I don't get it.

[wowscycho84]

Okay, I'm just utterly confused and it has stopped me in my tracks. I've been trying all this time, to atleast get a phone number, or anything like that, interest. A girlfriend is like my goal. One that I am visually pleased with. I will not settle for less. But here I see, My friend. Who is like the NICEST nice guy, you'll ever meet. Has dated 2 girls within like 5 months. I've seen him in action, and he's really not all that type of guy like some of you on here. He's told me some pretty deep stuff, and he has some serious self esteem issues. But, here I am. With nothing. Now this is just an example of a What the fuck am i doing moment. I'm not trying to rush it or anything. I'm just intrigued by the fact, nothing has happened yet. Maybe it's just me. I dunno. It's just made it seem like all this time I've spent trying to do this is useless. It's making my brain think that all of this doesn't even work. Or maybe I'm just not trying hard enough. I see my problem though. I haven't asked a girl out yet. I haven't asked for her phone number yet. But, all I have to go off of, is that fact the she laughed at my jokes, or thinks I'm funny. I just don't want to go off of that and get rejected flat out. Or made fun of. I'd atleast think I'd see some signs that I should ask her out of get her number. I dunno. Thanks for reading my rant. Whoever you may be.

[amarok]

It might be because of all those comma splices.

Just kidding (kind of). There's a few things that could be causing you not to get a number. One of those things is that you haven't asked a girl for it yet. Part of it could be that you're not trying hard enough. It probably has something to do with not stepping out of your comfort zone. I don't know what you do, so I can't say.

I can say this. We are not the only way to get girls. As long as two people have fun together there's a chance they will date. I can also say that you should start a journal and create goals, such as talking to 5 girls you don't know in a week. If you use it properly, the journal will keep you accountable to us. In the end, though, it's up to you to stand up and act. Acting is the only way to get better. So go make a journal for yourself, name it something cool, and show us what it is you do. You can make it as detailed as possible. The more detailed it is the more we can help you.

[derekk]

remember that it is not the girl's job to initiate.



you have to make the first move. you can't always wait for them to give you the first signs.




by the way, you should work on your grammmar

[Magnum]

Simply ask for the number! If you're not used to this you'll find that it is one of the MOST NORMAL THING IN THE WORLD these days. most of the girls will even give you their number just because they talked to you for 5 minutes.

"It's just made it seem like all this time I've spent trying to do this is useless"

Think about everything you have done since you started this journey. Be honest with yourself:Have you ever put yourself in a situation where you went against any excuse your body would give for you not to get out of your comfort zone? Do you think you did everything possible to get to the goals you made to yourself?

If the answer is NO, then wipe your tears and do everything in your power to get all the girls you want. Then you can ask for help to get over an obstacle, but in the end it comes down to you (we're not going to get the girl, YOU are)

If the answer is yes then I'm afraid there's nothing we can do and you might as well quit.

Apr 30, 2014 16:26:02 GMT -5 wowscycho84 said:

It's making my brain think that ALL OF THIS doesn't even work. Or maybe I'm just not trying hard enough.

"All of this" doesn't exist. We don't make some voodoo shit here that gets you girls. We try to help you take control of your life (of course we foccus more on the romantic/sexual part of it).

Life runs fast man. The time you spend thinking about fictional scenarios with girls you could be getting with those girls.

Like amarok said, it'd be a good idea to start a journal.

Good luck!