Post by Sloth on Nov 21, 2013 21:40:53 GMT -5
It's been years since i stumbled across this forum, along the way i have grown ridiculous amounts.
Along the way i went from a newbie looking up to guys like grape, chris and andrew to being a role model myself, and undertaking all the responsibility that came with that position. My journal became an entertaining read and a great source of knowledge, and it comforts me to go back and see that progress now - I'm glad if it helps any of you on your journey. Sadly I didn't write up a lot of my little escapades, especially this year, but for me recently life has been so much more than self improvement. A couple years back it became so much more than PUA and now it's become nothing to do with any of that stuff. And that's why i'm leaving.
I come on here most days to see if anyone needs a little guidance, what i see is that anyone who needs it, has help already, which is great. But also what i see is that i can answer 90% of the questions with the same answer, and i'm just too tired of giving that answer over and over again.
It became upsetting to come on here and see guys that are so... lost. I got used to misogyny and all the naivety, but i shouldn't have to get used to it, it's outright disgusting. The only reason it's tolerated is because the guys who express it are so young, i mean we all are. But i can no longer come on day after day and see it. I feel like i helped a lot of guys over the years, but no matter how many were set straight so many more came even more fucked up than before. It is extremely tiring.
Look this is not to say 'i give up' it's just that i realised these guys that are fucking retarded will sort themselves out eventually anyway, and i put time into so many of them, and helped them, when actually they would have learnt without me, i just made it easier for them. Which they don't deserve.
I am not out of the self-help industry, but i have absolutely no interest in helping guys become better with girls. Because the guys that want to get better with girls have SO MANY other issues, and the first thing to do as a coach is to say it's not about the girls, it's just that something about you fucking sucks.
Then i have to come on here see guys ask shitty questions and see other guys give them the same advice i'd of given a while back. It's good advice, but deep down it's useless because the guys asking the questions aren't looking for answers they're looking for excuses.
There is and only ever has been one answer to the questions - get off this fucking forum, and go DO whatever it is you're sat ASKING about. Experience is the key to life.
And as stated before, i can't come on to a forum and post that in every thread, i've become redundant here.
This place was so important in my growth process, but as i continue to grow, i outgrow certain things - and this is one of them.
Goodbye boys, and i wish you all the best.
Stay true to yourself.
Sloth x
Along the way i went from a newbie looking up to guys like grape, chris and andrew to being a role model myself, and undertaking all the responsibility that came with that position. My journal became an entertaining read and a great source of knowledge, and it comforts me to go back and see that progress now - I'm glad if it helps any of you on your journey. Sadly I didn't write up a lot of my little escapades, especially this year, but for me recently life has been so much more than self improvement. A couple years back it became so much more than PUA and now it's become nothing to do with any of that stuff. And that's why i'm leaving.
I come on here most days to see if anyone needs a little guidance, what i see is that anyone who needs it, has help already, which is great. But also what i see is that i can answer 90% of the questions with the same answer, and i'm just too tired of giving that answer over and over again.
It became upsetting to come on here and see guys that are so... lost. I got used to misogyny and all the naivety, but i shouldn't have to get used to it, it's outright disgusting. The only reason it's tolerated is because the guys who express it are so young, i mean we all are. But i can no longer come on day after day and see it. I feel like i helped a lot of guys over the years, but no matter how many were set straight so many more came even more fucked up than before. It is extremely tiring.
Look this is not to say 'i give up' it's just that i realised these guys that are fucking retarded will sort themselves out eventually anyway, and i put time into so many of them, and helped them, when actually they would have learnt without me, i just made it easier for them. Which they don't deserve.
I am not out of the self-help industry, but i have absolutely no interest in helping guys become better with girls. Because the guys that want to get better with girls have SO MANY other issues, and the first thing to do as a coach is to say it's not about the girls, it's just that something about you fucking sucks.
Then i have to come on here see guys ask shitty questions and see other guys give them the same advice i'd of given a while back. It's good advice, but deep down it's useless because the guys asking the questions aren't looking for answers they're looking for excuses.
There is and only ever has been one answer to the questions - get off this fucking forum, and go DO whatever it is you're sat ASKING about. Experience is the key to life.
And as stated before, i can't come on to a forum and post that in every thread, i've become redundant here.
This place was so important in my growth process, but as i continue to grow, i outgrow certain things - and this is one of them.
Goodbye boys, and i wish you all the best.
Stay true to yourself.
Sloth x
