Does anyone have experience with adhd?

[blackpanther]

So I have been diagnosex with ADHD since kindergarden. The funny thing is that in the beginning of high school I tried to ignore it but it became a vy important part of my life. It has made all of my efforts to be more social difficult because I can't pick up on simple zocial cues most people take flr granted. As a result, I end up losing interest because it takes four times as much effort for me to be socially active. So, why did I post this here? Well, there was this girl who i was friends with for the greater part of the year. We definately were pretty close. The problem was I had a period of time during which I could have asked her out but adhd got in the way. I didn't pick up on the flirting and the cues I was sending and recieving. As a result, she attempted to ask me out and I at the time had impossible standards in my head so I said I didn't like her i the way she thought. Next, I became distant and uncomfortable around her. So now we talk again. But how can I possibly fix this situation and also does anyone have strategies that may help? What ADHD does to me is make it difficult for me to have conversations because I tend to talk about facts instead of people. Also, I have a difficult time staying on a single topic with someone durina conversation. In addition, I tend to lose interest really quickly. Tbag is my dilema. And no medication. It made me feel depressed among other things.

[derekk]

try meditation, seriously

Search up Ajahn Brahm on Youtube.

[Magnum]

Yo man!

I don't really know much about ADHD to be honest (just really, really basic research).

What I want to show you is an example of my life.

When I was a little boy I was told my breathing difficulties were because of something called asthma. This was the name of something I saw as an obstacle that separated me from my friends: they could run and play for hours while I'd be dying to breathe if I ran for some seconds. With time I realized that I couldn't have so much fun like my friends.

Some years later I had a problem with my lungs which would be aggravated due to my asthma and I had to go to the hospital. Luckily I was treated well and returned to my home after some weeks at the hospital.

Then my parents decided to make me do some sports so I got some swimming and tennis lessons. At first it was fucking painful and I had this voice in the back of my head always saying "you'll never be as good as your friends cause you have THAT problem". Although at first I wanted to quit, I kept practicing because I had nothing else to do: and I started ENJOYING IT. For the next years i made a promise to myself which was to stop when I'd get to my limit, then I'd rest, then I'd go for it again. It started to be a game in which my only oponent was myself.

Even if I had to work harder than my friends I didn't care, cause the only person I had to beat was myself.

Fast forward, I'm here, one of the fastest guys at my school and one of those who can run for the longest periods of time. I got to a point where I don't even think about it.

Now I'm even proud I have this thing called asthma cause if I didn't, I wouldn't have pushed myself so hard to get where I am.

So the message I'm trying to send you is to not see your ADHD as a problem you can't solve, but as a limit you can push. Even if you have to work more than other people use it to be proud of yourself "even with these barriers I'm pushing myself harder than anyone I know, and that's what makes me GROW"

I hope this little story gives you the bit of motivation to make a plan to socialize more and push yourself out of your comfort zone. Then, it is all about discipline to achieve your goals.

Keep us updated man

[derekk]

good chit magnum, I can relate because I, too, had to conquer severe asthma.


Elliott Hulse likes to say some quote that goes something like
"it's not so much about what you've accomplished, it's more about who you've become through achieving those accomplishments," and it rings *quite truly.