Darkpwns' Get Laid Guide

[darkpwns]

INTRODUCTION

I'm darkpwns, I'm pretty old. I've only just recently learned this myself, so perhaps it isn't applicable to high school students, but I find myself wishing I'd thought of it during the time I was learning game as a sophomore. So, perhaps it's still relevant. A little caveat on my writing: I'm a dick, and you (the reader) may be called several offending names throughout, but don't worry. That's just the soldier in me.

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A note on attractiveness and sexual prospects

Let me guess, you're sitting in front of your computer right now, wanting to learn how to swoop every girl off her feet like you were James Bond. You're also probably really happy you found this community, it let you know that you can get any girl you want as long as you read all the eBooks and develop your game...yes, sitting in front of the computer. Loser. Now, I bet you're thinking that this is another "go out there and approach 100 women every week until you get laid!" posts. Actually, maybe it is. But first you need to do something:

Look at yourself in the mirror, now look at that creepy photo you keep of the one who set you on this path, now back at you, now back at her photo, I'm on a ho---I digress.

The bottom line here is, be honest with yourself. Where would you place yourself and where would you place the women you pine after on a scale of 1-10? "But Darkpwns! Looks don't matter! Tyler from RSD told me so!"

Now to that, I ask you, does Tyler from RSD look like he lays down the pipe often? Does he carry himself like it? Do you feel a masculine aura permeating your computer screen when he tells you how to live your life? I didn't think so. He may very well get laid; in fact, I hear he is a father - indicative of some kind of fornication - but the thing here is: do you want to spend hours thinking about theory, or do you want to fuck?


If the answer is "Darkpwns, I want to think about theory all night!", just jump off a cliff. Please. Just thinking you exist hurts my soul.

Now, if the answer is: "Darkpwns, I want to fuck!" then you must understand that looks matter.

No, not in the PUA "Oh, girls like good looking guys, but it doesn't matter if your game makes up for it" way. That's bullshit too. No, when a woman is legitimately looking to suck some major man-cock looks matter to her way more than it matters to you when it comes down to rolling around in bed sans clothing.

That isn't to say it's impossible to win her over with tenacity, but you probably won't fuck her as soon as you want. She'll put you on a back burner until she's ready for a boyfriend and will let you take her on dates, and possibly give it up by date #3 (this of course, after she's had her fill of hot man-cock...no, not yours). No, odds of you getting a woman to have sex with you if she's significantly higher than you on the looks scale (say you're a 4 and she's a 7....this is too much of a difference), are near to nothing. Your best shot with these women is in the context of (or promise of) a relationship. Casual sex is a dream for you, at least with this woman.

When women look solely for physical relationships, all of that "I want a provider" or "I love a man who is sweet and romantic" or "I just want a guy with a nice personality" goes out the window. In that moment, a women thinks: "I want that hot guy over there, inside me....NOW!"

Attractiveness is relative, of course, but you will generally have a deviation of 1 point anyway, so it doesn't really matter (barring disgusting social faux pas like racism etc.). When a woman is looking for a casual relationship, she wants somebody that is either at her level or above her level, but she'd probably also settle for somebody only slightly below her actual value in that moment if his game is legendary (her perceived static value is irrelevant, it just dictates how many shit tests she'll give you).

The great thing about that is that most guys have the ability to make themselves into a 7 or greater by taking care of their bodies, tightening up the grooming and addressing a hazardous wardrobe. Guys are pretty easy to make attractive. Ensure that you've got a handle on your body fat (10-12% sounds good for a high school student, however when you take your playboy ways to the club, you might want to drop down to around 8%). The fitness isn't so much about looking good with a shirt off as it is about looking good with it on. You want to maintain a V taper and a low body fat percentage is the way to go about that. Another added bonus is that it brings out your facial structure. A well defined face is attractive to most women and is actually more important than your facial structure (ie: high cheekbones).

(Sidenote: That isn't to say that larger guys can't get casual sex, however, the choices would be limited and your best bet probably is to go for girls looking for a relationship (I don't advocate lying, so what I'm saying is, try to get a girlfriend), as the things you read here about getting women to like you will likely be more beneficial to you than trying to up your numbers. Game matters a lot more when it comes to relationships, as girls lower their physical standards when looking for a boyfriend, slightly. The problem with a guy not being able to get a girlfriend has everything to do with the guy's own standards. A guy would usually take pussy that was thrown at him as long as it wasn't too fucked up. But he always wants the hottest chick he can think of. Be realistic. If you're a 4, the girls you should be looking to make yours should be at max a 7, provided your game is strong. And when you increase your attractiveness, the quality of women you attract will also increase)

How you play your game

Okay, we've established you're looking for casual relationships. So, I would like to tell you that for you, there's no such fucking thing as being indirect. It's a waste of time if you don't want to take girls on endless dates. You are not - I repeat - NOT playing it safe. You have no shame, you gives no fucks if people think you're a major sleaze (note: sleaze is NOT creep...two different things, never be a creep, so don't be a weirdo and open a girl with 'I've been looking at you....*heavy breathing* looking at me, and I want you to...*heavy breathing* look at me while I look at you while I eat your *heavy breathing* pussy').

Forget the standard PUA frame of: "I'm going to get this girl to like me". For this purpose, that's a waste of time. It may in fact be a waste of time, always. Instead go into an interaction knowing what you're looking for. None of this "Hmmmm, maybe I could fuck her" and "Maybe she could be my girlfriend", no, you need "I want to fuck this girl"

So, that being your starting goal, you will have things you need to sort out to know that, logically, your desire is possible. You'd want to know "Does she have a boyfriend? Is she sexually available? Does she find me attractive? What do her logistics look like?" and the point of your interaction is to find out the answers, and if all answers are positive, you try to go for the lay and if the answers are negative, she'll float away. You do not avoid rejection here. You embrace it. You're screening women for what you want, there's no point in TRYING to get her to like you. If she wants what you want, in that moment, she'll like you regardless. That means don't bother with things like "qualifying" or what have you.

However, the most important question you want to know the answer to is "Is she sexually available to me?" Because if the answer to that is "yes", then she or you will find a way to make it happen, I guarantee it. The way you find this out is simple: touch. Your physical touching should begin from the moment you say hello and should continue until the moment you decide she wants your dick. An example:

Me: Some stupid shitty opener

Her: Hi!

Me: I'm blah blah *shakes hand*

Her: I'm blah blah

Me: *continues holding hands, maybe lead her a couple of steps away for compliance* Stupid shit I don't care about talking about

Her: Stupid shit she thinks I care about talking about

Me: *five minutes has passed, I'm still holding her hand, and she's doing her own little escalation. She wants the D. Proceeding to understand logistics and learn if same day/night lay is possible or if I need to call her over at a later date*

And you can change up your method of screening depending on the energy of the environment you're in. At a party or something, slap her ass if you're boss enough.

The goal of this is to get rejected as fast as possible by women who are not what you're looking for. "But darkpwns! What about text game and day 2s?!"

To that, I say "fuck off". This thread isn't about dating women. If you want a rockin' sex life you reserve dates for women you want to place in your harem, but even then, the dates are minimal. You'll probably only get the true dating experience when you want to settle down and try monogamy. In this method, your time is valuable, and you're not going to waste it trying to convince girls that are not DTF to suck your dick (because it ain't happening).

Beyond screening for DTF girls, you also always want to have a plan going into an interaction. If your logistics are sound, feel free to attempt to escalate (rest your hand on her waist, play with her hair, make out with her, you know the deal). Your gameplan, when logistics allow should always be to get the lay as soon as possible. If your logistics are not sound, don't bother with fully escalating. Screening is all you need (so don't keep touching her after you know what you need to know!), just go for the number and go for the lay at a later date when your logistics work out.

When you're going out and talking to women, keep in mind why you're hitting on them in the first place. Don't get caught up in the PUA bullshit, think about your damned dick, not: "If I say this, the reaction based on evolutionary psychology should be this". That's fucking loser status. It may be nice to know, but 99.9% of it is not practical knowledge. Don't worry about IOIs (even an idiot knows when a girl wants to slob on his meat straw). All you need to know is that you must display confidence and leadership. Everything else is secondary.

If you absolutely must know what's going on in a woman's head, incorporate compliance testing into your day to day interactions. Lead her by the hand a few steps away after the open, have her do small things during the course of the conversation. Her compliance will be all the IOI you need.

There are also two approach styles you can go for. You can pre-screen your approaches with eye contact and a smile (a returned smile is 100% go), and you'll probably end up rejected less. The other way you can decide to approach is to play the numbers game. Approach any woman you want to stick your penis into and strike up conversation. The latter was my preferred method because I'd rather not spend my days waiting for a woman I found attractive to look at me so I can smile at her. The only place where I preferred the eye contact method was in a high energy environment, as I'd be looking to get laid within the next two hours.

Your "outer game" doesn't have to be all witty and shit for it to be effective. Hell, you can even "chode" it up and get way better results than somebody who still thinks "negging" is a cool thing to do. Effective outer game only means that it screens in those who are available to what you're looking for and screens out those who aren't. That's it. You can add to this recipe for outer game, but you cannot subtract these two things.

(Sidenote: Look as good as you possibly can in your current state. If you're average to below average looking, you'll get rejected mostly for being unable to generate any kind of physical attraction. You don't have to look like a male supermodel, just make an effort to look your best every time you leave the house. And watch your fitness. Rejections when you are at your best are more likely because she is unavailable for what you are looking for than anything else.)

When just starting off approaching women, make your interactions easy. You should only have to hit a few bases: 1) Approach, 2) Make reason for approach known 3) Introductions (and shake hands. This isn't the hardcore screening for DTF girls I mentioned earlier. This is simple and meant to build up your comfort in approaching women) 4) Fluff talk 5) Go for number (if you make it through steps 1-4, you will ALWAYS go for the number). Interactions shouldn't take much longer than five minutes, so you'll be able to repeat it many times in a short time frame.

You do it like this just starting off to get used to going for the number at all times, and also to get you to realize that you shouldn't be proud of yourself for getting a number. It isn't shit. And you'll realize this when you start going for dates and lays and the majority of the girls don't answer or don't want what you're selling anymore.

A note on plowing if you get rejected when going for the number: Fuck that. Are you some kind of loser that has nothing better to do with your life than continue to try to talk with a girl who has decided that you're not what she wants? I didn't think so. Save that plowing shit for the mPUA fucktards. Value your time. 9/10 girls are cool with giving their number to a guy they're interested in, even after a short interaction. If she's rejecting you, trying to talk to her until she changes her mind will work so rarely that the difference is negligible.

Don't worry about WHY you've been rejected. Or at least assume it is because she is unavailable, so long as you've done your best to look your best and appear confident in your movements and in your voice. Contrary to popular belief, girls get boyfriends (once more, contrary to popular belief, not all women are looking to cheat...so forget about boyfriend destroyers too. Those are stupid and if they work, the girl was a slide anyway, you would've hit without them), or are looking for boyfriends (which you are unlikely to fall into the category of if you're playing day game....you give off a bit of a player vibe. You're welcome), she just isn't interested in you (your look won't work for every girl...however if you get this type of rejection too much, you might want to look into increasing your sex appeal...trust me, you'll know when a girl isn't interested in you. Its when mPUAs tell you to "plow, man PLOW!"). As long as your core is solid (confidence) and you've worked on your appearance, if you get rejected, nothing will change that. The girl was going to reject you from the moment you walked up. She isn't available. No use thinking about it.

(Another note on looks: There seems to be many of these....perhaps it really is pretty important, no?

The only time you have to worry about why you were rejected when using basic approach strategy is when the majority of your approaches result in rejections that clue you into the fact that she's not interested, ie: one word answers, not looking at you, not making eye contact, always trying to wiggle away, etc. Just let them go and realize that your problem is because you are a creeper. At least you look like a creeper. Take care of yourself. Looking like there are some people out there that would have sex with you is key to getting people to want to talk, and eventually, have sex with you)


You will never walk off without even trying to go for the number. That means there is no such thing as ejection for you. The only way you go down is if you've been shot down. If the girl isn't talking much, you'll still go for the number. You only let a girl go if she legit doesn't want to stick around.

Eventually, you'll get good at this basic gaming strategy and will move on to finding your own way to screen for girls that are DTF. But until you've built your confidence up to that point, this is where you're at.

Oh, and going into approaching: Chill out. You'll get laid sometime, because after all, it is a numbers game. And with confidence, experience and self improvement (looks/personality), the odds forever fall more into your favor. This bullshit propaganda that makes you believe that when you get rejected, it is YOUR fault are just the "gurus" looking to take some more money.

On Confidence

Lots of men that lurk these sites aren't confident in themselves. So you read that you have to increase your confidence by gaining "cool" hobbies, etc. before you can hit on women. I'm here to tell you that that's bullshit. I'm all for self improvement, but you're here to get women. You can start building your confidence instantly. Fix your threads, get a haircut, fix your grooming, stand with your shoulders rolled back (chest out), stop looking at the ground. Oh, and project your voice (and severely limit the amount of filler words you use). These are all things that will make you feel more confident and what will make other people believe that you are confident.

The way to build actual confidence is to make goals and achieve them, you don't need "cool" hobbies (after all, my only hobbies include going to the gym and gaming, I party hard too). However, while having basic lifestyle confidence will help you with girls, it won't push you over the edge.

To push you over the edge you need a pussy specific kind of confidence. We'll say that you need to feel entitled. You probably won't be able to feel entitled without lifestyle confidence, so achieving that will most likely come first. However, you can build your sense of entitlement while building your all-purpose confidence.

A sense of entitlement means that you feel like you deserve sex and believe that you are "better" than the girl you want to get it from. If you feel like you're better than an 7, 7s shouldn't be a problem and so on and so forth.

To create a sense of entitlement:

1) Do affirmations (if that's your cup of tea: "I'm deserving of pussy", IMO, I think that's lame though, I like practical affirmations aka ego boosts)

2) Don't create competition for yourself. The majority of guys don't approach girls. So odds are, on any given day/night, if you've done your best to do your part in looking attractive, you are in the top percentage of men around so long as you approach. You have no competition, happy hunting.

3) Don't believe that happy go lucky shit about not comparing yourself to other people. You're a fucking man, you're competitive. Compare yourself to other people and overtake your mental model of them. Just don't go overboard and make it your life's work. When you see yourself getting better than your mental model, you'll feel much better about yourself.

4) Having a nice body goes a long way in feeling like you deserve higher quality pussy. You'll see when you start making gains that women that looked fuckable before now look like you'd need to be completely wasted to even consider.

5) Your current success with girls is not indicative of where your sense of entitlement should be, so long as you have your confidence, masculinity and looks on point. Remember, it's a numbers games. Even if the odds are in your favor, you may have a bad day where you lose every time.

6) Speaking of masculinity: You need to be a man. If people even consider thinking you're gay (no, it isn't your clothes, unless you're wearing assless chaps), you're doing it wrong.

7) The PUA community got the whole Leader of Men thing right. You definitely want to work on becoming the leader of your social circle. There are articles here dedicated to teaching you how to be a leader of men.

8) Occasionally friend zone hot girls. They add to your social value, which in turn adds to your sense of entitlement (as attraction = sex appeal + social freedom + social value [aka pre-selection])

9) You probably don't currently get ego boosts all the time at the moment, so I want you to get your ego boosts in the form of understanding that when you receive a compliment, you are not only getting this compliment from the one woman, but you are getting the compliment from thousands of others. This is a logical conclusion to come to, after all, what are the odds that only one person has a specific opinion? This extends to other types of positive reinforcement like agreeable responses to approaches. This also stops you from fishing for compliments. Because the validation you actively seek from others should be close to nothing.

10) Don't bitch, fix your problems yourself. This is more for all-purpose confidence, but maintaining your sense of entitlement depends on the state of your all-purpose confidence anyway.

11) Don't try to get pussy for the validation. It's inevitable that you'll seek some form of validation, but pussy and validation should be mutually exclusive things. You should want the pussy more than you want the validation.

12) Do whatever the fuck you want. Don't worry about sticking to some ideal that you feel you need to keep up to make your friends happy.

13) If you have an opinion, you're always right. The only time you can possibly be wrong is in discussions on fact. Some people might get annoyed with your propensity to think you're always right, but "fuck 'em", they will not be the majority, and odds are, they'll like you just the same.

14) Always think that the girl wants the D. Obviously, due to sexual availability, she may not seek the D. But if you're on top of your shit, she damn well thinks about it. Better to think that it's already in the bag than to think you have to convince her, like some sort of circus animal, to sleep with you.

15) When you get more experienced with women, you'll start to believe you're a sex god. Embrace it.

16) Find something about yourself that you think that nobody has better than you (it can be personality wise or physically...no, being a nice guy isn't one of the acceptable choices). Improve this feature. You're welcome.

17) Continue doing approaches to gain experience with women

18) Evaluate your standards. If you feel entitled to 9s and only 7.5s or 8s appear interested in you, then by all means, fuck these 7.5s and 8s while being on the prowl for a DTF 9. You have nothing to lose by doing this. However, if you don't, and you don't find a woman in your standard range, you'll become sexually needy. And that means a longer dry spell for you.

19) If you feel entitled to 9s and only 5s and 6s are into you, you might want to reevaluate where you stand on the hotness scale and fix it. Remember to take what you can get (within a certain looks threshold of course. If you're only getting 3s and 4s, you may want to just try to get up to 5s and 6s being interested in you before you start fucking anything that wants the D). Having higher standards than makes logical sense for your current standing in terms of sexual desirability (sex appeal + social freedom + social value) will cripple your ability to have sex with women.

On the ratings scale

Overall, I don't really like the rating scale, because I know what I like, and I know what I think is attractive and what is not. In my personal dealings with women I do not rate between 1-10. My rating scale goes:

10) Fucking sexy, would bang. She looks like she'd be a perfect match for me
9) Pretty damn hot, would bang. A little room for improvement, but not much
8) Hot, would bang. I could probably do better though
7) Cute, would bang on a slow night. I could definitely do better though
6) Above average, would bang during a dry spell. I'm always looking to trade up and cut her out of the rotation though
5) Average, would pity fuck, but otherwise, would not bang. She doesn't deserve to be on the rotation.
4) No, no, no, no
3) No, no, no, no, no
2) No, no, no, no, no, no
1) HELL FUCKING NO! NOPE, NO! NOPEITY NOPE! YOU MUST BE OUT OF YOUR MIND! NO! NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!

As you can see, I feel entitled for women that most men consider 10s (that's not comparing to dolled up celebs on the red carpet), but I'd take down to 7s outside of a dry spell. 6s for a dry spell and 5s for a REALLY dry spell (and only a pity fuck at that). Many guys when using the rating scale forget that 5 is average if you're using a 10 point scale. A normal guy shouldn't be ashamed to fuck a 5. Most guys ARE fucking 5s. When starting off, don't be ashamed to be fucking 5s. After a while, when you improve your quality on the hotness scale, you can move on to never fucking fives, like I did (before getting back into monogamy).

On relationships

Eventually the time will come when you want to try a monogamous relationship. A good relationship is extremely fulfilling, however having a good relationship is difficult. I wouldn't say that it's work, but it isn't for the faint of heart. Know that by getting into a monogamous relationship you open yourself up to a world of hurt if things go sour. I hope you have a strong sense of self (otherwise known as "frame").

My personal rules for getting into a monogamous relationship:

1) Never, EVER get into a monogamous relationship if you haven't first had sex with the girl. I know you may think that high school girls are more inclined to trade sex FOR the relationship, but you want no part in that. The stupidity of having a "relationship" without the sex is staggering. Just don't do it.
2) Have a rotation prior to becoming monogamous. Otherwise known as a harem. This keeps you objective about your prospects and when you whittle your harem down to one girl, she will have been your best option.
3) If she doesn't initiate the DTR (determine the relationship) speech, DON'T YOU DARE initiate it yourself.
4) Make sure that you're constantly improving yourself while in a relationship. Female hypergamy is a real thing. Always make yourself her best option

If you need to know about harem management before getting into a monogamous relationship, I've also got rules for that:

1) Only call or text twice a week (excepting the meet confirmation texts)
2) Meet each woman once a week at maximum
3) You call or text only to set up meets
4) Three days prior is the maximum time prior to the meetup that you may set one up
5) Meetup text should be sent 2-3 hours prior (to ensure you won't get flaked on)
6) Don't text with her back and forth for days. She isn't your girlfriend
7) Don't stay on the phone with her for too long (no more than 20 minutes). She isn't your girlfriend
8) Phone call, text and face to face communications are your only means of communication. None of that extra social media shit. Ever.
9) Don't answer a text or phone call if you've already spoken to her on either medium twice that week.
10) Always be busy (or fake being busy if you aren't)
11) Don't talk to her on weekends unless you want to fuck. Build the dread game to keep her hooked.
12) Get off the phone with her first
13) Establish what type of relationship you have with her. By this, I mean, every time you see her, you will fuck.

On AMOGing

First, if you have a serious problem hitting on girls in mixed company (cock blocked by males in group), you might want to raise your social value and masculinity. If you are dominant, confident and have a high social value, most average guys will be intimidated by you and get out of your way.

A prime example of this happened when I was in a club a few months ago. I spotted a girl that was killing the dance floor all by herself (seemingly). I usually don't dance in clubs, I generally crowd the bar (the bartenders at the club I go to love me, free[ish] drinks). I made an exception and walked over to dance with her. I escalated the dance quickly, and soon she was running her hands all up and down my body, reaching behind her to grab on my crotch while I was grinding on her ass.

That whole time there was this guy in front of her dancing all awkwardly by himself. I didn't think anything of him at first, but when I stopped dancing with her when she told me she was going to the bathroom and she'd be right back, they both left together. I figured it was a weird situation, and I'd never see her again so I went back to the bar. A few minutes later, she taps me on the back and told me she was willing to leave with me so long as we were back at the club by close.

This set off red flags for me so I asked her if the guy was her boyfriend. She looked extremely uncomfortable with the question before replying "No". If my relationship circumstances were different at the time, I would've taken her offer. But alas, monogamy. I turned her down and she went back to whatever she was doing (ie: Trying to cheat on her boyfriend)

That guy (her boyfriend) did nothing to stop me. He was intimidated by me (and is most definitely also a pussy in general), and this is the case with many mixed sets I engage. Guys get out of my way.

If you're being AMOGed often, odds are, guys think they've got more status than you. Most likely, they do. Don't let it deter you though. Just act like they don't exist. You're there for the girls, not the guys. Give them no more attention than they warrant. Answer their questions in as short of a way as you possibly can if they continue to try to talk to you.

Why? If you can't dominate a set from the moment you arrive, you lose your sexual desirability. These guys are trying to out you as being lower value than them. And if you are, in fact, lower value than them, you don't want this to be general knowledge. By ignoring them, you send the message that they're so beneath you, that they don't even warrant a modicum of your attention. This is the ultimate diss.

About your oneitis....

If you've got a oneitis who put you in the friend zone at the moment, I have a few words for you.

You want nothing to do, romantically, with this woman. You can read up all you want about getting out of the friend zone, but there's no guarantee that it'll work. Overall, it's a waste of time. Continuing to pine after this woman is crippling your ability to meet and eventually have sex with (or enter into a monogamous relationship) with women who WANT your romantic attention. So what I want you to do is friend zone that chick right back.

You will use her as the first girl that contributes to your social proof. And if further on down the line, after you've been involved with other women; she wants your cock, then so be it. But, that should not be your goal. You are to stop thinking about her in a romantic sense immediately. I've been there, and I've done that and I've regretted it for years.

Be In Charge

Your relationship with both women and everyone else in your life should not be a supplicating one.  If you're truly a top percent guy, you're a man on a mission.  YOUR mission is the most important thing to you, therefore, you have no business fucking around in somebody else's pace.  Have a plan, stick to your plan.  There's no reason to derail yourself doing what somebody else wants you to do if it doesn't fit in with your plan (unless it's in your job.  Then, you're pretty fucked there, until you become your own boss).  

This means one important thing for your relationship with women.  You are NOT equal.  



Oh, joy, I'll have feminists on me for this one.  Whatever.  


(Caveat: I do not in any way condone treating a woman like she's your slave.  Fuck off with that.)



You are NOT equal to your fuck buddy, to your girlfriend, to your wife.  Would you say a captain of a ship and his first mate are equal?  Didn't think so.  The relationship dynamic is the same.  Your first mate has an extremely valuable opinion, and you'll consider that opinion before any others, but at the end of the day, you're running the ship.  You make the call to ignore your first mate or make use of your advice, all coinciding with how it benefits your mission.  Of course, the first mate analogy only applies to your SO.  With a fuck buddy, unless it is moving into "kinda getting serious" territory, you shouldn't give her such an important place in your life.

This also means you cannot be indecisive.  You WILL know what you're going to do on dates.  I've winged it tons of times on dates.  At  first this meant I'd ask something like "What do you want to do?", and sometimes it would work out anyway, but we'd always get sidetracked from my mission of trying to have sex and at the end of the date, I always felt as if I'd failed.

Recently, when I winged it, I'd have a general idea of the tone I wanted to set for a date, and a general direction I wanted to travel in.  I eliminated the "What do you want to do?"s from my dating strategy and set out to accomplish my goal (which at the time was: "Show her what I consider a bomb ass time out"), and this got me way more results than relying on doing things that she wanted to do.

Such actions [doing what she wants to do] are good for romantic gestures, such as fulfilling some romantic fantasy she had, from time to time.  However, it fails as a "go-to" dating/relationship strategy.

What this means for your life as a top percent guy is that once you have your priorities sorted out, your mission in life should be progressing in those parts of your life.  If somebody wants you to do something that will stall your progress or is an outright negative influence on it, you should reserve every right to tell them to suck your dick before you even CONSIDER doing it.  And you cut back on things that take up too much of your limited time if they don't contribute to your mission.  So, if going to parties doesn't contribute to your overall mission, then there is no reason for you to go to one Thursday, Friday and Saturday.  A party on Saturday is good enough for you.  If parties are detrimental to your mission, you have no reason to go at all.

The Lifestyle of a Top Percenter

Your time is your most valuable asset.  Your clock on your life is ticking down one second at a time.  Take a moment to let that sink in.

Now that you've done that, you need to know how to budget your time.  I, personally set up a schedule for the following day sometime before I go to sleep.

I'll put down a couple of sample schedules:

High School
0700: Wakeup, breakfast before 0730
0730: Personal hygeine, get dressed
0800: Transit
0845-1430: School
1430-1700: Hang out/Do approaches
1700: Transit
1700-2000: Homework/Dinner
2000-2100: Exercise
2100: Personal Hygeine, prepare for the next day
2100-2300: Entertain myself (aka: troll the internet)

Weekends/Summer
Wakeup by 1000
1030: Breakfast
1115-1200: Exercise
1200: Personal Hygeine, get dressed
1300-1500: Do approaches
1500-1800: Indulge in hobbies
1900-2000: Dinner, Prepare for next day
2000-2200: Pregame (Personal hygeine, get dressed, listen to good music, solidify plans with crew)
2200-: Head out for the night

These were two actual schedules I've used during high school.  It helped to see how much time I had in a day on paper, it allowed me to really hone in on what was important and get things completed.  Find out how you want to use your time, and budget it accordingly.


Moving on, you should be aware of who you hang out with.  You may have heard the saying "birds of a feather flock together" and I want to tell you, that it's true.  You want to surround yourself with people who are going places in life (after all, aren't you?).  You've no need for friends who have no plan.  This doesn't mean you have to cut them out of your life (after all, they're probably still fun), but they should not be your main crew.  Friends exist to add value to your life.  Not drag you down.


A top percenter is also driven.  You're at the age where you can start thinking about your future in depth.  Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years?  Now, what would it take for you to achieve greatness?  If you in 10 years is not on track to or already at greatness, then you might need to reevaluate your goals.  


If you haven't been told by your guidance counselor already: There's a way to setting goals.


You create one large goal that will take time to achieve.  An example:


Big Goal: I want to be a VIP Host at the hottest club in LA

You'll set milestones along the way to this


Initial Milestone: Get a job as a street promoter


After you reach your initial milestone you can start making daily, weekly, and monthly milestones


Daily Milestone: Do X amount of approaches to increase the number of potential heads I can get saying my name at the door
Weekly Milestone: Get X amount of heads in the door saying my name
Monthly Milestone: Get put on permanent promoting staff for cut of cover charge


And you do this until you reach your goal.  By setting small goals on the way to your large one, you won't get discouraged and quit before you attain your final goal.

And here's some difficult news....

What comes after this is a generalization, although in my experience, it has been relatively accurate.  If you choose to believe it, it will tear down everything you are and you'll have to rebuild yourself and your beliefs anew.


Women will love you.

Yes.

Women will love you, but not the way you want them to.


Men dream of women that will love them unconditionally, and be there for them during the rough times when their world crumbles down around them.  Men dream of having a girl think of them as their "soulmate".

This will not happen.  Just as you go around life, evaluating your options (but you'd probably not cheat....I hope.  I hate cheating scumbags), she is doing the same.  She is always looking to trade up.  You are not her soulmate, and she isn't yours.  Further down the line, you may agree to peacefully spend your lives together, but there is no permanence in this love.  Maintaining her love rides on your ability to maintain your status in her mental social hierarchy.

As mentioned before, this doesn't mean you have to be the coolest fucker in the world.  You just have to be cooler than her.


This is why relationships are the most advanced play you'll ever run.  

If your frame isn't solid, and you don't understand that the wonder you have about the grass on the other side, is very seriously considered on her side; a relationship could be stressful, and it'll be more detrimental to your mental health than beneficial.  And you won't see things going sour until it is too late.  I've seen many of my friends broken by a divorce I saw coming from miles away.  None of them would want to believe what I had to say to them until it was too late.  And I don't blame them.  I'd want to punch somebody in the face if I'd been told a few years ago, that my wife or girlfriend didn't love me unconditionally.


If you understand this information.  Don't get upset about it.  We do the same thing.  Of course we think it far more devastating when done to us, but we do it too.  Getting upset about the hypergamy that makes the world go 'round will only serve to damage your future relationships.  This is another part about women that makes them interesting.  There is never any time to rest.  A high quality woman on top of an already strong sense of purpose can push a good man to greatness while he is in a continuous state of self improvement to stay ahead of his woman's own gains in status.

If your women falls out of love with you, she either doesn't like the person you're becoming or you've fallen off in status in relation to her.   If you are feeling like you're making strides to becoming the man you dreamed you could be, then it is time to cut your woman loose.  If you find yourself living in a melancholic manner, then you need to get your shit together or you'll lose your woman.  It might take years for her to finally give up on waiting for the "good ole days" to return; but it WILL happen.

Closing notes

For now, this will be the end. It took me three days to write this, so I'm kind of burned out on writing about this topic. If I think of anything else, I'll be returning to this to change or add things to this.

[amarok]

Good to see you back! Awesome shit.

[joeybrown]

I like the sense of entitlement thing as well as the thought process of telling yourself you want sex.

I think the reason why I do better with 5-6's is because I know I just want to hook up with them and feel I can do it. The hot girls I feel like I want to date her and get to know her but at the end of the day its an end to get laid. Good article everyone should take 30 minutes and read it

[darkpwns]

Update: Added a "Be in Charge" section and a "And here's some difficult news" section


The last bit was the most heartbreaking thing I made myself come to grips with. I crafted the rest of this article in a way that I wouldn't have to explain that bit, because if you incorporate the majority of these things into yourself, you'll inherently understand the concept.

But over time, I thought it might be necessary to explain it as I realized I wasn't able to incorporate all of this without that basic understanding.