Hey Guys (My short story)

[lunchtime]

Hi I'm David and here is my social circle story thing lol,

so on a scale of like

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I'm really only known to people in the 10th grade (Sophmores) some Freshmans and some Juniors but I really want to have a lot of friends I just try to display my regular cool personality with people I'm not desperate or needy for their attention but I really just want girls but there are barely any inside of my social circle although my 2 friends talk to a lot. 

What I really want to do is to find out how to have a lot of friends (girls as friends too) because right now I still would say I have a lot I talk to on a daily basis but not as much as I would like. 

[derekk]

glad to have you then man.


My advice-


1. Forget about 'social circle game'. I'm not sure about you, but I only have two months left of school. Don't stress meeting new classmates and all that jazz right now. It's time for studying and sports. Plus, you'll naturally get into these 'social circles' once people realize that you're a fun guy to be around.


2. Experience first, ask questions later. Simple as that. Don't ask for advice on a situation beforehand, that'll do you no good. Experience the situation for yourself, then ask for advice after the fact.

3. Drop most of the 'pickup' material. Most of the threads you'll read on here are going to be completely useless to you. Most theory will make your mind work too much. If anything, I suggest this guy's videos.

4. Meditate nightly. Meditate whenever you have the time to, especially if you've been on the computer for more than an hour. You can't expect to jump right into a social state right after you hop off a 5 hour gaming session. You have to shut off your brain every now and then to jump into your body and balls.

5. Don't let your life revolve around girls. Make it revolve around an activity you love doing.


that's all i feel like typing right now, and it's really all you need.

[lunchtime]

Thanks derekk I'm not really follow the high-school--->college--->find job you hate--->pay off loans---> work till you die kind of thing. I know to some people it's a terrible life plan but my friends and I are supporting each other through the post-high school life so we can experience the quarter-life crisis together.

[amarok]

I agree with everything derekk said except for point 1. lunchtime is a sophomore if I read the first post right. That means you have ~2 years to create an awesome social environment for yourself. I did it in 1 year. Even two months, it's worth working on. You're going to need those skills to thrive in college and just in the world. Go through the welcome thread. It was sent to you in a PM thread. Those will set you on the right track.

[derekk]

Mar 19, 2014 21:20:17 GMT -5 lunchtime said:

Thanks derekk I'm not really follow the high-school--->college--->find job you hate--->pay off loans---> work till you die kind of thing. I know to some people it's a terrible life plan but my friends and I are supporting each other through the post-high school life so we can experience the quarter-life crisis together.

I felt the same way too, but you have to face reality. It's best if you do really well in school>Go to college for free or very cheaply>Get working experience and a degree on something you like>get a job... etc.

And, even if you have your heart set on not going to college, you should still work on getting the best grades you possibly can in high school. That way, you're not completely f*cked when you're a senior and you happen to change your view towards college

Mar 19, 2014 23:10:21 GMT -5 amarok said:

I agree with everything derekk said except for point 1. lunchtime is a sophomore if I read the first post right. That means you have ~2 years to create an awesome social environment for yourself. I did it in 1 year. Even two months, it's worth working on. You're going to need those skills to thrive in college and just in the world. Go through the welcome thread. It was sent to you in a PM thread. Those will set you on the right track.

Good explanation, I just don't want him to stress over making a ton of new friends when the school year is almost over. With that said, you can pretty much take a careless and experimental approach towards meeting new kids at school, because, soon, none of it is going to matter. Everything will reset the next school yr

[lunchtime]

Thanks Derekk that's actually good shit i'm considering that

[swatt]

Welcome