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Post by amarok on Dec 1, 2014 9:24:42 GMT -5
First off, work on your grammar. Spell things out and pay attention in English class. Writing like that is not cool and not sexy. Be a grown up, write like a grown up.
Is this your girlfriend? Or a girl you like?
If you're talking about what's going on in your day, you're talking too much or you never talk about deeper things. Ask her harder things, like what she thinks about a hot button issue. Obviously for this you have to pay attention to the world like you should be and you have to be able to have a legitimate discussion about politics, but it's a great way to get to know someone and leads to great conversations.
Again, if you're talking so much that you're talking about what happened in your day, stop talking before that. That's a shitty fucking conversation. There SHOULDN'T be any conversation after that. If you don't know what else to talk about, then STOP TALKING.
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zem
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Post by zem on Dec 1, 2014 15:03:58 GMT -5
i'm in the same situation with i girl I already hooked up with, but now we've 0 things to talk about. Should i just stop talking on facebook? (she lives in another town and we only get to see each other in every other weekend) I want to keep this girl and maybe even take things further but she seems to be loosing attraction because of the shitty conversations we're having on facebook and a thing I did (or better didn't did) the last time we were together. Sorry for threadjacking  ahaha |
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Post by amarok on Dec 1, 2014 18:08:09 GMT -5
communication without escalation can only go so far. What kind of further are you looking for? Find that answer then move towards that with flirting. Either way, it's not gonna work so well if you don't see her. If you're just looking for a hook up, then frame the friendship like a booty call situation.
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beast89
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Post by beast89 on Dec 2, 2014 1:49:51 GMT -5
Idk if u fully understood tha question i mean when u talk about almost everything and nothing and u feel like u completely ran out of stuff to talk about how can u keep conversation without having anymore interesting topics on ur mind (eventually ill run out of steam and buy tha next day ill have all new shit to talk about) but if i can't think of anything else to talk about but i want to keep talking to her
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swatt
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Post by swatt on Dec 2, 2014 9:09:54 GMT -5
You must be a really boring person if you run out of things to talk bout. I'm not going to give you any examples to use. You are thinking more about the conversation (as in you are thinking about the action of talking to the girl) instead of being legitimately interested in the stuff yall are talking about. DONT TALK TO HER UNTIL YOU EITHER:
1. Learn how to never run out of stuff to talk about
2. Think of something interesting that you want to talk to her about
Whenever you feel the convo dying, end it. There's no point in beating a dead horse
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Post by amarok on Dec 2, 2014 13:34:24 GMT -5
No, I understood the question perfectly. The fact of the matter is that if you have nothing left to talk about, you should stop talking. Leave the conversation for later. That's a pretty basic conversation skill and an important one for you to learn.
I disagree with swatt that you should not talk to her until you learn how to not run out of things, because you need practice to get there. But he's right that we shouldn't give you things to talk about because will only work once. How is that helping you?
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