Ask OHM Anything!

[OHM]

Summer is a great time for self-improvement and "figuring stuff out" when you're in high school.

I usually run a summer boot camp, but having recently graduated from college, I moved to my own place, got my own car and my own job and in between all that didn't have much free time.

With that settled and out of the way, I have more time open for doing the things I love i.e. helping doofs like you (and I once was) find their way!

Use this thread as a place to ask me about anything you have questions for. Or feel free to send me an email at [e-mail] if it's something you don't want to share.

[amazingelf]

Ok, I'll bite. What are your opinions/thoughts on marriage?

[derekk]

hooking up with girls who have, lets say, "been around"?

[OHM]

Aug 1, 2013 19:12:59 GMT -5 amazingelf said:

Ok, I'll bite. What are your opinions/thoughts on marriage?

I'm going to get married. I don't have any problems with it or anything like that, I'm not cut from the cloth of "perpetual bachelor", I'd like to settle down sooner or later and have my own family. I'd like a nice house, a pretty wife, and some cool-ass kids. No bitch-kids for me.

[OHM]

Aug 2, 2013 9:29:28 GMT -5 derekk said:

hooking up with girls who have, lets say, "been around"?

It's funny that we have that sort of "separation", like it could be gross for a girl to have "been around". But isn't that what almost every guy here is trying to do? To "get around"?

Go for it. Just use protection (like you should with any girl).

[straightcircle]

I'm studying nursing at a TAFE (a technical school for you non-aussies) but nursing studies affect my ability to game since it is really full on and leaves little room for a social life.

I've just turned 19 last month and I feel like I'm plateauing because of all that's happening.

So I guess I'm wondering whether you've been through a similar situation before and what you did and what's happened since then.

[OHM]

It's all about finding the balance. They say when in higher education you have three things: social life, sleep, academics, pick 2.

But it's all about finding balance. Treat your schoolwork as a 9-5 job. 8 hrs a day. Then at night you'll be free to do whatever the hell you want and you'll have weekends too. You'll get the hang of it as you get used to the workload.

[happycat]

How did you get into this whole pick up thing? I wanna know

[OHM]

Actually, I was in high school when "The Pickup Artist" aired on T.V. (it was VH1), it was all about that Mystery Method, canned line junk, but seeing it for the first time, I was just like, "wow, I need to learn that". So I joined the "Venusian Arts" forum (basically the Mystery Method forum) when I was a sophomore in high school.

Then Grape (the original founder of this forum) had made a post on the Mystery Method forums and his sig contained a link back here. I was in high school so I clicked it, found my way here, and the rest is history.

[derekk]

That's cool how you got here.

Anyways, I could use some serious advice. I'm having girl problems right now.

first off, I do want a girlfriend.
There is this one cute chick whose friend's hooked me up with her because she liked me. She is actually really cute, quite shy, nothing wrong with that at all, but the thing is I am more attracted to the girls that are kind of challenging I suppose. Nonetheless, we've been chatting up a lot during school, things have been going well, but I still really want to mess around with and meet a couple of other girls.

This is going to sound very un-manly, but I honestly don't want to be a heart breaker and run off with a different girl randomly, but at the same time it feels like the right thing to do. I don't want to settle for less.

so, yeah. any advice?


edit: I just realized it, the shy girl is desperate, and I want a challenge. that's why I am having second thoughts about her. I think I'll just straight up go for what I want.

edit2: I'm probably going to look back at this post in a while and wonder why I ever asked this

[hutta]

Do u ever feel like ur bored of meeting new people and want to settle for what i already have? College is starting in 5 days and i have that feeling. Maybe its me being nervous.

[OHM]

derekk

lol

To put it bluntly, if you're not in a committed relationship then there's no reason for you to be "held down" to anyone. But yeah, I guess you sort of already answered your question for me. Go for what you want and take it.

hutta

No.

That feeling is because you're feeling nervous, which is totally normal. But don't instill a limit just because you're in a new situation. College is your opportunity to really spread your wings and fully evolve into the man you want to be. As I've said millions of times before, the only limits in life are the ones that you set for yourself. Don't use your "current skill" as an excuse to not jump out of your comfort zone, use it as a reason to charge forward and get even better.

[joeybrown]

I made a post for this in specific help but I'll ask you here to why the hell not

Any advice for a kid switching high schools in grade 12

[OHM]

Well, sorry for such a delayed response but let me hit you with some truth.

High school does not matter at all with the exception of getting the grades necessary to get into the college you want to get into (assuming you want to go there) and that's the attitude you should be living by. You're here at this forum so you're trying to get better with women and reach that next stage of your own personal evolution. Most people around here would kill for the opportunity that you have. This is like a practice for the transition to college.

You're in a new place with new people who don't know you. You're armed to the teeth with social dynamics knowledge and you have an army of brethren behind you to support you and help you out with any issues you may have along the way. You have the opportunity to become the man you've always wanted to be, a fresh start.

Use that to your advantage and excel.

[denni]

had my second day of school, still haven't met and had a real discussion with any girls. any advice? Also how can I get invited to parties