lugomelon
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Post by lugomelon on Nov 28, 2014 21:59:06 GMT -5
I've gotten close to this girl (let's call her W) where we talk everyday. Some small talk. It's getting close to the end of the year now, and I've gotten so close, but it's the end of the year. A week from now, school ends. Is it still worth it to ask W to be my girlfriend?
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swatt
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Post by swatt on Nov 28, 2014 22:26:27 GMT -5
Over how long a period has it been that yall have talked?
If yall haven't escalated at all (flirting, hung out in person, etc) then no you shouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend. Not yet at least. Escalate and get close to her on a physical level, not just emotional like through text. You will figure out if she's really into you by hanging out in person.
We kinda need a little more info to help you
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Post by amarok on Nov 29, 2014 18:50:45 GMT -5
Swatt's right. I've never understood why guys ask out girls if they don't 100% know the girl is going to say yes.
The end of school shouldn't matter unless you live crazy far away from her. In fact, it should give you more time to hang out with her and friends outside of school. If you've only hung out in school, you are NOT ready to ask her out.
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lugomelon
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Post by lugomelon on Nov 29, 2014 21:07:32 GMT -5
We kinda need a little more info to help you We've started talking in late June this year, and it's becoming more occurrent lately. We are kind of close though; we talk as if I were talking with my guy friends. What more info do you need to know? Escalate and get close to her on a physical level, not just emotional like through text. So what you're saying is, spend more time with her at school and talk heaps? In fact, it should give you more time to hang out with her and friends outside of school. True. I just don't want to f- it up. If you've only hung out in school, you are NOT ready to ask her out. So I should ask her out somewhere before asking her to be my girlfriend? |
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swatt
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Post by swatt on Nov 30, 2014 17:45:02 GMT -5
It's not that you should "ask her out somewhere then ask her to be your girlfriend", you need to hangout together. I've had a thing with a girl for 2 months and I still haven't asked her to be my girlfriend just because I don't want to get. We hook up all the time and hang out all the time. AND WE ARENT EVEN DATING. It is an extremely middle school approach to ask a girl to be your girlfriend without even taking her out at least once or more.
As for the more information...
I just realized yall probably haven't hung out so I can't really ask what its like outside of school. We are trying to help you, it's hard to help when I only hear "we text a lot" or "our texting has gotten a lot deeper" and such things of that nature.
Look, the message I'm trying to get across is to hang out with her. It's that simple. Let us know how it goes and good luck
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Post by amarok on Dec 1, 2014 9:09:34 GMT -5
It sounds as if you two are becoming good friends. Operative word being FRIEND. It doesn't seem like you've escalated at all, and that's a problem. Have you flirted with her? Give us word for word examples and her reactions. Talking a lot doesn't mean she likes you, and it by no means does it mean you should ask her out. You need to know that she's attracted to you, not just that she likes being your friend.
Flirt, hangout, escalate. You don't have to hook up right off the bat--but you need to make it clear that you're interested in being more than friends.
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