteem vs ego because there is honestly so much to write about but if i were to some it up, it would be: self esteem is the one thing you can control, your own belief in yourself, while ego is superficial and can lead to a lot of good emotions and validations but also a lot of unnecessary pain.

Don't think about other guys. There will be other guys hitting these girls up. There could even be other guys that have put their penis inside her vagina. Who knows? Who cares? As long as she's STD free focus on yourself and learnt to not get jelous. THERE ARE SOOO MANY WOMEN IN THE WORLD. It is not worth to get butthurt every time a guy hits on a girl you like. You're becoming a man, so be a man.

Remember, i if some other guy starts flirting with the girl you're talking to, ignore it. Understand something about women, they will have friends that are guys and they will also have guys who are pussies or too nice that get put into the friend zone, and they will have guys trying to fuck them every day. This what girls have to live with, so many guys interacting with them. Do they fuck all of them? Fuck no (At least I hope not). So understand that just because a guy is saying how beautiful some girl is on Facebook, doesn't mean he's getting any pussy. Just don't think about it.


Stop overthinking all of this stuff. Just don't be needy and remember that YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Once she gets to know you, she should want you. Not having good looks or money are no excuse for not getting the girl. Sometimes the chemistry isn't there but no guy is better than you. Beleive in yourself.

Hope this helps

[suavepua]

Would you be thinking the same thing if you had 10 girls fighting each other to get to suck your dick??? Nope...

Your problem is abundance my friend. Your a cool cat. You can be awesome with one woman, you can be awesome with 10... A day.... An 70 every week.... And then all your problems are solved. If you can't get that, then you should continue working on your skills

[suavepua]

Would you be thinking the same thing if you had 10 girls fighting each other to get to suck your dick??? Nope...

Your problem is abundance my friend. Your a cool cat. You can be awesome with one woman, you can be awesome with 10... A day.... An 70 every week.... And then all your problems are solved. If you can't get that, then you should continue working on your skills

[Adam]

Why do you put so little value on yourself