xploxstriker
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 3, 2011 18:43:55 GMT -5
Right now I'm in kind of a social dump. I'm not a loner, I have friends but a lot of them have turned out to be untrustworthy and one of my supposedly 'best' friends even had a B-day party and didn't even invite me. That was when i realized I needed to make new friends.
I've always been the shy kid and never really initiated conversation with others unless they approached me. Partly because I've had one clique throughout MS and the beginning of HS. Even though a lot of people tell me I'm attractive I've never actually had a girlfriend seeing that I used to be really timid around girls.
I'm hoping to break out of my shell and make friends with more people so I can hopefully join someone else's social group or clique.
Comments/advice would be appreciated.
P.S. I can't really game since I'm on vacation and most of my so called friends won't even approach girls.
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Post by jmac on Aug 3, 2011 21:45:30 GMT -5
Well when you talk to your friends do you say things like "hey let's game these girls", I understand some people like using the whole "pua terms" on the internet but in real-life they really don't sound good. But don't think of it as social groups and cliques, think of it as just meeting new people and then if you are cool and aren't shy about it then they will introduce you to their friends. A lot of people post things like this but really, all it is is going outside and talking to kids. Like go out with one of your friends or whoever and hit kids up to play basketball at a street park or something like that. During school you can easily make new friends if you just be more outgoing since you can talk to classmates. But no advice will magically get you more friends.
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DanZy
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Post by DanZy on Aug 3, 2011 22:32:43 GMT -5
P.S. I can't really game since I'm on vacation and most of my so called friends won't even approach girls. Worst. Excuse. Ever. You're on vacation and you can't really game!? Dude you gotta stop being a pussy and go out and make it happen for yourself. Stop being so dependent |
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xploxstriker
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 4, 2011 7:37:05 GMT -5
you're saying I should go out by myself and approach random girls at the mall/park? Won't that come off as needy and creepy?
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Post by amarok on Aug 4, 2011 9:58:15 GMT -5
Well if you say "Hey I thought you were kinda sorta cute in a way and I just wanted to tell you that you're cute and i was contemplating asking you to hang out with me" then yeah, it's gonna come off as needy and creepy. But if you stand up straight, speak comfortable and project your voice, you'll be fine. "Hey, I'm xploxstriker, what's up?" That's all you need.
If you feel uncomfortable doing it, that just means you need to do it more.
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Post by jmac on Aug 4, 2011 10:19:09 GMT -5
you're saying I should go out by myself and approach random girls at the mall/park? Won't that come off as needy and creepy? You already tried at the mall but the mall is a place girls go to shop and shit, not meet guys necessarily. Park could be different, but who really goes to the park.......... |
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xploxstriker
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 4, 2011 11:05:06 GMT -5
Ok in your opinion what would be a good place to approach girls rather then the mall?
Keep in mind I still have a month till school so school isnt an option.
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Post by Parkwhore on Aug 4, 2011 12:07:30 GMT -5
Ok in your opinion what would be a good place to approach girls rather then the mall? Keep in mind I still have a month till school so school isnt an option. Parties. |
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xploxstriker
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 4, 2011 13:52:10 GMT -5
Im not friends with many of the kids who throw parties. Besides parties are pretty rare where i live.
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Post by DanZy on Aug 4, 2011 14:31:50 GMT -5
^More excuses. You can meet girls ANYWHERE. Where there are people, there are parties-pretty much 100% guaranteed.
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Post by amarok on Aug 4, 2011 14:44:26 GMT -5
^More excuses. You can meet girls ANYWHERE. Where there are people, there are parties-pretty much 100% guaranteed. In this case it's pretty valid though, if you're not friends with the party kids then how is he supposed to go to said parties? I would cautiously suggest facebook. If I understand your situation right, you don't have too many friends, and of the few you have left they're not exactly "let's go out and do something!" people, let alone have a party. Facebook cold be a good start to meeting new people then. Search for either girls around your area or friends of some popular kids and chat them up. |
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Post by jmac on Aug 4, 2011 15:26:09 GMT -5
If you are friends with any kids like even just one in a popular group who parties then just be chill as fuck and they will introduce you. That's really all it is, it is a chain-reaction of you just constantly meeting new people.
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xploxstriker
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 4, 2011 15:26:30 GMT -5
^More excuses. You can meet girls ANYWHERE. Where there are people, there are parties-pretty much 100% guaranteed. In this case it's pretty valid though, if you're not friends with the party kids then how is he supposed to go to said parties? I would cautiously suggest facebook. If I understand your situation right, you don't have too many friends, and of the few you have left they're not exactly "let's go out and do something!" people, let alone have a party. Facebook cold be a good start to meeting new people then. Search for either girls around your area or friends of some popular kids and chat them up. I hate using facebook to communicate with people. I prefer face to face. Most girls would be creeped out by some random dude messaging them on facebook. |
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Post by amarok on Aug 4, 2011 15:39:31 GMT -5
Accept what you gotta do man haha. I prefer face to face too, but I've gamed hot girls easily on facebook, including my last two girlfriends. And I wouldn't suggest messaging. I don't like that either. But you use the chat function on there. Just be chill and talk to her like you're trying to make a new friend. Which you are. Unless you have another way to meet new people in the mean time, in which case you know what you've gotta do  |
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Post by xploxstriker on Aug 4, 2011 16:08:09 GMT -5
Aight man thanks for the advice, ill have to try it. But other then that do you think I should just wait till school starts and expand from there? Or could I go to the mall and game random girls?
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