austin
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Post by austin on Nov 2, 2013 0:56:44 GMT -5
There's this girl in my class that always has an attitude. But (strangely) I find that so attractive about her. But I'm pretty sure she has no feelings towards me. She's always like playfully talking about me, because she's on the swim team I say shit like" if I got out there in that pool I could beat you in a race". And she says that seeing me swim would be so funny so I crack a few jokes she laughs i can get her to laugh her head of that's not a problem. Then when I say the slightest thing she dont like she frowns an has a snappy come back( when we talk she stares into my eyes and I can't keep eye contact) . When I ask to work with her she's says no cause I actually want to get my work done. I'm pretty sure if I asked for her number now shed say flat out no. An I can't flex, that would have me so damaged. Not because she turned me down just because I HATE. REJECTION. I go crazy in my head when it happens to me but it eats me inside when I don't have the heart to talk to a girl I want to because I'm afraid of rejection. So I hve a few questions.
How do I get over rejection?
How do I learn how to speak up and talk to a girl I want without fear?
How do I get this particular girl in my class...what should I do or say that would sway her to like me?)
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Post by amarok on Nov 2, 2013 9:33:58 GMT -5
1. Get rejected. Over and over again. Get over that feeling. There is NO other way.
2. Just do it. Lack of fear comes with practice.
3. You seem pretty fine so far, but you're over-thinking what she's thinking. If she just wants to get her work done, then tell her you want it done quickly too and work with her and get it done. When she gives you a snappy comeback, and you actually haven't said something offensive to her, just laugh like it was cute and funny.
Also, of course you can keep eye contact, you just aren't. You're letting her control the situation and the mood of the conversation.
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Post by austin on Nov 2, 2013 13:57:42 GMT -5
But how do I get her to let her gaurd down so I can game he and get her to like me?
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austin
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Post by austin on Nov 2, 2013 14:02:23 GMT -5
1. Get rejected. Over and over again. Get over that feeling. There is NO other way. 2. Just do it. Lack of fear comes with practice. 3. You seem pretty fine so far, but you're over-thinking what she's thinking. If she just wants to get her work done, then tell her you want it done quickly too and work with her and get it done. When she gives you a snappy comeback, and you actually haven't said something offensive to her, just laugh like it was cute and funny. Also, of course you can keep eye contact, you just aren't. You're letting her control the situation and the mood of the conversation. But how do I get her to let her gaurd down so I can game he and get her to like me? |
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Post by amarok on Nov 2, 2013 21:13:43 GMT -5
You don't game her, you talk to her like she's a normal human being. You're gonna need to get out the mindset of gaming girls and just let it happen as a natural consequence of being a social man. And just keep doing what you're doing, and get a time to hang with her outside of school. You're making her laugh which is one of the biggest things to do, so you're doing just fine. While you're getting a hang with her, keep talking to other girls, don't focus too much on this one girl.
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Post by highschoolfresh24 on Aug 25, 2014 23:59:13 GMT -5
There's this girl in my class that always has an attitude. But (strangely) I find that so attractive about her. But I'm pretty sure she has no feelings towards me. She's always like playfully talking about me, because she's on the swim team I say shit like" if I got out there in that pool I could beat you in a race". And she says that seeing me swim would be so funny so I crack a few jokes she laughs i can get her to laugh her head of that's not a problem. Then when I say the slightest thing she dont like she frowns an has a snappy come back( when we talk she stares into my eyes and I can't keep eye contact) . When I ask to work with her she's says no cause I actually want to get my work done. I'm pretty sure if I asked for her number now shed say flat out no. An I can't flex, that would have me so damaged. Not because she turned me down just because I HATE. REJECTION. I go crazy in my head when it happens to me but it eats me inside when I don't have the heart to talk to a girl I want to because I'm afraid of rejection. So I hve a few questions. How do I get over rejection? How do I learn how to speak up and talk to a girl I want without fear? How do I get this particular girl in my class...what should I do or say that would sway her to like me?) Man think of some good comebacks and flirt like crazy and learn actually LEARN to use eye contact with her. Flirt flirt flirt! Use touch verbal etc then just pretend not to be really interested since u all ways flirt with her like u should shell either be wondering why u dont do it or just ignore it and not care |
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