Mindin your own business

[perceverance]

i read in an article here regarding alpha behaviors and i remember that in a part of the article it said that an alpha male does not get phased if he is not the center of attention and he minds his own business doing whatever he is doing.

this made me think: wouldnt you be seen as a loser if you are by yourself doing whatever your doing rather than taking the center of attention? how would you go about in order to take over the center of attention? dont tell me im being needy or any of that bullshit, im just looking for an answer.

much love,
perc.

[perceverance]

i dont mind if you guys post on the thread btw

[victor]

no. you're seen as independent. fuck being the center of attention, everyone's trying to get YOUR attention.

[infamous93]

^uhhhh no

[Shampoo]

^Lol

But in all serious shit, I never really got this alpha male stuff. As long as your Amoging and not seen as a pussy your set... If you stand up for your beliefs and enjoy your time and work hard at life Im sure your going to be successful.

As for the question, your emotions are going to show through out your body. So as long as you dont make it something losers do Im sure you dont have to talk and be loud all the time. Being dynamic is way better in my opinion, when you know when to talk and when to sit back and listen and not be the center of attention.

[jmac]

Don't worry about "alpha" and "amogging" if you wanna do something alone then fucking do it bro just make sure you at least seem like your happy and content with what your doing because you just dont want to be perceived as a miserably kid. Only be the center attention if you know how to handle it, some kids get that attention and say stupid shit infront of everyone and get shit on for the rest of the day.

[perceverance]

and if somebody has the center of attention and you want to take it, how do you?

[Adam]

alpha really doesn't care whos watching he just does his thing. i think that is the essence of the article you read

[jmac]

if you want to become the center of attention you can keep contributing to the conversation but then you could either start a new subject within the group or a kid in the group and eventually if its interesting others will join in. just one way but be cautious you dont try too hard, nobody likes an attention whore

[def454]

An alpha male isn't vying for the center of attention at all times, he is doing what he wants and is always COMFORTABLE in the center of attention. Never do things for others or their attention, do things for yourself and never apologize for it.

[perceverance]

ok well then people will start to think your a loser because you never have any attention from anyone. always by yourself doing what makes you comfortable. i dont think thats gonna help me be more social man

[jmac]

really man here is what you can do since it is hard to learn online, watch some of the kids who are the most popular and see what they do. they might not contribute to the conversation at all really sometimes rather than just sit there laughing and possibly adding a few jokes or tiny lines and sometimes you will see them talking with everyone listening. you keep over thinking it likes it is this big brick wall you cant climb. you can dude it really isnt this crazy idea, just be yourself and burst out of whatever shell your in if your shy and try to make new friends. once you have the confidence knowing your improving even if it isnt a lot then you will continue to grow and get better and achieve more goals. shit wont go down in one day, baby steps bro.

[Amb1valence]

Jun 7, 2011 18:37:14 GMT -5 @jmac said:

really man here is what you can do since it is hard to learn online, watch some of the kids who are the most popular and see what they do. they might not contribute to the conversation at all really sometimes rather than just sit there laughing and possibly adding a few jokes or tiny lines and sometimes you will see them talking with everyone listening. you keep over thinking it likes it is this big brick wall you cant climb. you can dude it really isnt this crazy idea, just be yourself and burst out of whatever shell your in if your shy and try to make new friends. once you have the confidence knowing your improving even if it isnt a lot then you will continue to grow and get better and achieve more goals. shit wont go down in one day, baby steps bro.

Jmac nailed it.

Personally I think one of the best ways to get more social or whatever you want to call it, is to sit at a lunch table with a bunch of funny/popular people. You can gain entry to that table by getting to know one of the quieter kids who happens to sit at that table, there's always a few. Back when i was a freshman I knew a lot of those quieter type kids, so recently I started sitting at the table they sit at, which is the table where a couple of higher-social-status guys sit too.

Those guys just happen to be a lil fucking crazy too lmao - they're the ones that always throw shit across the cafeteria and watch people's reactions. All you have to do is get in on the action - bring the food that serves as their ammo, and throw one every once in a while. Yesterday I sat down while they were bouncing an empty gatorade bottle back and forth like a pinball between everyone at the table lol, all I did was just swat it a few times and make loud obnoxious comments when it hit me or whatever. Lmao it's hilarious and all you have to do is chime in on people's conversations and shit like that and suddenly they'll think you're alright.

Plus throwing shit around at lunch puts you "in state", if you will, getting you in a fun mood, and that makes it easier to make little jokes when you get back to class and stuff. Real simple, don't think about it dude, just seek out where the fun's going on and ease your way in.

[canadiankid]

Jun 7, 2011 18:28:45 GMT -5 perceverance said:

ok well then people will start to think your a loser because you never have any attention from anyone. always by yourself doing what makes you comfortable. i dont think thats gonna help me be more social man

yeah you don't think that it will. your whining and telling people who get it that they are wrong without getting it yourself.

they never said they an alpha is never the center of attention or talkative, just that he doesn't try to be. he naturally is

[perceverance]

unfortunately, im not social naturally. thats probably the reason why im on this forum. so im asking for advice on how to take the center of attention and i get advice telling me to do what i feel like doing and not caring about the center of attention. when i do that however, i end up being a loner doing whatever by myself while some other kid has people surrounding him while he takes the show.

im not trying to sound like a selfish prick who thinks he knows it all. its just that the advice im recieving isnt being effective for me.