Post by darkpwns on May 23, 2009 17:10:56 GMT -5
Yo! I'm darkpwns, I want to share a little about what I know about social circles (its about the only thing I'm good at in this whole PU world).
--Social Circles--
Social Circles are those groups you see that regularly congregate in your cafeteria, those people that always sit together in class, hang out after school together. In truth these groups are intimidating and at first it will seem like a good idea to attempt to get with a girl on her lonesome. The issue with this is that it doesn't work. One may be able to pull a random girl at a party and maybe get laid, but more often than not the "cold approach" will end up in you pumping the girl's attraction levels to the point where she will be ready to have sex but then she leaves. Why? Because you are a random. Randoms come into a set with no value and females are very value conscious, sure you may DHV yourself but this only IMPLIES that you are high value, she doesn't KNOW that you are high value, yet that cool guy she hangs out with...yeah, he definitely has value and she knows it. Guys that run social circle game end up getting laid twice the times that the random does.
--Cliques--
Social Circles in high-school are comprised of different cliques, the average guy will end up as an orbiter to a girl in one of those cliques, but the alpha male will join cliques together and bring more people into his group. Cliques have rankings though, so to actually join cliques together you must first be a part of them.
Head- This is the girl who decides who is cool enough to hang out with her and her friends...she'd most likely be the hottest girl.
Bridges- These are the people who allow for opportunities to meet new people and expand the social circle. Guys and girls can occupy these positions and they can belong to more than one clique, this is the most desirable position if you want to build a social circle.
Clique Mom- Yeah, these girls make sure that any guys messing with a girl within the clique isn't creepy. You remember that girl who shuffled away the HB you cold approached? Yeah this is that girl.
Mediators/Drama whores- These girls are loads of trouble, they talk smack when no drama is happening within the clique and once the drama fires up, they resolve it. They are two-faced, but a necessary evil. If they weren't around, drama that occurred without them would snowball into something ugly.
Orbiters- These are people who hang around the group, but don't actually have a role. Low value people reside here...steer clear of this status, don't date within this status (at least while you are still establishing yourself within the clique).
----Getting a Social Circle Started----
Getting a social circle going isn't as hard as it seems. The first thing you must do is have something going on in your life, if you like music, go to concerts. If one of your friends throws parties a lot, go to his/her parties.
Once you have something going on in your life you can begin building a social circle. 9 times out of 10 there will be an extremely social person in every single class, it could be a girl, it could be a boy, it could be an ug, it could be an HB. It doesn't matter who they are, they are bridges. These are the people you want to know, and who you want to know you.
Bridges are social, always seeking the next best thing, a new friend. Be the next best thing, be the new friend. It's simple to start up a conversation a simple "Hey, what's up?" would suffice. From there, run the conversation as you would a normal one except give off the vibe that by them knowing you value will be added to their lives. Mention a cool band you know will be playing at so-and-so, mention a party you're going to the next Friday and invite them to come along and if they have friends, they could come too. Bridges have a currency and it's fun.
Bridges are always looking for social events to take his/her group to, chances are they will show up and even if they don't show up, or show up alone once you have shown that you can deal in their currency they will begin to invite you out with them as well.
By doing this you will also become a social bridge. Run this process on several bridges and you will become integrated in several cliques, this is when you can begin actual social circle building.
---Building a Social Circle---
Once you have become a social bridge you can begin selecting who gets to go to events with you, you don't have to invite every single person you know to every single party/concert. No way. Heads of cliques and other hot girls and bridges are enough. By being the one who decides where your group goes you display leadership qualities and people will want to be around you.
Going to a party with your group of high value buddies shows that YOU are also high value and people will gravitate towards you at the party, attempting to get a piece of your value, integrate the interesting ones into your social circle.
When I say integrate interesting people into your social circle I do not mean desert your friends who are sort of AFC-ish or a little introverted. Introverted people can be friendly, thus they give off a bit of value they are useful in social circles. Social dead-ends are the ones you would be wise to steer clear of, these people were probably not your friends anyway...this is the emo guy who slits his writs that sits way in the back of the classroom with his head down and his music blasting.
Once you have a successful social circle who you regularly go out to events with you attain a whole new level of social value. You become that "Go-to" guy, the ones that people ask to hang out with, the one that people go to if they want to know what's happening that weekend. DHV stories are now pointless, your very name becomes high-value (<<< exaggeration....maybe).
[Once you have a social circle you can begin throwing your own parties...I can't as my parents are always home so I can't help you on throwing parties]
---Getting Girls Within Social Circle---
To get girls within your social circle is beyond simple. Just by having a social circle which will undoubtedly be filled with hot girls and by the countless girls that come to you looking for fun, giving you hugs, giving you kisses, coming out with you, you would have generated LOADS of pre-selection. Pre-selection makes the girl WANT to be with you, even if you haven't gamed her. Simply escalate on the girl you want and she could be yours...remember if a girl is in your social circle they don't have to be LJBF so don't treat non-LJBF girls as LJBF girls, initiate kino even while you are building your circle...ALWAYS be cocky & funny...and please for the love of god, don't hypnotize her.
--Social Circles--
Social Circles are those groups you see that regularly congregate in your cafeteria, those people that always sit together in class, hang out after school together. In truth these groups are intimidating and at first it will seem like a good idea to attempt to get with a girl on her lonesome. The issue with this is that it doesn't work. One may be able to pull a random girl at a party and maybe get laid, but more often than not the "cold approach" will end up in you pumping the girl's attraction levels to the point where she will be ready to have sex but then she leaves. Why? Because you are a random. Randoms come into a set with no value and females are very value conscious, sure you may DHV yourself but this only IMPLIES that you are high value, she doesn't KNOW that you are high value, yet that cool guy she hangs out with...yeah, he definitely has value and she knows it. Guys that run social circle game end up getting laid twice the times that the random does.
--Cliques--
Social Circles in high-school are comprised of different cliques, the average guy will end up as an orbiter to a girl in one of those cliques, but the alpha male will join cliques together and bring more people into his group. Cliques have rankings though, so to actually join cliques together you must first be a part of them.
Head- This is the girl who decides who is cool enough to hang out with her and her friends...she'd most likely be the hottest girl.
Bridges- These are the people who allow for opportunities to meet new people and expand the social circle. Guys and girls can occupy these positions and they can belong to more than one clique, this is the most desirable position if you want to build a social circle.
Clique Mom- Yeah, these girls make sure that any guys messing with a girl within the clique isn't creepy. You remember that girl who shuffled away the HB you cold approached? Yeah this is that girl.
Mediators/Drama whores- These girls are loads of trouble, they talk smack when no drama is happening within the clique and once the drama fires up, they resolve it. They are two-faced, but a necessary evil. If they weren't around, drama that occurred without them would snowball into something ugly.
Orbiters- These are people who hang around the group, but don't actually have a role. Low value people reside here...steer clear of this status, don't date within this status (at least while you are still establishing yourself within the clique).
----Getting a Social Circle Started----
Getting a social circle going isn't as hard as it seems. The first thing you must do is have something going on in your life, if you like music, go to concerts. If one of your friends throws parties a lot, go to his/her parties.
Once you have something going on in your life you can begin building a social circle. 9 times out of 10 there will be an extremely social person in every single class, it could be a girl, it could be a boy, it could be an ug, it could be an HB. It doesn't matter who they are, they are bridges. These are the people you want to know, and who you want to know you.
Bridges are social, always seeking the next best thing, a new friend. Be the next best thing, be the new friend. It's simple to start up a conversation a simple "Hey, what's up?" would suffice. From there, run the conversation as you would a normal one except give off the vibe that by them knowing you value will be added to their lives. Mention a cool band you know will be playing at so-and-so, mention a party you're going to the next Friday and invite them to come along and if they have friends, they could come too. Bridges have a currency and it's fun.
Bridges are always looking for social events to take his/her group to, chances are they will show up and even if they don't show up, or show up alone once you have shown that you can deal in their currency they will begin to invite you out with them as well.
By doing this you will also become a social bridge. Run this process on several bridges and you will become integrated in several cliques, this is when you can begin actual social circle building.
---Building a Social Circle---
Once you have become a social bridge you can begin selecting who gets to go to events with you, you don't have to invite every single person you know to every single party/concert. No way. Heads of cliques and other hot girls and bridges are enough. By being the one who decides where your group goes you display leadership qualities and people will want to be around you.
Going to a party with your group of high value buddies shows that YOU are also high value and people will gravitate towards you at the party, attempting to get a piece of your value, integrate the interesting ones into your social circle.
When I say integrate interesting people into your social circle I do not mean desert your friends who are sort of AFC-ish or a little introverted. Introverted people can be friendly, thus they give off a bit of value they are useful in social circles. Social dead-ends are the ones you would be wise to steer clear of, these people were probably not your friends anyway...this is the emo guy who slits his writs that sits way in the back of the classroom with his head down and his music blasting.
Once you have a successful social circle who you regularly go out to events with you attain a whole new level of social value. You become that "Go-to" guy, the ones that people ask to hang out with, the one that people go to if they want to know what's happening that weekend. DHV stories are now pointless, your very name becomes high-value (<<< exaggeration....maybe).
[Once you have a social circle you can begin throwing your own parties...I can't as my parents are always home so I can't help you on throwing parties]
---Getting Girls Within Social Circle---
To get girls within your social circle is beyond simple. Just by having a social circle which will undoubtedly be filled with hot girls and by the countless girls that come to you looking for fun, giving you hugs, giving you kisses, coming out with you, you would have generated LOADS of pre-selection. Pre-selection makes the girl WANT to be with you, even if you haven't gamed her. Simply escalate on the girl you want and she could be yours...remember if a girl is in your social circle they don't have to be LJBF so don't treat non-LJBF girls as LJBF girls, initiate kino even while you are building your circle...ALWAYS be cocky & funny...and please for the love of god, don't hypnotize her.
