Post by swatt on Feb 5, 2014 23:59:04 GMT -5
I'm writing this little piece of info basically because this happened to me and I see where this could benefit a lot of the "I think she likes me but I'm not sure so I will wait and see" mentalities that SOOO many people (including myself sometimes) have on this forum.
I'll start with myself. So basically I had this girl. Of course I had other ones but I had this "special feeling" for this one in particular. I talked to her in moderation (on purpose) and our conversations just got more and more deep, so much to the point when I showed my brother he asked if we were dating. Anyways it came time when the girls were asking the guys to "the big dance". I shifted our conversation to the dance and told her that I wanted her to ask me. She said wow actually I do. So I knew I was in. BUT..... and there's always a but. She couldn't ask me because her friend called dibs on me. Haha so I thought long and hard about and decided on waiting until after that dance to make my move. I was afraid that her friends would be mad or she wouldn't want to make her friends angry at her. So I waited. A month went around and I thought the feeling were still there. I hoped they were still there. A concert came around and I couldn't go, because I was sick
. I heard later she hooked up with another guy and I was so surprised and scared that the next day I took her out for dinner and told her how I felt about her. She said she could only think of me as a friend. Previously I had asked her friend if she liked me, that friend said yes. So I felt like shit.
Now I realize... SHE DID HAVE THOSE FEELINGS!!!! But I didn't capitalize on it and her feelings shifted away from me. If you are in a situation where you can see that this girl is obviously attracted to you, do not fucking wait. I repeat, do not wait. Girls are not committed to one feeling. They are switching from this guy to that guy. Haha you can even see it in their celebrity crushes. Girls go after what will make them feel good. And a long time lover that hasn't even tried to escalate? No, that's not very attractive is it. So what I'm saying is that if you find yourself unsure of whether or not to escalate with a girl, do it. Procrastinating will not, never, ever, never never ever get you closer to achieving your goals. It only puts you farther away from them.
This applies for those who have gotten the attraction, but have yet to escalate. Funny how everything we do goes back to escalation. And escalation goes back to change. Anything that stays the same will cease to advance. And the only way to advance is to change.
I'll start with myself. So basically I had this girl. Of course I had other ones but I had this "special feeling" for this one in particular. I talked to her in moderation (on purpose) and our conversations just got more and more deep, so much to the point when I showed my brother he asked if we were dating. Anyways it came time when the girls were asking the guys to "the big dance". I shifted our conversation to the dance and told her that I wanted her to ask me. She said wow actually I do. So I knew I was in. BUT..... and there's always a but. She couldn't ask me because her friend called dibs on me. Haha so I thought long and hard about and decided on waiting until after that dance to make my move. I was afraid that her friends would be mad or she wouldn't want to make her friends angry at her. So I waited. A month went around and I thought the feeling were still there. I hoped they were still there. A concert came around and I couldn't go, because I was sick
. I heard later she hooked up with another guy and I was so surprised and scared that the next day I took her out for dinner and told her how I felt about her. She said she could only think of me as a friend. Previously I had asked her friend if she liked me, that friend said yes. So I felt like shit.Now I realize... SHE DID HAVE THOSE FEELINGS!!!! But I didn't capitalize on it and her feelings shifted away from me. If you are in a situation where you can see that this girl is obviously attracted to you, do not fucking wait. I repeat, do not wait. Girls are not committed to one feeling. They are switching from this guy to that guy. Haha you can even see it in their celebrity crushes. Girls go after what will make them feel good. And a long time lover that hasn't even tried to escalate? No, that's not very attractive is it. So what I'm saying is that if you find yourself unsure of whether or not to escalate with a girl, do it. Procrastinating will not, never, ever, never never ever get you closer to achieving your goals. It only puts you farther away from them.
This applies for those who have gotten the attraction, but have yet to escalate. Funny how everything we do goes back to escalation. And escalation goes back to change. Anything that stays the same will cease to advance. And the only way to advance is to change.
