Post by Johnny Bravo on Dec 29, 2008 16:30:11 GMT -5
Post by Paetar in the old Ap-Seduction forums:
Cracking the attraction!!!
I think I finally got it! I mean, how to create attractive first impression! You need three things:
Connect with the group - lead interesting conversation. Everyone in the group should like you, want you around them. You must talk about something they can relate to (whether it are stupid teachers, sports, animals, cars, this shitty cold coffee - usually it is OK to talk about your surroundings, however it can - and usually is - boring)
----here comes the time constraint, if you aren't usually hanging out with these people it is smart to give yourself time constraint, so they aren't afraid of being annoyed (which means they will expect it, and they will get it as soon as conversation drops down a bit)--------
Show high status - in HS this revolves around:
confidence (your body language - in HS you can fake it till you make it, people aren't that socially calibrated yet)
being interesting,
funny/witty (when someone makes a joke about you, just laugh it off, even expand it a bit),
high energy (having fun at the moment)
intelligent,
good looking (well dressed and well groomed)
knowing a lot of people (being popular),
socially pre-selected (being popular),
and conveying your identity in general (showing them your passion and making them relate to it - 4xmpl a guitarist will talk about his gig/favorite band, athlete about a match he won, psychologist/social-dynamics-interested guy about a man who did this and that and why he did it (generally gossip, although not in usual bad way, but offering some deeper understandings of actions) and so on - be sure that it is close enough to them so they can understand and relate to it). This is done more during rapport, but you can use it for attraction too if it is attractive (guitar gigs are, website-building isn't because they can't relate to it).
and finally showing active disinterest in the girl - calling her names/teasing her, "omg you're so silly", "I am not hanging around you anymore", "you just spit on me"; essentially what Mystery would call negs. But not in a bad way (no aggression, please!), more in a "I'm not impressed" way.
I don't like putting people down, however I love teasing so I do it.
*This is basically taught by Mystery Method, but here is HS-related version.
*you don't have to be high value by what I've covered here, it is enough to be interesting and not caring what they think about you (sincerity). Trust me, you'll feel it.
That's about it. Feel free to add your insight!
Carpe Diem.
PS: This has been written with first-impression in mind. If you wish to create new or better impression (to "overwrite" the bad one) you have to appear like someone else now - different clothing style, drinking different drinks, different attitude, new haircut, different body language... as if you were someone different. I think that this "different" approach can even be used to break the LJBF.
Cracking the attraction!!!
I think I finally got it! I mean, how to create attractive first impression! You need three things:
Connect with the group - lead interesting conversation. Everyone in the group should like you, want you around them. You must talk about something they can relate to (whether it are stupid teachers, sports, animals, cars, this shitty cold coffee - usually it is OK to talk about your surroundings, however it can - and usually is - boring)
----here comes the time constraint, if you aren't usually hanging out with these people it is smart to give yourself time constraint, so they aren't afraid of being annoyed (which means they will expect it, and they will get it as soon as conversation drops down a bit)--------
Show high status - in HS this revolves around:
confidence (your body language - in HS you can fake it till you make it, people aren't that socially calibrated yet)
being interesting,
funny/witty (when someone makes a joke about you, just laugh it off, even expand it a bit),
high energy (having fun at the moment)
intelligent,
good looking (well dressed and well groomed)
knowing a lot of people (being popular),
socially pre-selected (being popular),
and conveying your identity in general (showing them your passion and making them relate to it - 4xmpl a guitarist will talk about his gig/favorite band, athlete about a match he won, psychologist/social-dynamics-interested guy about a man who did this and that and why he did it (generally gossip, although not in usual bad way, but offering some deeper understandings of actions) and so on - be sure that it is close enough to them so they can understand and relate to it). This is done more during rapport, but you can use it for attraction too if it is attractive (guitar gigs are, website-building isn't because they can't relate to it).
and finally showing active disinterest in the girl - calling her names/teasing her, "omg you're so silly", "I am not hanging around you anymore", "you just spit on me"; essentially what Mystery would call negs. But not in a bad way (no aggression, please!), more in a "I'm not impressed" way.
I don't like putting people down, however I love teasing so I do it.
*This is basically taught by Mystery Method, but here is HS-related version.
*you don't have to be high value by what I've covered here, it is enough to be interesting and not caring what they think about you (sincerity). Trust me, you'll feel it.
That's about it. Feel free to add your insight!
Carpe Diem.
PS: This has been written with first-impression in mind. If you wish to create new or better impression (to "overwrite" the bad one) you have to appear like someone else now - different clothing style, drinking different drinks, different attitude, new haircut, different body language... as if you were someone different. I think that this "different" approach can even be used to break the LJBF.