You MUST Realize This

[Grape]

When I first started doing PU, I thought that getting laid and getting girls would give me ultimate happiness and satisfaction.
WRONG.
I also thought that having all the friends I could would make me happy.
WRONG.
Those are all great contributions, but the thing that truly gives me pleasure is my passion.
As mentioned by someone else in this forum, having a passion is very important.
You need an identity and you need goals.
I have an identity as the rockstar and I am respected for it.
I have goals to tour the region by next summer and I'm taking action for my goals.
This gives me happiness. I love playing music with my friends. It's an addiction in a sense.

Find something you want to be really good at, and create your life and identity with it.

People will begin to notice you for what you do.
You have goals beyond socializing and receiving validation.
If you have make 'getting friends' very complicated and feel like you have to "say certain things" and "run certain routines", then you're still an AFC desperate for attention.
If you look at 'getting friends' as a simple and easy thing and you have better things to focus on, then getting friends will be simple and easy.

Mindset guys. Mindset.

Try this out and tell me that it doesn't work.
<33 Grape

[optimus]

Everyone's said it: pickup is not your life, it's something you work on because it's interesting, but it isn't who you are.

Make a list of your interests/activities.

If pickup is first you need to get a life.

Being a PUA is important to me, it's a big part of who I am. But first I am a musician, a scholar, an artist.

[comedic]

I've all realized it. Having more women in your life will not solve all your problems. Life isn't happier with women either because it can be painful sometimes (break-ups, drama...).

BUT life is more fun with women. That, I can guarantee!

Thanks for posting this! ;D

[SamethP]

LA Tripp just told me that
and i agree 100%

LISTEN TO WHAT THESE GUYS HAVE TO SAY!!!






they pwn ^_^
lol

[Jenkinz]

THANK YOU GRAPE!
Again you have summarised a point that i discuss in my e-book.
I use a triangle to show what is most important.
It goes something like this:

Will
Knowledge
Routines

The will is your passion and desire to be greater, while the knowledge is that of what you need to do to be successful. The routines are bottom because if you dont have the drive or the knowledge, you will not know how to use the routines and hence, will end up failing.

I contrast your point too.. i am a c-walker and am well known for it at my school and i believe it is a factor in my confidence and social value. Sure i dont have many friends, but i am confident nonetheless. Great summary Grape.

[sharkoffs]

Whatever happened to your show grape? What about acting being you life?

[Grape]

that would be Gay.

[casanovareborn]

Naw. Its just a path less travelled. BTW i wrote that "what would u do if u knew u wouldnt fail" quote on my dry erase board a while ago. pretty funny u have it as ur pic grape. Rafa ur a beastin dj!

[Grape]

no really man. There's a guy named Gay on our forum and he's into acting.

[phoenix]

Amen Grape.

I personally try to balance my life out by working on constructive hobbies and studying. It's funny how the most respected pickup artists are the ones that don't dedicate their lives to sarging.