My first day of juniour year[FIELD REPORT]

[themachine]

Oh well I guess there is no hope.

[Gumby]

You're last message just pissed me off. Stop expecting people to spoon-feed you. If you want to get anywhere in life saying "Oh well I guess there is no hope" is obviously the wrong attitude.

I think you should stop wallowing in self-pity and make something of yourself man. It's never too late.

[Shampoo]

Aug 12, 2010 20:51:39 GMT -5 themachine said:

Well I have no social circle or nothing most girls only view me as weird a
Creep or just a random quiet guy.

Im ganna give it to you straight bro. I was probably in your position in 6th grade. But you know the difference between you now and me back then? I felt sorry for myself like you did but I didnt give up. I didnt look for people outside of me to feel sorry for me cause even me in 6th grade I KNEW thats pathetic. Thats what fucking GIRLS do. Get a damn backbone and stand up for your fucking self. I know your ganna argue with what Im about to say. Im pretty sure the girls didnt just straight up say your a creep. Its ALL in your mind man. You have all these negative emotions in your mind its stopping you from doing your thing AND your really fucking stubborn it seems. You already have your mind made up that your pathetic. If you wanna learn, you gotta learn with an open mind cause it just seems you want sympathy and attention.

[themachine]

Noooo I just typed a long detailed paragraph and my iPhone dies. Shit! Any to sum it up I'm. Not trying to piss anyone off here. i haven't had success success with women at all and I want to get what the other guys get girls running up to them giving them hugs and kisses and having a bunch if people to text. Not like me where my phone never gets text more than once a day and when I'm in class I have nobody to talk to or text I've asked 2 girls out both said no and a third girl I liked said to my friend who impersonated me over a voicemail saying I was sweet but not right now maybe later, in other words ljbf or no chance at all. The whole reason I want to get into pick up was to not be such a loser socially and I feel Iissed out on so many things becuase I was a loaner who had no friends. The way I even found out about pua was because I was doing a google search of if loaners go to prom. I can take another 2 friendless years in high school but I won't be able to take not knowing a single person in college so it's either I learn how to be the most popular guy in the room the every girl flocks to me if I can't achieve that well at least I don't have to worry about raising a family or anything. Man if incurs be one if those jersey shore guys for I one day.

[Nick]

Look. I'm not some PUA specialist bullshit... but PUA obscures a lot of things and doesn't tell you everything. Like everyone says, PUA is a tool in your skill toolbox, not a lifestyle. You can't go from a random creeper with no friends to a PUA.

It's not all about picking up chicks. You need a LIFE. You need friends and to learn the social code of conduct. Honestly, start with getting dude friends first. Then, go out and do stuff with them. Don't even worry about girls right now. Get Friends. Build Confidence. Enjoy life. Fuck PUA...

I don't mean to go all Drill Sergeant on you... but MAN UP. Sympathy is a useless feeling. Quit seeking it from others. If you follow PUA at all you're not even supposed to seek acceptance from others. Be you and quit being a pussy. I used to be a fuckin emotional little toolbox and I discussed my feelings with my friend all day. It was stupid. There is NOTHING you should worry about. Don't put the pussy on the pedestal. Don't be a needy kid.

The most cliche saying is the best one there is. The reason they are so cliche is BECAUSE they work and BECAUSE they are true. BE YOURSELF.

/rant

[themachine]

So im a pussy for asking for advice?

being a pussy≠asking for advice.

[Ari Gold]

No, you're being a pussy for not doing shit.
You are ENTIRELY capable of making friends and meeting girls. It's REALLY, REALLY, REALLY not that hard.
Talk to guys. Introduce yourself. Make a fucking joke goddamnit. After you establish a male social circle make some (girl) friends. Preferably hot ones. Join a club, or a sport, or have a niche. Everyone has a niche. The Football Player, the Stoner, the Skater, the etc etc etc. No niche=no social significance.
Once you establish a social circle, and a life, we can help you from there.

[Shampoo]

Nothing wrong with talking to guys or ugly girls, we all gotta start somewhere

[themachine]

Ari gold I know I'm capable but shit I do make jokes but still I'm not getting any respect from the girls, I don't have my own social circle I just hover around one of my friends.

[Nick]

Unfortunately, attraction is usually based off of your Social Value since most girls don't know you. That means without Social Value, you are not attractive...

Basically, you need a social circle. Hovering around one friend is not going to cut it. You need High Value friends and you need to make yourself valuable. Saying that, don't just go off and start stalking a bunch of jocks. Being needy is one of the worst things you can do.

You just have to do SOMETHING. In time, and after some experience, you will figure it all out. The only thing I advise you not to do is sit around and not try at all.

[themachine]

Well I don't want to come off as akward or needy I want girls to make conversation with me but I'm scared nervous don't know what to say etc.

[misterflower]

Listen man. You are seriously down on yourself and it's ruining your chances. Listen. Even though your are being completely helpless even when all of these great people are trying so damn hard to help you out, I will give you some helpful hints and sources. Here is what you should do.




1. Read grape's highschool pua book. If you already have, read it again. Read it twice more. Make it a hand book.

2. Learn about the law of attraction. Look it up on google. It's the hard to grasp but very true concept that our outside conditions are influenced or even cometely controlled by our thoughts and beliefs. Google it.

3. Count your weaknesses and write them down, then go from the top of the list and work your way down. Don't skip ahead or skip around. Start from your first problem, fix it, meditate on it. And realize that you ate twice as good as you think you are.

4. Read Ben sweetland's book: grow rich while you sleep. Go to www.scribd.com and type that title in. Then follow his can,do,have formula. It's easy to follow when you are in school because you are more alert of what week you are in. Lol if you're like me your summer time frame is totally off.



Hope this helps.

[Gumby]

The questions you are asking have been answered a thousand times on this forum, I know you're down but we are not here to spoonfeed you. Do something for yourself, and take lead.

[Shampoo]

Yeah you should read conquering your campus like im doing now. Great read, just google it.

[RMO]

Aug 18, 2010 17:27:06 GMT -5 Shampoo said:

Yeah you should read conquering your campus like im doing now. Great read, just google it.

yeah, i wouldnt use this to totally change your game BTW. It has good shit on cliques, and tribe mentality that is found on college campuses and highschools, and its a good read. However thats about it, it is based on the assumption you understand game.

my only real advice on game is to not give a shit, be fun, and feel the vibe. Do that and you'll be golden