How to get my girl back?

[clayman]

Now I know this is a pickup forum, and the idea is to have an abundance of girls, so that you won't be worried if you lose one. However, all the other girls at my school just aren't doing it for me, and I need some advice to get one back. I had dated her for three months, and we got along great.  It was totally the best relationship of my life.  I have a problem, though, when I get into a relationship I get needy, compliment too much, and generally stop being awesome, which I know is a big turn off.  This has ruined four relationships already.  Recently my GF broke up with me. She said it was because she was too young and immature to date me, and I took the relationship way more seriously than her, but I know it was most likely because I was overly nice and needy all the time.

So guys what are some things I can do to get her attracted to me again?

[Logic]

www.rooshv.com/top-15-game-tips-for-long-term-relationships

I went through that same problem.. this is pretty good shit.. just don't over analyze everything

[amarok]

Ignore the link that logic posted. You don't need more game crap filling your head. You said it yourself, you are needy. You are insecure and don't have enough confidence in yourself. Building your confidence on a solid foundation is the ONLY way to make your relationships work. The best way to do this, I believe, is through recognizing your successes and pushing doubts that worm into your mind out. The best way to do this is to approach girls you don't know and build your social skills. Look at some of the other confidence articles in that board, but the only chance you're going to be able to get this girl back is by building confidence in yourself, and, like you said, not being worried about losing her. There's a principle in the universe that when you are 100% willing to give things up, things you love and that are really important to you, when you can give those up, not only will you not have to, but you'll have more of it. You need to give her up to get what's better. That may be you and her having a better relationship, or that might be you finding a different, even better girl for you. Read some of the articles but the most important thing is that you go out and practice in real life. You can read all you want but it won't do you any good if you don't do anything with that knowledge.

[Logic]

Ignore what Amarok just posted. Everyone on this site who is semi coherent understands that the most important part of game is the in real life practice.. Now with that being said they usually just do not know what to practice. The last thing you want is someone creating bad habits. You need to be practicing the right things. You can't practice getting a girl to be re attracted to you everyday. The only helpful idea Amarok touched on was your confidence foundation. There are almost unlimited ways to raise the foundation of your confidence, not just approaching women. Approaching women allows you to be more comfortable around women but doesn't raise your core confidence anymore than succeeding at any other aspect of life.

Use the link I sent you. Just remember what Amarok attempted to say, is that sometimes you have too much information and you start trying to plan out an interaction instead of staying in the moment and just "being yourself." In other words use the information in the articles but don't let it envelope you.

[amarok]

Logic, I know you like to think that you have tons of experience and already know everything you need to know, but you apparently have no idea how a relationship works. I'd like to point those reading this to tip number 2. Instill dread? Purposefully make the girl feel like you're cheating/breaking up with her?

The article you posted is filled with things that become obvious once one's confidence is securely built. The article is an unnecessary utterance of okay-bad advice. None of which is going to help the OP.

[clayman]

Alright guys thanks a lot. I've improved my confidence and actually don't even worry about that girl anymore. I thought I'd want her back, but truth is I don't. Inner game, confidence, and going out with other girls really does do the trick, I was just being dumb at the time. Since then, I haven't talked to her at all, but I realized that I am over her.  It just took a while to regain my confidence.  Thanks again.