Amb1valence
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Post by Amb1valence on Nov 25, 2011 20:10:24 GMT -5
I never understood how the whole party shenanigans worked. Yeah I'm a senior it's fucking sad I know. So look here's generally how I see it from the outside, since I don't get invited to parties all that much (I mean I go to them sometimes, but I have to work to find where they're even at). You get invited, you find a few bros to go with. After your rents go to sleep if they sleep early, OR if you tell them you're sleeping over at a friend's house and you go over there and get ready to party (because their rents go to bed earlier than yours do, or your bro has told his rents that he's sleeping over at YOUR house and then you both just meet up somewhere). You pile in a dude's car and ride to the party. You party. The dude who was driving has (hopefully) not been drinking, and you pile in and ride back home (if you snuck out) or to your friend's house (if you snuck out from his house) or someone else's house whose parents just don't give a shit who sleeps over whenever, and you just wake up and be like oh hey David's mom. Or whatever. Or sometimes if you get lucky, so-and-so's rents will be gone for the weekend, and you continue partying at his house, preferably with girls. And I guess sometimes you might be able to sleep at the house that the party's at? idk. Someone tell me if this is semi-correct. If it is, I see why I have never fucking been able to get in on this shit. Mostly it's my parents - my mom goes to bed at like around 1am or later, so fuck sneaking out unless I literally want to be up allllll night. They won't let me sleep over at anyone's houses because they know the shenanigans I've gotten into in the past and they have a strict rule against that. (actually now I'm planning on sleeping over at a bro's house sometimes because they're chill with him, and since I'm almost 18 they might actually let me and become more lenient towards that. (yes, I'm almost 18, yeah I know like it's barely even worth it to go through all this trouble because I'm so close to adulthood anyway but I'm just pissed off that I've missed out on all this throughout my childhood and I want to claim back every chance I get before I hit the big boy age.)) it doesn't help that a lot of my friends don't party, and most of the ones that do party, I'm not that tight with. They're in a completely separate friend group. No, I can't easily just "break into" that friend group, especially considering how far along in high school I am, I would barely have enough time anyway. Oh and of course my parents are always home, since they both work from home AND home school my siblings (that's the other thing, even if both my rents are miraculously not home for the day, my siblings still are, so I can't even have a few friends over for fun and sexy times either ) There's probably some stuff I'm forgetting but idk. someone tell me if I'm just a pissed off douche that needs to man up and stop being a pussy and just suck it up and wait till I'm 18, or if I actually have a problem that's resolvable and tell me how to fix it. Oh and also I live in a neighborhood that's like 10 miles away from the neighborhood where everyone in my school district lives (I'm out of distrcit for the IB program) and I wish I could get to know the kids in this neighborhood that go to the school in this district but I barely have any connections to them, and I was a geek in middle school so it's not like I have any leftover connections from that, and it's pretty ghetto anyway compared to the school I go to so I can't just cruise up and become chill with them automagically)..
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qaz
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Post by qaz on Nov 25, 2011 21:40:32 GMT -5
Speaking from personal experience, I came from a similar situation man. I became close friends with a group that's kinda drug/party (most of the party kids are linked with drugs if you hadn't noticed) but anyways, to put it in pu terms they're all pretty high value so they each know a lot of different people and through that were all kinda cool with each other.
Basically someone invites one of my friends and they tell the rest of us and we bring whoever. All you really need to do is find a group of kids you enjoy chillin with that are also decently popular, do whatever you do and just start chilling with them alot. You'll eventually be introduced to their other friends and people that you don't even know will start to know of you, it's weird, and they will want to meet you. After all that you should be getting invited to parties whenever your friends hear about them.
Also what happened around here is someone threw a pretty crazy sweet 16 that had no parental supervision and since then kids from more of the straight edge crowd have been trying to throw parties too so idk what the situation is like at your school.
And for parents I usually tell them it's a birthday party or that I'm spending the night at a friends house.
Damn that was alot.
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Post by Sloth on Nov 25, 2011 21:42:42 GMT -5
if you feel like you're missing out, then just do it and take the consequences. You're only this age once, and if you're 'so close' to adulthood then you won't have to deal with your parents punishing you for long! (Y)
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Post by looknlisten on Nov 26, 2011 4:41:51 GMT -5
Haha yeah exactly slot is very right. Just do whatever you want to, face the consequences and your parents will care less. If they say be home by 12 come at 2 after a while they will trust you more, just think for yourself ey there are a lot of "cant's" in your post but in reality you could take them head on and really you are missing out cos all you've done is regret your inability to take action .. Check if nuts are still there -> Take action ..
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Amb1valence
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Post by Amb1valence on Nov 26, 2011 12:18:19 GMT -5
Haha thanks guys...it seems like a good idea and I agree with you...I would gladly just deal with the consequences since I'm almost 18. I know if I just straight up disobeyed my rents they'd realize I'm old enough to make all my own decisions and whatever...however the problem is the law. For one, kids under 18 aren't allowed to drive past midnight...so I have no way to get around in my own car. The obvious answer to that would be to just sleep over everywhere. Which I would, if my parents weren't so batshit crazy. Read this. (4th paragraph is what I'm talking about) I'm absolutely sure that if I pull the type of shit I tried back then again, they would call the police and I'd be in deeeeep shittttttt with the law, especially if I was drinking (which I obviously would, or else it would hardly be worth it to go to the party lol). I have a friend who goes out every weekend and she gets rides from guys (in their cars and on their dicks...lol), and idk I could probably get in on that, but most of them drink and then drive home which I think is fucktarded. So maybe I could sleep over at the house of the party sometimes, but when I can't do that, I'd have to sleep at a bro's house...where could I do that. Where do all you guys end up going after the party's over?
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Post by perceverance on Nov 27, 2011 17:51:52 GMT -5
^ cops cant know if your not 18 for sure. as long as you follow the driving laws, cops have no reason to pull you over.
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Post by Sloth on Nov 27, 2011 21:52:29 GMT -5
tell your parents a false address and they'll have no way of knowing where to send the cops
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Amb1valence
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Post by Amb1valence on Nov 28, 2011 16:43:02 GMT -5
Hm well yeah but like what should I do about my car? My patents would undoubtedly go to the mva and have my license suspended by morning
And the other thing that's really fucking with me us that my rents are reasonable people, and I don't want to regress into the state we were once in, in which I come home and say hi and they sit me down all emotional and pissed trying to figure out why I don't respect their few guidelines (it's because I want to do anything I want and say fuck the guidelines no matter how minimal they are, but that doesn't fly with them) and I just hate lying to my rents and having them be all pissed at me when the truth is that I'm not trying to make them mad,I just want to go off and do my own thing, that's all. Of course if I was honest with them like they keep trekking me to be (and I am right now) then they'll track me down and punish me for it. Which leaves me no alternative but to keep them in the dark. Fuck it sucks
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Post by qaz on Nov 28, 2011 16:49:37 GMT -5
Haha damn ^ that's a little extreme, just tell them you're spending the night at your friends and that you're driving there.
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Post by infamous93 on Nov 28, 2011 17:33:24 GMT -5
Hm well yeah but like what should I do about my car? My patents would undoubtedly go to the mva and have my license suspended by morning And the other thing that's really fucking with me us that my rents are reasonable people, and I don't want to regress into the state we were once in, in which I come home and say hi and they sit me down all emotional and pissed trying to figure out why I don't respect their few guidelines (it's because I want to do anything I want and say fuck the guidelines no matter how minimal they are, but that doesn't fly with them) and I just hate lying to my rents and having them be all pissed at me when the truth is that I'm not trying to make them mad,I just want to go off and do my own thing, that's all. Of course if I was honest with them like they keep trekking me to be (and I am right now) then they'll track me down and punish me for it. Which leaves me no alternative but to keep them in the dark. Fuck it sucks That is exactly me.....
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Post by Sloth on Nov 28, 2011 18:51:22 GMT -5
if you haven't said any of this to them, then say it to them.
otherwise just accept that your gonna be punished eg: taking ur car away, taking your tv away.
is it worth it to get crunk and fuck bitches?
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Post by Amb1valence on Nov 28, 2011 23:26:52 GMT -5
It is. Lol I just don't know how to tell them it.....that's a good idea, to tell them all that...but how would you suggest I do it? Before i run out to the car, or like after I come home and find them standing in the doorway?
Because if I told them as I was walking out the door. My dad would most likely grab me (whoa whoa what, no you're not going anywhere!) however if I did what I did before, sending them a text after i left, it sucks balls because that's just a terrible way of doing it since I'm already gone and they realize it and get all pissed while I'm not there to help them simmer down
Infamous, thank god I'm not the only one lol
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Post by infamous93 on Nov 28, 2011 23:29:09 GMT -5
It sucks I used to be able to talk back to my mom but now if I do I can't drive and my sex life dies.
It's total bullshit I have to take all her shit and I can't do anything about it if I want to have fun in highschool I feel like I am being pushed around, she is a very demanding and controling person.
She hates my opinions to its absolute bullshit how am I supposed to like her if she dislikes everything that I believe in?
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Post by bballphenom on Nov 29, 2011 2:03:12 GMT -5
Honesty I fucking love to party! And luckily here there is a party every weekend. All the schools in my district are pretty chill with each other, and it's easy to meat people that go to a different school. On thanksgiving I actually hungout with some kids that go to a different school and we got pretty fucked up. There really "high status" so it's good we became such good friends, they are connected with A LOT of hot girls But anyway, when I'm going to a party I always tell my parents I'm going to stay at a friends house, meet up with people, ride to the party, PARTY!!! YEAH!!!, leave and usually go get some food, then go back to my friends house (parents don't care that were there, and don't know were all fucked), and just chill there. I wouldn't suggest just going out disregarding what your parents say right away. I would sit down and talk to them, and if still being cunts, go get FUCKING TATERED!!!! I know if I didn't listen to my parents, I would either get beat, grounded for a ridiculous amount of time, or just straight shit on. Anyways just talk to them, it's the least you can do. I think they'll start being more reasonable if you tell them, you'll do it anyways and they cant stop you.
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Post by DanZy on Nov 29, 2011 8:48:27 GMT -5
^wow, that was some the least helpful shit I think I've ever read
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