Luc
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Post by Luc on Oct 14, 2008 20:05:07 GMT -5
I've started putting only one thumb in a front pocket
i know im weird
for some reason its only the left pocket and i dont know why i started doing it
but its helped me stop cracking my knuckles
thank god
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amantheman
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Post by amantheman on Mar 19, 2009 17:23:24 GMT -5
This is a great post and needed a bump to rescue it from obscurity.
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Soul
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Post by Soul on Mar 20, 2009 9:16:43 GMT -5
-hands in pockets/hiding hands –
-slouching
-quick, skittlish and uncoordinated movements/gestures
-fidgeting –
-nervous habits
-leg bouncing
-staring at floor/head down
-LOOKING AROUND TO OTHERS!
-wallflowering
-hesitation
Looks like I’ve got a lot of work to do, some things I do more then others but still that’s crazy.
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Mar 20, 2009 15:51:03 GMT -5
ha.^ gotts start somewhere right
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Post by Sloth on Mar 20, 2009 17:17:45 GMT -5
ok what do you do if you go to like blatenly talk to a girl or hug her
and suddenly she's distracted like maybe hugging someone else or just dragged away.
i tend to just stand there feeling really awkward like REALLy awkward.
idea?
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Chris
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Post by Chris on Mar 20, 2009 17:33:44 GMT -5
i walk away almost everytime. big DHV if you show your willing
to walk away. She's also shit testing you to see how you will
react. high value ppl dont just stand there. they either walk
away, or they neg the girl "hey ADD, pay attention, the parties
over here."
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Post by Sloth on Mar 20, 2009 18:03:01 GMT -5
yeah that's all well and good but what if your like saying hello or goodbye to the girl?
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Post by jrod23 on Mar 23, 2009 23:34:19 GMT -5
Sloth the hugging thing has happened to me quite a few times.
Depending on the situation I'll say
"Hey whats going on dude no hug for me?" intended towards the guy that just arrived
Generally they'll become insecure and DLV.
But, if they do accept the challenge go for the hug.
While in the hug say something like...
"This is what I call bro love"
Tried this once... it was funny watching the guys expression after that. He left within minutes after that.
But as for the hand in pockets thing... What exactly is wrong with that just showing your closed down?
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Mandrake
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Post by Mandrake on Mar 25, 2009 13:29:42 GMT -5
-fix hair with hands (my hair usually DOES need fixing though)
-play with ring
-use hand gestures, but too high above waist and too distractingly
-break eye contact and look down if embarrassed
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extra
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Post by extra on Mar 25, 2009 21:52:39 GMT -5
Some probs I got
-Fidgeting: really only major one i think. Ever since a kid i've been very kinesthetic and always wanting to touch and play with and take apart stuff. I gotta tone this down.
-Sitting: sometimes i'm not sure how I should sit, my natural position is kind slouching/leaning back so i'm kinda horizontal, but i don't think this looks the best so i try to sit up straighter but still relaxed. Also wtf to do with my hands sometimes
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nutrick
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Post by nutrick on Mar 25, 2009 23:18:39 GMT -5
Problems
-Thinking about body language a little too much
-Fiddling with things in my hands when talking
-slouching, slumped back sometimes
-hand and feet movement
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Keysersoze
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Post by Keysersoze on Mar 26, 2009 14:50:40 GMT -5
Luc I do the same thumb thing, but apparently it's a good thing, thumbs are aggressive body language so putting them away makes you more friendly then having your thumbs sticking out....
Overall body language is a strong point but I have two improvements to make -
- overall body movement still too fast
- speech too fast
maybe it's congruent and positive, because my energy being slightly higher than theirs... what do you guys think?
if not...
note to self - SLOW THE FUCK DOWN!!!
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Post by Sketch on Apr 5, 2009 1:35:52 GMT -5
- keep eye contact - stop cracking knuckles (the thumb in pocket didnt work for me as i don't need both hands to crack them) - talk slower and make it more interesting instead of giving every detail - if getting ignored etc, walk away to do something else not loads but it needs work, especially eye contact and talking slower.  |
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Grape
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Post by Grape on Jun 9, 2009 7:13:31 GMT -5
Stickied
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tinytim
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Post by tinytim on Aug 15, 2009 23:11:30 GMT -5
I tend to give too much eye contact and i fidget a lot.
For me I've noticed it helps by practicing good body language at home because you get used to it and are more comfortable.
What would be a good time to break eye contact?
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