Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 5, 2008 14:48:37 GMT -5
These are the things you need to totally eliminate guys! they could be killing you.
-hands in pockets/hiding hands
-rigidness
-TOO MUCH smiling (approval seeking)
-hunched over
-following body language of others (lack of independence)
-leaning forward with raised eyebrows (please give me approval)
-slouching
-LEANING IN/FORWARD (aka pecking)
-too many question marks in texting
-approval giving and seeking body language
-quick, skittlish and uncoordinated movements/gestures
-orienting your body to hers
-following others
-loss of composure
-breaking eye contact first
-nervous darting eyes
-fidgeting
-nervous habits
-leg bouncing
-staring at floor/head down
-appearing to be "gaming" her (pursuer)
-stumbling words
-tentative gestures
-stiffness
-weak hand shake
-moving mouth/licking lips in a weird way or too much
-LOOKING AROUND TO OTHERS!
-wallflowering
-hesitation
-TOO much eye contact
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Post by Andrew on Oct 5, 2008 15:15:19 GMT -5
as far as hands go, a sign of open hands facing ourward is a sign of openness and that you have noithing to hide.
A little smile that says "your thinking dirty thoughts about me and i know it." is something to perfect. practice it.
Wouldnt following someone elses body languguage, however, be mirroring? If you could clarify that would be great
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 5, 2008 15:26:24 GMT -5
as far as hands go, a sign of open hands facing ourward is a sign of openness and that you have noithing to hide. A little smile that says "your thinking dirty thoughts about me and i know it." is something to perfect. practice it. Wouldnt following someone elses body languguage, however, be mirroring? If you could clarify that would be great Well mirroring is part of NLP. Personally i dont really get too much into NLP so idk that much. Ask Grape. If you are gonna mirror, then im sure there is other nlp things that kinda go with it. For me, i like to communicate indepence. Dont mirror too soon if you are gonna do it |
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Post by Dream on Oct 5, 2008 15:26:28 GMT -5
This is also going in the notebook.
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 5, 2008 15:28:05 GMT -5
This is also going in the notebook. haha i figured you would say that. good idea tho |
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Post by Andrew on Oct 5, 2008 16:35:03 GMT -5
as far as hands go, a sign of open hands facing ourward is a sign of openness and that you have noithing to hide. A little smile that says "your thinking dirty thoughts about me and i know it." is something to perfect. practice it. Wouldnt following someone elses body languguage, however, be mirroring? If you could clarify that would be great Well mirroring is part of NLP. Personally i dont really get too much into NLP so idk that much. Ask Grape. If you are gonna mirror, then im sure there is other nlp things that kinda go with it. For me, i like to communicate indepence. Dont mirror too soon if you are gonna do it Its not really something i do or that im into, i was jsut looking for clarification |
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Post by SamethP on Oct 6, 2008 2:08:51 GMT -5
hands in pockets, and if wall flowering means leaning on things, then that as well otherwise, i think all is good  |
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Luc
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Post by Luc on Oct 6, 2008 16:38:09 GMT -5
you dont have to be wall flowering to lean on things
If you are with some HBs near a bar, lean on the bar or a chair or something instead of just standing there
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Post by Andrew on Oct 6, 2008 16:39:07 GMT -5
brings the dynamic back int oyour favor. ALWAYS look more comfortable then they are
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 6, 2008 18:52:52 GMT -5
hands in pockets, and if wall flowering means leaning on things, then that as well otherwise, i think all is good You can lean on things and not be a wallflower. Wallflowering is where you are not including yourself in things and your just standing on the walls watching everyone else have fun. Ex: your at a dance. everyone on the dance floor in NOT a wallflower and people leaning back on the walls not having any fun, just watching other people ARE wallflowering. |
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Luc
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Post by Luc on Oct 6, 2008 19:48:53 GMT -5
I used to be a wallflower
you have no fun
if you try to have fun u basically completely avoid being a wallflower
...it doesn't meant that you are necessarily doing the other things right, but you aren't a wallflower and that's a start
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 6, 2008 19:52:38 GMT -5
Well actually if you are having fun, that is much more than just a start. If you are having a kick ass time, from a position of high value of course, that puts off about 80% of the right default body language right there. Maybe all with some people.
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Post by SamethP on Oct 7, 2008 3:13:00 GMT -5
ohhh now i understand wall flowering
dont need to fix that then
although the hands in pockets is starting to annoy me
stupid habbit haha
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Post by Andrew on Oct 7, 2008 14:36:55 GMT -5
hands is probably the body language thing i need to still work on most. otherwise i pretty much got it internalized
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Oct 7, 2008 15:48:23 GMT -5
Ha ha dont feel bad. Hands are sometimes the most awkward part of body language for guys. What i do is i lightly touch my thumbs with my index findgers and relax them at my sides.
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