What do you usually follow up with?

[laidbackwilly]

Hey fellas!

I've been studying some famous PUAs lately and the message of most respected Puas is to be confident, do the things because you want to do them and make jokes because you like them and that sort of things, and I strongly agree since they're already in my lifestyle, but I still need some things to follow up on the opener..

So like you've probably already read in the title, my question for this thread will be what you guys do after opening a complete stranger.

So you're in this situation and you've probably opened her up with a funny/situational or rather serious opener, perhaps you've exchanged names already.. but then?



Of course you can always use the standard situational ones about the music or the heat but those won't get you into a real topic, so what do you usually follow up with? Do you have a bunch of questions prepared or what?





Thanks!

[Magnum]

Well it comes naturally for me so it's a bit difficult to give you a logic answer.

Ask her where she's from (you can determine the logistics that way), make assumptions (i.ex. you look like you are from *place*), ask her what she's doing this summer, etc. You really have unlimited topics to talk about

If you or her are a bit nervous, just acknowledge it: saying stuff like "I'm really nervous right now. I don't usually do this kind of stuff" and laugh at how funny the situation is.

Good luck man! And welcome to the forum

[laidbackwilly]

Hey man thanks for your quick reply!

I'm trying to make sort of a list for such things, mainly because I want to be able to talk to a bunch of complete strangers this summer, something I haven't done much yet. In normal situations while being introduced to somebody I'm mostly perfectly fine since I'm a social guy. When I'm rationalizing the things-to-ask in a club-like situation to complete strangers though, then I can't think of more then a couple boring, dead-end questions.. What questions in a club-like situation would you ask?

[Magnum]

I'm trying to make sort of a list for such things, mainly because I want to be able to talk to a bunch of complete strangers this summer, something I haven't done much yet

its cool to see that you are willing to take some action!
Well, in the club you can ask the same questions, thing is you have to be more energetic, loud and fun to be around or most girls will get away from you (because in clubs you are competing with loud music and lots of people dancing around so it's easy for them to lose focus on you). I'd ask really simple questions and get to know basic stuff about the girl and then move to a more quiet place after (you can say something simple like "hey let's go over there" and just lead her there by the hand).

Keep us updated man!

[amarok]

Knowing what to say comes with practice. Until then, just go for it. Make sure you have a goal in mind. Do you want to hang out with her at some point? Then you're going to have to find out what you guys have in common, or make the differences seem funny and insignificant.

[derekk]

first off, stop "studying" puas. That will guaranteed GET YOU NOWHERE. It's good that you got into pickup, but now it's time for you to get out of it. All that fucking stupid pickup language will ruin your perspective on talking to chicks. It makes it seem so much more serious than it actually is.


Seriously, look at what you just wrote! you want to be lighthearted and fun, but you're already looking at pickup as if it is some kind of job that requires serious training- and, don't get me wrong, it does take lots of practice to become comfortable talking to women, but it should be seen as an adventure, rather than a job.

Secondly, you're new to this, so it doesnt matter what you say, especially if you're in a bar/club scene (a place where it's normal to hit up chicks).  
At the moment, you just want to get your feet wet. If you're out in the daytime, just shoot for regular conversations. Expect nothing from the girls that you talk to, just have a simple conversation with them.
Make that your new mindset. "I'm going to have a conversation with her."

That is all. It's definitely not going to get you laid, but, as i said earlier, it'll get your feet wet. Ask for her number if you want, but dont feel like you have to.
(btw, when asking for her numero, say something along the lines of "Aight, let's stay in contact. What's your number?")


that's as far as i have to go, and that's all you need to know at this point.

[laidbackwilly]

Jun 16, 2014 13:22:02 GMT -5 derekk said:

first off, stop "studying" puas. That will guaranteed GET YOU NOWHERE. It's good that you got into pickup, but now it's time for you to get out of it. All that fucking stupid pickup language will ruin your perspective on talking to chicks. It makes it seem so much more serious than it actually is.


Seriously, look at what you just wrote! you want to be lighthearted and fun, but you're already looking at pickup as if it is some kind of job that requires serious training- and, don't get me wrong, it does take lots of practice to become comfortable talking to women, but it should be seen as an adventure, rather than a job.

Secondly, you're new to this, so it doesnt matter what you say, especially if you're in a bar/club scene (a place where it's normal to hit up chicks).  
At the moment, you just want to get your feet wet. If you're out in the daytime, just shoot for regular conversations. Expect nothing from the girls that you talk to, just have a simple conversation with them.
Make that your new mindset. "I'm going to have a conversation with her."

That is all. It's definitely not going to get you laid, but, as i said earlier, it'll get your feet wet. Ask for her number if you want, but dont feel like you have to.
(btw, when asking for her numero, say something along the lines of "Aight, let's stay in contact. What's your number?")


that's as far as i have to go, and that's all you need to know at this point.

Thanks for your reply, I like how blunt & straightforward you are; I like that in people, for me it's no use to bullshitting around instead of saying what's got to be said.

I however do think that I haven't been complete enough as to the information about myself, looking at your reply.
I'm not new in PUA; discovered it about 2 years ago while I already was already pretty extrovert and social. Had some proper results and got into a relationship after a while that lasted until 2 weeks ago. This is the second time we broke up; a year ago it was the same and the girls I gamed in that (pretty short) period worked out pretty well. While in the relationships I have watched some videos or articles as they accidentally came by, out of general interest, and had a lot of fun at parties with girls without kissing them or anything else. In a month I'll be going on a party vacation with some friends and I wanna make good use of my time since I'm single after such a long time.

By studying PUAs I just meant watching their videos and thinking about the general message behind their style. I also think that my question wasn't too full of mental masturbation or bullshit terms; they were just meant to keep it as clear as possible. I also completely agree that pickup is an adventure and perhaps one of the most awesome things of life; I was just curious as to what you guys mostly follow up with in a conversation with a stranger.

I think I now made my situation more clear, I'm looking forward to your thoughts! And thanks again for your reply, I appreciate it.


Ps; English isn't my native tongue so excuse my mistakes or strictness or whatever

[laidbackwilly]

@ Magnum &
amarok

Thanks, I guess I'm just gonna trust on my natural instinct when I'm in the situation then, along with a couple of standard get-to-know questions. Also thanks for the warm welcome!