Escalation Squad

[canadiankid]

^Haha, "What's that honey?"
I think hugs come before hand holding. That's just me, but I think it's different in high school than a club he'd be at

[Contempt]

You don't need kino if you open with "Wanna get some pizza n' fuck?"

No but really you still might need some kino. Kino is the blood n bones of pickup

Webinars- This saturday! 11 am or 1:30 pm central time! you guys choose! Please respond if you can come.

-Contempt

[canadiankid]

I'm good for either. 11 am (10 mountain I think) might be a little rough depending on Friday night

[Contempt]

True. Lets shoot for 1:30 central then or 12:30 mountain. If you guys have lunch then we could always move it back to 2:30 cent

[canadiankid]

I'd be down for 1:30 central. I gotta work at 3 mountain

[Contempt]

Alright. I'll make a thread about it.

[slyman]

Probably can't make it, I'm away this weekend. Sorry yudes

[Contempt]

^ damn.

[slyman]

hmmm anyway we can move it to monday? if not I understand, I assume we will have more than one of these anyways, but monday I along with canadiankid have the day off.

[Timothy]

Soooooooooooooo in!

[Validus]

I'm screwed both times sadly :/

Track from 10-about 3pm est ( Includes going there and back haha)
then work 3 -11;30 ish

[amarok]

Alright, so a rather bitter sweet encounter. Yesterday was the Chinese New Year, and my family, being chinese (I'm 1/8 so it doesn't show, but it shows up a lot in my family), went to China Town to celebrate with the fully Chinese half of the family. The rule with bringing friends is typically one friend for kid, so my cousin brought her friend, Emily. She's an eight grader, whatever, she's still my type.

So from the start I'm being playful and friendly with her while we're at the restaurant. Its hard for me to be the alpha cause my cousin in so much more alpha than me. The dragons come in, the air is totally charged and excited for it, so I'm taking her by the arm and leading around, she's happy to follow. After the restaurant we're walking through the streets shopping around, I'm constantly touching her, bumping into her, ect. Nothing much there.

On the car ride her I'm riding next to her and I'm rubbing my arm up along hers for about five-ten minutes, and she doesn't even move. She switches to a seat farther away from me and I lay my arm across the seat like I usually do, its simply more comfortable. Then I tap her shoulder and try and keep a straight face, she can't tell if its me or johnny, my alpha of a cousin. I do it again and simply can't hold a straight face, she laughs and yells at me. Then I start throwing her hat at her and she does it back. I win

Finally, we're at my aunt's house around 2, and while some of my cousins are outside, me and her are inside and I take her by the waist and show her around a couple of places. She giggles and follows when my arm's around her. One of these places is the basement play room, which she loves. It's totally messy with a whole bunch of my aunt's kids toys (5 and 1). She picks up a toy and is telling me about one of those ball toys that expand when you pull them open, and I walk up really close to her, just letting her talk. No awkwardness between the two of us. Unfortunately, I didn't escalate in that totally perfect position. Won't make that mistake again. A bunch more times I tell her she's a loser and is no fun, she denies it with that lovely "noo, noo I'm not! *giggly giggly smiley smiley*" For the rest of the night I'm just hanging out and having fun, my cousin told me she's got a girlfriend, so I should back off because its totally obvious that I'm flirting with her (well duhhh).
She wouldn't give me her number, so I really don't care, if I really want to at a low point and need some fun I'll add her on facebook.

Several things I learned:
1. Simple kino and leading goes a long way.
2. Fearlessness and no worries about touching makes things really smooth.
3. My type. This girl looked a lot like my ex, sounded like her, and was chill. That last one has been hard to find.
4. Impulses are the best way to escalate. If I had even so much as grabbed her around the waist in the playroom, things would have gone so much farther.

[slyman]

nice job dude.

Questions: 1. She has a GIRLfriend? or typo? haha....would be epic if she did, and you worked that out somehow.
2. when you say she wouldn't give you her number, do you mean you asked and she said no? or did you not ask?

if you were kinoing and all that shit, escalating and kclosing her should feel natural. Should have gone for it, but you know that. good work.

[amarok]

1. Not a typo. This girl and my last girl friend, which ended about maybe three weeks ago? She was a lesbian too. K said the moment she started talking to me she really liked me I seem to be finding a lot of lesbians or bisexuals (like Emily) lately. And doing well with them XD

2. I did it more of how I like, and just hand my phone to her on the add new contact page. They know what to do. She just kinda smiled and said she didn't give her number to strangers. Tried again before she was leaving but she still wouldn't haha. What does that usually mean?

[slyman]

hmm strange considering you built up attraction/comfort/whatnot, but honestly thats an IOD. But to avoid that next time, validate her a little bit. I always get girls numbers either by them asking me, or me saying, "hey you seem pretty cool, put your number in my phone we'll hang out sometime." no need to be all sneaky by giving them your phone in contacts or whatever, just be direct.