Rant

[swatt]

Welcome to the forum. Looks like you havent started out too well, mainly because this is in ¨Secific Help¨... I mean are you asking for advice? Or did I just miss it.

Anyways please please please dont do that. When you see her tomorrow be really nice, do not DO NOT DO NOT act like anything is or went wrong last night (because nothing did go wrong, you're totally fine). What I want you to do is keep the mentality that you dont care if you get rejected or not, and put it into your everyday life. Now modify it a little. Be smart with this mentality, be aware of this situation. If you go up to her and try to kiss her at school, most likely you will get rejected. The good news is that you have a second chance. Make the most of it with you new mindset (the confident, disregard for rejection, and smart one we just talked about) and go out with her again, meet her at a party, go squirrel hunting... idk. but meet her again, and be the cool guy that made her want to go out with you in the first place. If it doesnt work out with this one GUESS WHAT!!!! There are probably a shit ton more girls at your school!

Start a "field report" or "journal" next time for this. Or you could play by the rules and ask us for advice, or help, or our opinion on this.

Now go to the introduction section and tell us a little about yourself so we can better address this situation.

[Deleted]

Thanks swatt. Do you really think I shouldn't try to kiss her tomorrow? Anyway I do want advice. What I want to know is what I should do now lol. I feel like she has all the control because I made it obvious that I wanted to kiss her, and then didn`t actually do it, which makes no sense. I feel like I'll end up in the fz, thus the reason I wanted to kiss her tomorrow (today actually).

[derekk]

fucking breathe and stop thinking about her, seriously.

meditate for 15-20ish minutes tonight and in the morning if you can.


When the time comes, slow down, breathe deeply, stare her in the eyes. Then, grab her by the neck or the chin and lean forward to kiss her.

and, by the way, remember that kissing can be messy.

[shyguy]

May 5, 2014 18:52:13 GMT -5 @pua098 said:

We flirted a bit via text, but she randomly stopped texting me. This is the first time she hasn't responded to one of my texts. I guess she's losing attraction.

Oh god man u gotta chill out and stop jumping to conclusions. You have to realize that there are a million other things that couldve distracted her from texting u.

[amarok]

She didn't answer one text message and she awesome it's all done? Take a chill pill man. She probably had to go do something.

Still, good for you for talking to other girls.

Freeze outs are stupid.

[Sloth]

the cutest girl ever. - This makes you massively outcome dependant, it makes her seem better than you and it puts pressure on everything you do and say, because you're always trying to live up to that. Instead realise that she is just a human being, she gets the shits same as you do, so don't treat her like she's better than you. After all, you wouldn't treat an ugly girl any different, yet they are the same species, no?

Guess what? I DIDN'T FUCKING KISS HER. I didn't kiss her the first time we went out, and I didn't kiss today. - Draw a line under it. There is literally nothing you can change about your past, but you can become more present and in doing so you will be more successful in the future. Beating yourself up only promotes negativity.


She looked amazing today, and I didn't kiss her!! I didn't even hold her hand while we were walking. - you should do what you want to do. If she looks amazing, tell her she looks amazing. If you feel that strongly, follow through with action and kiss her. What kind of life will you lead if you don't follow your deepest desires with any action? You could die tomorrow and you didn't even kiss a girl you liked today. Wake up, realise how easy it is. But not just now, IN THE MOMENT. Wake up IN THE MOMENT and realise that IN THE MOMENT you can shape your own reality.


She must think I'm the biggest wimp out there. - irrelevant



She knows I want to kiss her... / I guess I'm afraid of getting rejected - if she KNOWS you want to kiss her and she's agreeing to go on dates with you. She WILL NOT REJECT YOU. Girls don't usually agree to go out with guys if they don't want things to go anywhere with them, but they especially don't when they know the guys planning to kiss them eventually. So IF she knows you want to kiss her, then bro, she wants to kiss you too.


If I see her, I don't care how, I will try to kiss her - no you won't, you'll inevitably bottle it. Sorry, but you're nowhere near that level yet. Shit i hope you prove me wrong, but you'll be back here saying the same shit about how much you hate yourself.

Alright, there's a breakdown for you.

You're going to die one day man. You could die any day. I want you to write that down somewhere and keep it with you, then next time you're with her i want you to take it out, read it, then fucking get over your 'ego' and do it.

I've been rejected countless times, when i was first breaking out of my comfort zone the pure elation of conquering fear and being a man always masked any effect rejection ever had on me. Nowadays it is meaningless. It happens.


To everyone else, no i'm not really back. I monitor the forums as a favour to Eastcoat and i saw the advice on this one was lacking for a guy that is in serious need of a fucking life-check.

Sloth out x