Adam
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Post by Adam on May 6, 2011 19:17:27 GMT -5
I agree Contempt that it is important I'm just saying that low social proof is not like having an arm growing out of your stomach (no offence if anybody has this) which will stop you from getting girls by default.
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Post by Contempt on May 7, 2011 9:12:49 GMT -5
^ Thats a major conversation starter dude  Guaranteed if i had a arm growing out of my stomach i would get atleast 3x as much poon. |
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Adam
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Post by Adam on May 7, 2011 9:42:44 GMT -5
^lmao contempt you are the man extra arm only means extra kino
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Post by jmac on May 9, 2011 14:46:18 GMT -5
There is different ways to look at this, I will try and offer different advice the best way I can. One aspect I never see guys post about is that it is to have a girl who's a close friend and is hot. That will definitely help because dudes will see you walking around school with this dope girl and you will stand out more. Girls are worth more than just a lay, they can also give good insight about other things too so keep that in mind before ditching a girl because she doesn't wanna be more than friends. I'm not trying to sound cocky but in both schools I've gone too (I transferred to this new private school heading into this year, junior year) I am very well-known and popular. Sports isn't everything because I haven't played a sport for the high school since freshman year (I will probably play varsity basketball and football senior year though). But when I used to be shy freshman year I was always with the popular guys and girls but I never had that full respect because I mostly just hung out with them but was never the center of attention. Now that I am more confident and my personality has just improved tremendously even though I am not as nice, I usually am the one making the group laugh or have people coming up to me to talk with me. I always have a good looking girl walking to my locker to see me or walking to class with me, unless I'm with my friends who are mostly athletes. You never want to look like you are trying to hard or that your upset and moody (walking with your head hung or just staring off). That's why I am not usually alone because I will have people laughing and smiling and it makes me look much more inviting to any other guy or girl. Also, don't just focus on the top of the list popular kids. What I have done is established friendships with a lot of different kids so that most kids in the school know my name and I am well respected. You don't wanna be seen as one of those kids who is only interested in his friend circle because you might be perceived as more intimidating or cold. The statement about girls and social proof is 100% true. Ever notice that girls are always competing? They gossip about each other, start rumors, and just overall try to put the competition down so they can look the best. The only reason I got girls when I was a shyer and wimpier kid was because girls think I am hot and I was popular. But I would screw up because I had no confidence and I would tend to be clingy. But now I am friends with basically all of the hottest juniors and a good amount of the seniors & sophomores (mostly the good looking ones I met at parties or just from my friends knowing them). But I make sure that even though I get called a "dick" or a "douche-bag" by girls that most of the time they say it after laughing because I made some kind of witty comment, I always want people to see me as approachable instead of intimidating. I don't know how you look but make sure you look as best as possible because you don't want other guys or girls to be thinking "oh look at that kid, wearing the same thing as he did two days ago." or "ugh he needs to shave". Hygiene is huge especially if you make sure you smell good. I actually have like 5 colognes (picked out a few for Christmas then my parents decided to just buy more), and girls always tell me I smell good. Another thing is that going to the gym is extremely helpful. I went from the kid who was in decent shape and now I am strong and I'm trying to get a six-pack for summer (just a little stomach fat to lose) after going from 5'11" 178 lbs to 158 lbs (I cut the fat and gained muscle) but I have gone back up to 165 since I am building more muscle. Girls love to see a nice body or just know that they have a real man to protect them. And other guys will take you more seriously than being the small wimpy kid. The girl I was with yesterday when I picked her up was saying how she likes when a guy has muscles because it gives her something to hold on to when shes having sex and then looked at me and smiled (score? ). The book I could recommend for that is LL Cool J's 360 Platinum Fitness Plan (something like that), I never buy books but my grandmother got it for me when I got my gym membership and it has mental,physical, and diet/nutrition in it. It is extremely motivating and I actually don't use his workout but I use some of the exercises and I learned some good tips on lifting and nutrition. Hopefully I could help trying to use personal examples and give you an insight but if you have any other questions let me know. If you wanna give more personal examples or anything that you don't wanna post just send me a PM and I'll help next time I get on. |
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Post by Andrew on May 9, 2011 14:57:55 GMT -5
my suggestion Jmac is to start yourself up a journal. You definitely have a perspective that a lot of these guys should experience
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Post by taxman on May 9, 2011 16:01:52 GMT -5
Personally I don't want people to see me as approachable. They must be intimidated by my presence. Like you COULD approach but WOULD be scared to talk about bitches with obama even though he looks like a nice person.
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Post by Andrew on May 9, 2011 16:29:17 GMT -5
I don't like that outlook at all. I want to be as approachable as possible. Sure there are people I want to be intimidating to, but I don't want that to be my general approach! You can be sexy and mysterious and a real man and still have a presence of approachability!
Intimidating and not approachable =/= fun
And you want to be having and bringing as much fun as you possibly can.
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Post by jmac on May 9, 2011 17:04:28 GMT -5
my suggestion Jmac is to start yourself up a journal. You definitely have a perspective that a lot of these guys should experience Thanks bro, I just try to keep a natural flow with girls and everything basically but I'll take a look at a journal seeing as I have never read one. Just so I can get an outlook on how I should start if I decide too. Anything I can do to help others on this site I will try so I just might but I am heading to the gym so when I get home (usually stay for about 3 hrs) I might start one up. I also agree that it is important to maintain an approachable look. What if you don't get invited to parties cause the girl/guy thinks "Well I know he seems like a cool guy but he looks pissed, I wouldn't want him to start trouble". Plus some kids make it seem like they are Mr. Tough guy trying to get ladies and I have a field day with that because they make themselves look like tools and it's the complete opposite of what they were going for. Seeming fun and easily approachable won't only help you with girls but guys too. |
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Post by taxman on May 10, 2011 11:58:49 GMT -5
Yeah do you my man, my look is awesome I'm comfortable being straight up G. Don't assume things though bud that's we're beliefs come into the picture if you believe it holds you back then obviously don't do it if you don't get my mindset behind it then don't assume scenarios
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Post by jmac on May 10, 2011 14:06:19 GMT -5
I go with the flow, I don't assume anything I just want to look outgoing and fun to anyone around
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Post by taxman on May 10, 2011 15:33:51 GMT -5
That's nice.
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Guaranteed if i had a arm growing out of my stomach i would get atleast 3x as much poon. 
