bison
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Post by bison on Apr 8, 2014 20:26:03 GMT -5
Okay so Im a junior and I already established myself as the nice guy and defnitely not the douchey guy. But like ive heard and have seen in person I understand that the douche guy gets the girls. Too bad i figured this out just a couple months ago. Anyways, since i already have this reputation I go to a small school and there arent many girls left at all that i can go for since i pretty much freindzoned and or just hu with them at one point. Furthermore, theres one girl and yes i have oneitis and all of you are gonna tell me to go out with other girls and i have been but i always seem to fall back to this one specific girl and that definitely means something. I really want her to be my girlfriend but if you guys have read my last threads you know that my bestfriend fucked her in the begiining of the schoool year and she is just kinda obbsessed with him but he has a girlfriend and is of limits for now. She definitely likes me a lot and I can def. see us going out and it seems like she is kind of getting the same jist that things could work but like i still havent won her over enough (PS. she still likes him alot more but cant have him) (hes the douchey type). But all i want to know is, is there any way that the nice guy (me) can win this girl over?
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Post by amarok on Apr 8, 2014 22:59:08 GMT -5
"yes I have oneitis..." "I always seem to fall back to this one...that definitely means something"
That definitely means you have oneitis. I don't know if you can win over this girl.
The big reason the douche gets the girls is because he's doing things like flipping attraction switches. He's keeping the girl on her emotional feet and pushing and pulling her. That is why girls love assholes. By the popular definition of nice guy, no, you cannot beat him out. However, you don't need to be an asshole to make a girl feel things. Go look at the attraction switches, open loops, and push/pull guides in the attraction board. Those are the things your friend is doing, those are some of the things you need to learn, use, and make a part of who you are.
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derekk
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Registered: Feb 26, 2013 20:09:11 GMT -5
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Post by derekk on Apr 9, 2014 15:16:24 GMT -5
stare dat bish right in the eyes and start talking to her. (seriously)
fuck the forums and all the advice that is out here on the internet, and just go fucking flirt with her. Experience this situation for yourself. Enjoy it. Enjoy the success and/or failure will come from it.
After, if you feel like you have messed up or could have done things smarter, come back to the forums and put up a legit question.
good luck man, and trust yourself! You've got this. Don't worry about what you've been told, just do what you want! Let go!
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Post by amarok on Apr 9, 2014 21:57:11 GMT -5
As important as going out and practicing, learning is still important. I know we like bashing pick up and all, but there are gold mines of information and techniques that you should be integrating into your personality. Derekk, no offense but I don't see tons of lay reports so I wouldn't be so quick to say "fuck the forums" and their advice. If you took some time to read through some of it and applied it more than once and really learned it, it could really help you, and everyone else here too.
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derekk
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Post by derekk on Apr 10, 2014 18:11:08 GMT -5
As important as going out and practicing, learning is still important. I know we like bashing pick up and all, but there are gold mines of information and techniques that you should be integrating into your personality. Derekk, no offense but I don't see tons of lay reports so I wouldn't be so quick to say "fuck the forums" and their advice. If you took some time to read through some of it and applied it more than once and really learned it, it could really help you, and everyone else here too. the only thing he needs right now is principle. techniques aren't going to help if you're doing them with a wrong mindset (doing it to please or impress her, to act cool); they're just going to act as a handicap because you're going to be spending more time thinking than actually being in the moment and being yourself. |
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Post by amarok on Apr 11, 2014 10:18:28 GMT -5
You didn't say anything about mindset. You said to just go do it. Techniques are a crutch to give guys the confidence and balls to do what they haven't done before: flirt. That's how all of us that have become successful with girls have done. You use the techniques, get rejected a bunch and get a few good stories, then you keep practicing and find it comes just a bit easier, some things in conversation will slip out that work and you'll think to yourself, "wait, did I just say that?" Then you start thinking about yourself and everything you've learned and you realize those techniques that sounded clunky the first time you used them are becoming a part of you and bringing you success. Technique is important.
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