Doesnt feel like im a boyfriend!

[amarok]

So I'm been in a relationship with this sophmore, M, since Friday. Asked her out that morning and went to a movie night at her house, cuddled, kissed her once.

Now I know she's really uncomfortable with PDA in school, no kissing, but she says she's fine with holding hands. But this week she hasn't even let me hold her hands or waist. Today, its really bothering me that she doesn't let me act like her boyfriend. She has track everyday so I might see her one day a week out of school. Being her boyfriend one day a week really isn't fair to me.

What do I do! I'm attached to this girl. She's great, and she thinks I'm perfect. I'm already trying to lose some attachment for her, I'm already too attached.

[perceverance]

Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't like it, you have a choice. Either put it up with her or dump her.

[tails]

yah confrontation is usually the best thing to do in this case. You're thinking about it, she knows you're thinking about it (when I hang out with my female friends they always talk about what they let their boyfriends do and not do, so yah girls talk about it and are hyper aware of it).

If you don't confront her, it's eventually just going to be an unspoken agreement between the two of u.

[RMO]

FRIEND ZONE'D!

the only thing that lets a relationship work is the duality of comfort and physical connection.
Usually I dont cuddle or do any of that shit till I fucked her, and that has remained true for all my relationships, except my current one and that was a HUGE fucking mistake, ill post on this later.

[amarok]

Mar 15, 2011 14:39:24 GMT -5 RMO said:

FRIEND ZONE'D!

Haha luckily it doesn't seem so... yet at least.

I talked to her about it and told it wasn't fair to me that I could only act like her boyfriend once a week when I see her outside of school and that that hurt. She said she would try to get over it and she agreed that it wasn't fair to me.

Girls can be logical... it's rare, but it happens. Sometimes.

[Eastcoast]

hahah how can he be friendzoned when hes dating her?

[RMO]

highschool dating does not equal real dating grasshopper. Labels arent facts.

physicality is very important, and since his escalation is nowhere, and from the current list of info available... she does not like you very much. Grow some balls and escalate.

[danny4u]

oops..double post. Love internet

[Slick]

Both of those posts were useless Danny, and the "double post" was intentional. If it wasn't it would of said edited at the bottom... Not to be a dick or anything, but just saying what everyone else is thinking.

[canadiankid]

He's a spammer... Look at all the other posts

[RMO]

sooo back to the friendzoned chap at hand

[canadiankid]

Amarok has his shit down. I doubt hes friendzoned. Also about your whole philosophy on dating, two of my closest friends are in legitimate relationships (one for a little over two years. Been having sex since two months in. The other is 11 months and they have it planned for her first time next weekend cause she's a virgin he's gonna make it special.) that's further proof that you don't need to fuck a girl before cuddling or whatever to make sure it's not a friendzone relationship.

[RMO]

It's not the fucking, it's the complete lack of physicality. The dismission of something as noncommital as kissing. But truth be told I take no stock in the common highschool relationship becuase even though there are people whose relationships can work, as you have shown, they are more often then not a label. Keep in mind I feel there is a definite diffrence between highschool relationships and real dating.

Now I'm not butt hurt that you disagree, and if amarok feels that logically discussing a relationship works for him, then could you please elaborate on how those two examples mean anything? I don't see enough explanation to really defend much of anything. Not that hey don't make a little sense, there's just not enough information for me to see where you are coming from.

Also I apologize for my shitty spelling, using phone.

[canadiankid]

... Your very difficult to understand right now.
All I'm saying is relationships can work without as much physicality. I also think that having a conversation like what amarok was thinking about is what makes it a real relationship. It's not a real relationship if you don't talk about meaningful shit. Maybe it's cause I'm in grade 12 and we've grown up some what compared to ourselves in grade ten where no ones maturing enough to talk about important things like feelings.

I'm also on my phone. Actually that's the only place I access this forum.

[RMO]

ok, im making a big assumption. But thats why I said duality. I ASSUME, because im a moron, that in an average highschool relationship you have rapport long before physicality. I dont have average highschool relationships.

you need both at the same time, I agree, thats why I already said that

heres the quick run down, the talk was good, but rarely, as Amarok pointed out, logical discussions dont work unless you have the closeness, which doesnt not imply pure sex. Why is it that we both agree, but it seems like were arguing? I blame the internets.